Hi all,
Just a quick one I live at home with my parents and well there exact words are we a re supportive but not accepting my mum is the worst she talked me out of seeing doctors at 15 as I was too young to make that decision to transition, says I will never be a girl and is generally is emotionally abusive but they will take me places and help me purchase things. Now my parents are trying to explain away my gender dysphoria as autistic obsessions as in primary school my parents were told I had autistic and dyspraxic tendencies, now the reason for this was obsessive behaviour, anger issues and inflated self worth. Now first if I am autistic or dyspraxic does that mean I am not trans and secondly could these symptoms be symptoms of gender dysphoria at a early stage.
many thanks,
Rebecca
You can have autism and still be trans just like you can have a mental illness and still be trans. Or cis and autistic or cis and mentally ill. The two don't cancel each other out. And dysphraxia/autistic tendencies doesn't mean you have definitely have dyspraxia or autism; just that you have some of the symptoms which mean you might have dyspraxia. A second opinion is definitely needed; although it sounds like your parents are making excuses as to why you think you may be trans. And I'd be wary as to whether the doctor also has the same mind set as your parents.
GD can cause you to feel angry; which is understandable considering the toll it takes on your mental health to not been seen as you are. How you act has no bearing on which gender you identify as or causing fake trans feelings.
I'd maybe write an email to your mum detailing how you felt in the past about your assigned gender; how you feel now and future plans. As well as including helpful links. That way your mum can see you've thought this through and are serious about it. And most importantly how being assigned the wrong gender is affecting you. Then you should see about going to a therapist who specialises in gender which may help the both of you.
Being trans is a biological condition similar to being intersex. You can't change it and it's not a mental illness.
Dysphoria comes in many ways and forms, and it's never the same for anyone. Anger can definitely be a sign, especially at a young age when you're not yet able to fully understand what's going on with you.
As Elis said, you can definitely have autism and be transgender - the two have no relation whatsoever. They can exist together and separately as much as any condition can, including learning disorders. They're very different things, but both very real. I myself have a mild form of dyscalculia, but it's not in any way related to me being trans. ;)
I hope you can somehow get your parents to understand everything better, and I definitely hope they'll be more accepting and supportive in the future. I wish you all the best!
Quote from: Elis on August 03, 2017, 01:33:13 PM
You can have autism and still be trans just like you can have a mental illness and still be trans. Or cis and autistic or cis and mentally ill. The two don't cancel each other out. And dysphraxia/autistic tendencies doesn't mean you have definitely have dyspraxia or autism; just that you have some of the symptoms which mean you might have dyspraxia. A second opinion is definitely needed; although it sounds like your parents are making excuses as to why you think you may be trans. And I'd be wary as to whether the doctor also has the same mind set as your parents.
GD can cause you to feel angry; which is understandable considering the toll it takes on your mental health to not been seen as you are. How you act has no bearing on which gender you identify as or causing fake trans feelings.
I'd maybe write an email to your mum detailing how you felt in the past about your assigned gender; how you feel now and future plans. As well as including helpful links. That way your mum can see you've thought this through and are serious about it. And most importantly how being assigned the wrong gender is affecting you. Then you should see about going to a therapist who specialises in gender which may help the both of you.
Being trans is a biological condition similar to being intersex. You can't change it and it's not a mental illness.
I have had three different opinions one said maybe and two said no just tied to my ptsd and depression and anxiety, from other things, my younger self was never diagnosed and I believe it was not autism as I got older these symptoms went or lessened, to the point I was removed from my statement in year 5, obsessiveness stayed but was only on jobs which is normal talking to others as you are trying to find yourself. You does know my plan and everything and how serious I am but still says that doctors give me my gender at birth and no matter how much I explain she will not change her view and makes sure I know that, my dad does but to a lesser extent. Also the maybe is when my mum explained it and lied about certain stuff about me and cried and made it about her. And thanks for the kind words Oblivion. Also sorry for the rant.