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I seem to be on the slow path which Is All right for me

I decided to transition back in 2011 after I got divorced. Now it's 2017, and I haven't gotten anywhere! It was one bad situation after another (out of work, got evicted, was living in a shelter for a year...)

But things are getting better. And now a new best friend is going to loan me the funds I need for FFS. So I'm planning on taking the fast path now to make up for lost time. I'll be 60 in three months, so I'd like to have some time to be cute before I'm too old. lol.


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Nine years and counting so far. I suspect it will be 10 or 11 at a minimum before I finish.

I had to go with "Other" as in Glacial.  8 years in the prelim stages. No idea if/when full social.

One Day at a Time

I've only got 20-30 years left in this world if I am lucky.  No more wasting time; I'm going as fast as I can.

Glacially slow. 2 years and all I've done is grow my hair out, clean shaven every day and a I dress at Home occasionally. The big deal will be coming out to my kids so I can be more me. I've already written a coming out letter, so it's just a matter of time.


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for me a fast transition. I kind of feel out of the closet and just went with it as fast as I could.

I am in Kathy's boat but probably with fewer years to go so full speed ahead.

I'm not sure if mine was a slow or a fast transition. When I decided to officialy  start my transition I began with hormones. That was in April. At that year's new year dinner I came out to my whole family and started living full time as a woman. That would be 9 months, but I started doing things long before hormons. I gre longer hair, I shaved, plucked my eyebrows, started wearing earrings...

If you ask me which one is better, I say a fast one. I wish I had listened to my mind earlier when I was in primary school and I regret loosing all these years, I don't want to lose more.
But going for a fast transition doesn't mean pushing yourself to doing things you don't like or feel you're not ready to do. If you feel you want and can do something, do it, don't wait. If you're not sure, wait until you are, or try something similar as a test.

 I don't know what is fast and what is slow.
People keep telling me I've done a lot in a short time so I went with fast.

Heck if I know.

Hugs,
    Laurie

Definitely fast.

That doesn't mean I wasn't methodical.  I wasn't even on hormones for the first six months, but I was getting regular therapy and electrolysis during that time, and honing my voice -- in fact, I wasn't even going to go through with transition without finding my voice.  But once I did, it was a sprint, and by the 2-year mark I'd had FFS, SRS, BAS, the whole alphabet soup, and then I dove straight into stealth living.

It's weird saying that 2 years is "fast".

I'm at exactly one year from when I first came out to my son. 10 months of therapy, 5 on HRT, and I'm looking into an orchiectomy. I'll probably come out at work tomorrow to everyone I work with (HR and my manager already know). I feel like it's been too slow.  But after tomorrow I'll finally be able to live full time including at work!

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Welllll...

Out in March 2016,
Start electrolysis in May 2016
Start HRT in June 2016
Asked to leave October 1, 2016
Moved out and went full time well before I was 'ready' October 22, 2016
FFS surgeon meeting in May 2017
GCS surgeon meeting July 26, 2017
GCS scheduled for October 20, 2017

I started with the intent of going slow, but the brakes fell off last October.

well i started wanting the fasted route possible and it drove me mad,so i ran away,talked to my psyc doc and he said take it slow,find out who u are.so for me its slow and steady.actually this way i seem to have come further than when i was wanting it all tomorrow

Mine was relativity fast, I started hormones within a year of therapy and then  my was vagina installed 3 years after starting hormones.

At this point i'm standing at the foot of K2 trying to work out the best rout up but keep catching views of Everest. So I guess slow.

Peace and love and all that good stuff,

Sadie

Guess I'm considered on the fast track. I came out June 19th and started HRT on July 26th. I would love to go faster but I'm trying to go slow for my wife's sake.

Hi, Well I have been on HRT for 7 months so far, my plan is to have everything done by my 3 year point finger crossed. I am willing to sell my house and what ever I need to. In order to get the surgeries I want. So I dont know if that is fast or slow I hope I can do it faster but have given myself an extra couple months. I plan on full time very soon :)

Mostly Im slow. because of the money
involved

I have always been on low dose HRT but my body's reaction has been fast, especially the breasts. I have no money for any surgeries so I guess it will always be whatever pace the estrogen demands. Weirdly the changes have all been "from the neck down." No changes that I can see in the face, even though several friends keep telling me I have lost weight, especially in the face. I'm not sure what that means. I am just letting HRT do its thing. So far, 15 months.

