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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: MissKairi on July 31, 2017, 03:57:59 PM

Title: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: MissKairi on July 31, 2017, 03:57:59 PM
By that I mean my facial looks.

I'm never gonna be a pretty girl without expensive surgery and I am finding it hard to deal with.

But is it all about the face? I know most people see the face more than anything else but surely a female body, mannerism, posture etc count too.

Am I wrong in thinking this?
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: davina61 on July 31, 2017, 04:06:08 PM
Well I have to hope the rest of me is enough as I can never afford any work so I don't let it matter, just have to work with what I and HRT have.
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: Dan on July 31, 2017, 05:21:20 PM
Somebody wise on this forum said, 'dominate your space'. I think this is good advice. It really means have confidence in yourself and roll it out when in a public space. People notice confidence far more than your face or what you wear. It is confidence that will make a lasting impression.
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: echo7 on July 31, 2017, 06:01:47 PM
Quote from: MissKairi on July 31, 2017, 03:57:59 PM
I'm never gonna be a pretty girl without expensive surgery and I am finding it hard to deal with.

Plenty of people will not be pretty, even after facial surgery.  More passable sure, but not necessarily more pretty.

More importantly, there is no sense in worrying about things you cannot control.  Instead, focus your time, energy, and effort on the things that you can control -- such as your voice!  A voice can make or break a potentially clockable situation.  And just about everyone can get a very passable voice without any surgery.  But it takes discipline and lots of practice practice practice.
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: MissKairi on July 31, 2017, 06:32:14 PM
Quote from: Dan on July 31, 2017, 05:21:20 PM
Somebody wise on this forum said, 'dominate your space'. I think this is good advice. It really means have confidence in yourself and roll it out when in a public space. People notice confidence far more than your face or what you wear. It is confidence that will make a lasting impression.

yeah I do that.
I mean I wear mascara to work with a hair clip.
course theyve been noticed but I dont care and since I dont care nobody bothers me about it.

Bit more difficult with full female clothes haha but its thats principle
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: Julia1996 on July 31, 2017, 06:46:57 PM
I think you're being overly critical of yourself. You have a pretty face and it will only get better the longer you're on hrt.
Julia
Title: Re: Am I focusing too much on my head?
Post by: Cheaney on July 31, 2017, 06:52:45 PM
Agree with Julia. You don't give yourself enough credit.


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