I have been on-off this site quite long time and I'm getting to accept that I might be transgender.
I haven't post much about my situation but more or less during last 10 years I've been buying more and more feminine clothes and I have to say that wearing them feels really nice.
I have been unemployed about 2,5 years so I've been using female clothes most of the time. When going out presenting more androgyne than a male: a lot of tunics + skinny jeans :D On November I got a job from my technical university as a research assistant and I have been very happy about it. During winter most of the time I presented myself quite androgyny way, as to be safe more male than female ::)
But then I realize on May that I don't have so much male clothes for summer as I've using skirts, dresses etc during last couple of summer. So what I did? I realized that I need to do something about it and decided to talk with HR manager about my gender issue. I know that our school is in theory against any kind of discrimination, so I decided to take my first steps to come out of closet.
I decided to wear knee length summer dress with very noticeable bras plus full makeup (eyes, lips, nails....). My heart was pumping like 2000000 beats / minute when I entered the HR manager office. First thing I noticed was her cute summer dress :p
I had prepared a very long talk about my gender issue, but then I just said :" I have a gender issue. I don't know if I'm a man or a woman."........ We talked about 30 minutes about my gender issue and how it might affect to my work. She was very positive about it and encouraged me to follow my path, what ever it is...
Soooo.... I know that I don't pass as a female, I've been trying to keep my outfit quite androgynous, but now much more feminine than before. I worked with 30+ students during this summer, and it seems that none of them didn't care if I had a skirt.
It's a funny thing to notice that most of the female co-workers, they just don't care what I wear. Only couple of male co-workers have had a second look when they have realized that I'm wearing a dress, but no comments so far....
The summer has been quite quiet as most of the teachers are on vacation, so my next bigger step will be coming in couple of weeks when our department will gather up to start the coming autumn term. I hope that it would be sunny warm day as I could wear my latest summer dress.
.. a longer post than I exected :D :D :D
I work at a university and I don't know if I'd come out where I work now. My goal is to get another position in another department and start over fresh where I'm not known. The group I'm in is all male save for our boss and a few are born again Christians. That said the school has a liberal policy vis a vis sexual orientation and gender identity. The problem is that departments have their own hr and there's central hr, so sometimes the local hr has some windage as it were. We'll see.
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Congratulations on taking the step you have. Normally you'll find the younger set are more accepting of gender issues that us old farts in our generation. Good luck in futher exploring of your gender issues I'm sure you'll be okay.
Hugs,
Laurie
Quote from: Dweia on July 31, 2017, 04:48:18 PM
I have been on-off this site quite long time and I'm getting to accept that I might be transgender.
I haven't post much about my situation but more or less during last 10 years I've been buying more and more feminine clothes and I have to say that wearing them feels really nice.
I have been unemployed about 2,5 years so I've been using female clothes most of the time. When going out presenting more androgyne than a male: a lot of tunics + skinny jeans :D On November I got a job from my technical university as a research assistant and I have been very happy about it. During winter most of the time I presented myself quite androgyny way, as to be safe more male than female ::)
But then I realize on May that I don't have so much male clothes for summer as I've using skirts, dresses etc during last couple of summer. So what I did? I realized that I need to do something about it and decided to talk with HR manager about my gender issue. I know that our school is in theory against any kind of discrimination, so I decided to take my first steps to come out of closet.
I decided to wear knee length summer dress with very noticeable bras plus full makeup (eyes, lips, nails....). My heart was pumping like 2000000 beats / minute when I entered the HR manager office. First thing I noticed was her cute summer dress [emoji14]
I had prepared a very long talk about my gender issue, but then I just said :" I have a gender issue. I don't know if I'm a man or a woman."........ We talked about 30 minutes about my gender issue and how it might affect to my work. She was very positive about it and encouraged me to follow my path, what ever it is...
Soooo.... I know that I don't pass as a female, I've been trying to keep my outfit quite androgynous, but now much more feminine than before. I worked with 30+ students during this summer, and it seems that none of them didn't care if I had a skirt.
It's a funny thing to notice that most of the female co-workers, they just don't care what I wear. Only couple of male co-workers have had a second look when they have realized that I'm wearing a dress, but no comments so far....
The summer has been quite quiet as most of the teachers are on vacation, so my next bigger step will be coming in couple of weeks when our department will gather up to start the coming autumn term. I hope that it would be sunny warm day as I could wear my latest summer dress.
.. a longer post than I exected :D :D :D
YOU CAN DOOOOO EEEEETTT! [emoji2]
I say if you want to go all the way, now that school's still out is the time to do it. It'll be more difficult once school starts. Your male co-workers already have seen you in dresses, so what's holding you back? [emoji4]
Ryuichi
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Hi Dweia,
Aim for your heart - where are you the happiest? Don't worry about two million heartbeats per minute, I bet that wasn't a clinical measurement. ;) If you feel the best presenting androgynous, go for it. If you feel even better presenting more female I suggest don't hold back.
I'm not aware of any board certification for passing male or female. No matter what you choose, someone out there will be annoyed by something. Why did he buy that brand of shoes, doesn't she know that purse is out of fashion in this city on Tuesdays, there are infinite ways to impossibly meet other peoples' expectations. And you are discovering a younger generation is more concerned with their own future success and may see your bold or unconventional choices as a positive. If a co-worker takes a second glance you might be outside their comfort zone. Or maybe they are trying to think of a pick-up line.
You own you.
Quote from: Kendra on August 01, 2017, 11:06:16 AM
...Or maybe they are trying to think of a pick-up line.
That is priceless! And possibly true too!
If you worry about what others will think, you'll never be happy. Just worry about your own happiness, let others worry about their happiness.
Ryuichi
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<=== my new dress is soooooooo nice :D
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on August 01, 2017, 11:32:52 AM
That is priceless! And possibly true too!
If you worry about what others will think, you'll never be happy. Just worry about your own happiness, let others worry about their happiness.
Ryuichi
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Agree... I've been too long trying to worry about what others think. So I've been taking those small steps trying to listen to my heart and follow it. It's obvious that I've have had those days when I felt to be fully in male mode and then those days when I'm confident enough like today to wear the outfit in my new avatar pic.
After work I was confident enough to go to shopping as well. It looked like most of the time young teenage girls noticed my dress and some were even whispering something, but I felt confident enough to continue shopping more female clothes :D