I think fast as pushing on even though the Aunty NHS is slow as ,3 1/2years till I retire and want to be sorted by then.

Gosh, I guess it's all relative, isn't it?  To me, anything along the lines of two years or less from start to finish is fast. I have three friends who fit that criterion.  I thought I was the slow one.

I decided to explore the possibility of transitioning in January 2014. I had my first visit with a gender therapist the next month, I think.  I started laser/electrolysis in July of 2014, and HRT in July of 2015. I started presenting part-time in public around April of 2016, went full-time a few months after that. I had FFS last September, and I am having SRS this month. If one arbitrarily considers SRS the "finish line", then it took me 3 1/2 years, and I still will get hair transplants, and probably a BA and a butt lift by next summer.  I still have to finish my divorce as well.  I'm not sure I could have done things any faster than I did.   I voted "other".  Transition is hell, and I can't imagine not wanting it done as quickly as possible, but when you are married with children and have a career, it's tough to balance needs versus wants.

With kindness,

Terri

already 5 years out of closet. been on hrt 3 years ago for 8 months stopped hrt due to medical reasons. about 8 months ago i started again and once again taking my transition slow realy slow due to other medical reasons where i just dont want to rush it

I would say other as I started my transition 10 years ago with HRT and electrolysis. By the second year I was happy with my results and presenting and passing full time. Year 4 I had enough money saved for my SRS but was putting it off in hopes my insurance would start including it, never happened. Year 8 I got a hair transplant to give myself a feminine hairline, and this past May had my SRS. I suppose there will be more things I may want in the future as I get older such as face lift, fillers etc... I think when you find happiness with yourself and where you are in life is when you reached your goal. For me it was at my second year.

I'm trying to go as fast as I can and feel comfortable with. I started therapy on March this year, then T blockers in June, then estrogen in July. I'm letting my hair grow and getting laser. My goal is to be fully out living full time by March 2018.

Quote from: Shy on August 05, 2017, 10:36:42 AM
At this point i'm standing at the foot of K2 trying to work out the best rout up but keep catching views of Everest. 
Sadie

WOW!...you go, Woman!

Quote from: Shy on August 05, 2017, 10:36:42 AM
At this point i'm standing at the foot of K2 trying to work out the best rout up but keep catching views of Everest. So I guess slow.

Peace and love and all that good stuff,

Sadie

My dream. Maybe someday.

It's been over 4 years since I came out to myself, so I definitely must say slow, though it feels kind of good to know others are taking their time.

I think I am starting to move a bit quicker now. I was unsure if I wanted to transition for quite awhile, now I can't really imagine not transitioning. It is only just about the only thing I thought about for the last four years. I don't want to spend any more time trying to decide this. I've been publicly presenting partially feminine pretty much every day for over a year, and I'm ready for it not to be partially anymore.

I know especially when we are told we will have to wait so long for certain things when we start generally. I actually could have been done in less than 2 years if I had taken the people up at the insurance with much sooner appointment to see the surgeon. I probably could have been  done in just barely less than 2 years. Instead, I was a few months behind that point due to the long waiting list with the surgeon. The few months difference in when I let her schedule the consult for made a bit of difference in when the surgeon was available. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: Sophia Sage on August 04, 2017, 09:52:06 PM
It's weird saying that 2 years is "fast".

Not really sure if I'm transitioning but very slow would probably describe it.   I've been on low dose E for a year now and have had some body changes.  At this rate, I might fully transition by the time I'm 90 ;)

Slow can be extremely frustrating, but I probably appreciate every little change that much more.

Paige :)

Things seem to be moving faster than I expected.

Because I love my wife so much. I am going super slow. Been a year on HRT and I just hide my boobs. Was waiting on electrolysis. Because some parts of my body are losing the hair on their own. My hairy back is gone and my chest barely grows now. Slowly and surely, so my wife can get used to each thing first.



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