Ok, so I am 20 and I am male, I think. I have come here because the last 3 or 4 years I have started question if I might be in the wrong gender. I guess it started out of curiosity, but it's always been in the back of my mind since. I asked my mum about my childhood and she said a 'normal' lad childhood so non/little interest in girls stuff. However, at school I always hanged about with guys, but there was a good amount of time I wished I was hanging with the girls & to be one, and talk about the things they're talking about. During high school I did a very good jobs of hiding my emotions and feelings and continued to do what I did previously. Has a guy I could see my self in a relationship with a women, but I feel like I would prefer to be a women in a relationship with a women. I play a lot of video games, but when there a chose to be male of female I always want to pick female, I'm not sure why, but at the same time I kind of know why. I just get question every time I pick female so I just pick male. The more I think about what I would be like as a women the more I desire it.
Thank you for reading this, sorry if it seems to go on. ANY help or advice would be appreciated.
Hi and welcome [emoji5]. I had a lot of confusion about who or what I was growing up. Working with an experienced therapist has over time helped me to answer my questions. You may be somewhere on the Trans* spectrum, but it's wide and varied. Working with a specialist can help you explore some thoughts and see if any of them sit right for you.
There's a fantastic bunch of new and more seasoned people here for you. X
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Hi. Another welcome to the site.
You have posted some brave questions. Thanks for sharing and being honest with us and yourself. I think meganjames gave you some good thoughts.
There is a wide spectrum of trans people. One challenge is to find out who you really are and only you can do that. Usually a therapist(gender therapist if you can find one) is the person who can guide you through that. They cannot tell you one way or another but you can.
It took me 50 years to make the appointment. However, it all makes sense to me now. The confusion and discomfort. I think that would be the first best bet. There are a million steps you can take from there. Every person's journey is unique. You might try growing your hair out, dressing alone or underdressing to see how it makes you feel. Some male to female trans folk start electrolysis or laser to remove facial hair right away.
I can't tell you the path to take but there are some options. I would however, highly suggest getting a therapist.
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Welcome to Susan's Place. A gender therapist is a good place to start. If you are still in school, it's possible that your school offers consoling. As it may be a while before you can visit a gender therapist, I have a couple of links for you to look at. The first is our WIKI (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transgender) where you will learn more about what transgender is. The second links "the transition channel" (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfO3B57E6NpIn-KsVjvmLLw) where a gender therapist will help you explore your feelings. Feel free to ask questions and it will help us understand how we can help you.
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