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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: SailorMars1994 on August 08, 2017, 07:13:22 PM

Title: ''He'' moved out
Post by: SailorMars1994 on August 08, 2017, 07:13:22 PM
Not that this is a suprise to anyone but today i finally doanted all my ''male'' clothing to Value Village. He is gone. I hadnt worn a single of ''his'' items since March 10th, consequently I have been on the uptik basically around that time. I had all that male clothing siting in backs in my closet. Untouched andto be honest largley forgotten about until I had to do some cleaning for our move to Manitoba. Once I saw them, I knew they had to go. My mom agreed. She told me to stop holding onto un-nessisary things or as she likes to put it, stop having a George Castanza wallet. Though i wasn not purposefully holding onto them , as I said i largley forgot all about them I agreed with her, I havent worn that stuff in half a year, i dont ever see myself wearing it ever again and just by touching those clothes I started to feel some dysphoira again. Not just because it was male things, but by the feelings and memories i had while i touched them. I loaded them all in large garbage bags and brought them to VV.

There, i feel better. Another bit of ''him'' has left me permantley and i feel cleaner already just by knowing htye are gone already. Now all I got to do in truth, is get ready for GRS , but there ''he'' is gone physically :)
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Ryuichi13 on August 08, 2017, 07:20:03 PM
WOW!  Congrats! 

I know what you mean.  I'm currently in the process of getting rid of all of "her" clothes and I have donated something like 90% to the local Pride Center.  Some I'm actually holding on to because I'm pretty sure I can sell them on ebay. [emoji4] 

I'm going to use the money to help pay for what items I'll be needing for my top surgery...or towards a car since I don't have one currently.

Again, congrats on moving "him" out!

Ryuichi

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Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: SailorMars1994 on August 08, 2017, 07:23:42 PM
Thank you :)!!! and good on you I wish you all the best on your own journey!!

I hope those clothes will find their way to a real man, cis or trans. Who knows maybe they will find their way to a coming out FtM and help him o his our journey. All I know is this girl doesnt need em, and never will :)!!
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: jentay1367 on August 08, 2017, 08:04:23 PM
Plus! You made some guy somewhere very happy. He'll enjoy the clothes and it's really, really good for your karma, too.
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: HoneyStrums on August 08, 2017, 08:36:45 PM
I Spent years purging my fem clothes and re buying them.

I Purged the man clothes once, partly so ppl stopped requesting i wear them.
Its was second best thing i ever did for myself
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: SailorMars1994 on August 08, 2017, 08:48:35 PM
Quote from: HoneyStrums on August 08, 2017, 08:36:45 PM
I Spent years purging my fem clothes and re buying them.

I Purged the man clothes once, partly so ppl stopped requesting i wear them.
Its was second best thing i ever did for myself

Yeesh. I am sorry you had a rough go girly :(. To be honest this is I suppose my first and only real purge. Even when i was doubtful and shameful and tried to ''male'' again I never purged my female clothing. I just couldnt. I may have hid it for a few hours.. only to bring them back out. Last September 12th i had major meltdown revloving gender. Cut my hair (by myself) , the same hair i was growing for 2 years and not too long after broke down so badly it wasnt even funny. That hair I cut i didnt get rid of until yestarday. It was in a ziplock bag thingy, sitting idol in my closet for the past 11 months or so.I was in near shellshock that I had done such a thing. I held that bag of hair for like a week or something and sobbed. I cant recall what I did on the particular Monday. I am unsure if i started to sip on the Crown Royal or if i just had a bizarre episode that made me do something I would not have normally done. I dont think I could have ever purged my girl clothes, had I ever done so I would have been a wreck knowing that she would have slipped away. As for ''him'' and losing ''his'' stuff, not a single tear shed. Infact, i compeltey forgot about it right around the time I left Value Village and only remembered it a few hours later. I have come a long way, and so have you HoneyStrums <3... girls like us deserve to find happiness <3

And thanks for that input Jentay <3
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Laurie on August 08, 2017, 08:50:32 PM
Hi Ashley,

   Does this qualify as a "you know you're transitiong when...." moments? It is sure one in my book. Congrats  young lady.
   I've begun slowly boxing up my own His" clothes to make room for the ones I prefer. It feels good too.

  Hugs,
    Laurie
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: SailorMars1994 on August 08, 2017, 09:07:23 PM
Quote from: Laurie on August 08, 2017, 08:50:32 PM
Hi Ashley,

   Does this qualify as a "you know you're transitiong when...." moments? It is sure one in my book. Congrats  young lady.
   I've begun slowly boxing up my own His" clothes to make room for the ones I prefer. It feels good too.

  Hugs,
    Laurie

I suppose you are right! It is still nice to know that clothing is gone forever :), and hopefull will be worn and cheerished by someone else who deserves and really wants those clothes :)

My transition has been wonky with twists and turns. But recently, in the past few months something has changed and i feel more connected with womanhood then ever. Consequently, havent felt this calm either in my whole life!
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Maddie86 on August 08, 2017, 09:16:19 PM
aw, this is great, congrats!!
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Laurie K on August 08, 2017, 10:50:26 PM
It's a great feeling..... so glad for you
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: stephaniec on August 08, 2017, 11:23:43 PM
congrats
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Kendra on August 09, 2017, 12:03:38 AM
YES!!!  Good move. 
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: LizK on August 09, 2017, 02:52:01 AM
don't let the door hit you in the backside on the way out(to the male clothes)...sounds appropriate for the occasion ;D
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: SailorMars1994 on August 09, 2017, 07:55:49 AM
Quote from: ElizabethK on August 09, 2017, 02:52:01 AM
don't let the door hit you in the backside on the way out(to the male clothes)...sounds appropriate for the occasion ;D

Packed ''his'' bags and out that door  :D
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: RobynTx on August 09, 2017, 09:44:47 AM
Be sure to change the locks so he doesn't come back.
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Mariah on August 09, 2017, 10:01:38 AM
Congrats, I cleaned my closet ages ago. Now my husband's clothing shares my closet. Hugs
Mariah
Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Rayna on August 13, 2017, 12:19:09 AM
Congratulations, Ashley! Another (big) step forward. I hope your move goes well.

Randy

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Title: Re: ''He'' moved out
Post by: Rachel on August 13, 2017, 09:45:56 AM
Congratulations, well done.

I need to take the bags of clothing to a thrift store. They are bagged up and pretty much ready to go. I just need to take the time and do it. They are out of site and mind.