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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: stephaniec on August 12, 2017, 11:48:41 PM

Poll
Question: Have you been called an it
Option 1: sadly yes votes: 6
Option 2: thankfully no votes: 18
Option 3: other votes: 5
Title: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: stephaniec on August 12, 2017, 11:48:41 PM
there was a news article about a trans contestant on a TV show being called that by other constestants
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: jfong on August 13, 2017, 12:08:49 AM
Quote from: stephaniec on August 12, 2017, 11:48:41 PM
there was a news article about a trans contestant on a TV show being called that by other constestants
I did earlier in my transition but I set them straight.

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Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: stephaniec on August 13, 2017, 12:16:09 AM
http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2017/08/10/big-brother-contestants-in-hot-water-for-referring-to-trans-contestant-as-it/

Pink News/By Joseph Patrick McCormick.     08/10/2017
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Laurie on August 13, 2017, 12:28:37 AM


No I haven't. I'm too new at this but there's still plenty of time. I'm sure it will happen eventually and when it does I'll just consider the source and chalk it up to extreme ignorance.

  Laurie
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Cindy on August 13, 2017, 02:59:26 AM
No, but I had a cousin that was.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Laurie on August 13, 2017, 03:11:44 AM
Quote from: Cindy on August 13, 2017, 02:59:26 AM
No, but I had a cousin that was.

  I remember you with longer hair Grandmama.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Devlyn on August 13, 2017, 05:14:58 AM
I can see this topic is going to Fester.

Hugs, Devlyn
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Cindy on August 13, 2017, 05:20:52 AM
I'm Adammant that not a Thing will go wrong until Wednesday unless people want to get Pugsleyatious about itt.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: LizK on August 13, 2017, 05:53:01 AM
I just think you are all being creepy, I don't believe a Thing
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: KathyLauren on August 13, 2017, 07:53:46 AM
Whatever you girls are smoking, pass it around!   :o

To answer the question, I am tempted to answer "Not by any human."  >:-)  But, the true answer is that I have been lucky so far.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Julia1996 on August 13, 2017, 08:26:51 AM
Yes. I was very androgynous before I transitioned.  People often had trouble telling what sex I actually was. I got called "it" a lot at school. If someone called me that now it would upset me but at the time it didn't bother me at all. To me being called "it" was still better than people referring to me as a male.

That news article is sad. It just shows how much total ignorance is out there.
Julia
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: RobynTx on August 13, 2017, 09:50:07 AM
Not yet but if I do I'll ask them if they want a balloon.

When they look at me weird, or weirder, I'll just say "We all float down here."
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Harley Quinn on August 13, 2017, 10:01:19 AM
Yes, among other things. You really can't fix stupid... It is what it is. The rants of an ill informed person. It's never worth the trouble in a public setting.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: FinallyMichelle on August 13, 2017, 10:54:28 AM
Yes. In the beginning I was called many things including "it". For me it was the worst of them all.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: JessicaSondelli on August 13, 2017, 11:26:11 AM
Yes, one of my old guy friends called me that a few times... I didn't tell him but I told his wife. I'm sure he didn't know how wrong this was...


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Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: HoneyStrums on August 13, 2017, 11:58:51 AM
Pugsleyatious ?

Please elaborate so i can avoid it lol.

And yes I was.

It was in response to my requesting not to be called a man. "What should I call you then it?"
I answered with I though that would be obvious.

Gave them a list of things to google, and said I might consider talking to them once they graduate.

Funny thing is, now they automatically call me she, they hate that they do, but its nice to see somebody experiencing the emotional distress being misunderstand causes me. Their discomfort at automatically correctly gendering me, is enough to forgive them for instantly purposefully slipping in the wrong one
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on August 13, 2017, 12:15:11 PM
I was by my dad when I got my ears pierced when i was 14. I have not spoken to him since I was 16 and am happy about that.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: davina61 on August 13, 2017, 02:36:31 PM
By my wife but that was years ago before I came out!!!!!!
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: HappyMoni on August 13, 2017, 02:51:50 PM
No but I already know how I would respond. "I'd rather be an 'it' than someone low enough to call another person an 'it'."

Moni

I feel so unprepared, would  a Munster reference do?
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: zirconia on August 13, 2017, 10:16:53 PM
When very young, all the time. In one of the languages of my childhood all infants and young children are called "it" and everyone above a certain age is referred to as "he." There was no pronoun equivalent to the English "she."
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: sherie157 on August 14, 2017, 10:54:01 PM
I've never been called "it". I think it would hurt a lot.

I remember the first time someone referred to me as "she", and it was pure music to my ears.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: stephaniec on August 14, 2017, 11:18:00 PM
I still get like that
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Wild Flower on August 15, 2017, 04:10:50 AM
If it happened to me, I wouldn't care. I don't care what others say about me, they don't pay my bills.

Aren't robots called 'it' too? It is an objectification word, to make someone feel subhuman. Don't give them that satisfaction that it actually matters what they say. I would say, "Okay, what else do you want to say?"

Words are meaningless especially sentences. I don't even care what pronoun name he or she.... if you benefit me in my life then you can stick around, if you don't I won't give much attention to them.

I really lost the quality of actually caring what people say....
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Toni on August 15, 2017, 10:33:21 AM
Unfortunately, a keynote speaker giving an address at an opening convocation for teachers and staff for the new school year made a comment about not worrying about referring to students as "he", "she" or "it".   This was in Texas and although I'm sure this was supposed to be a bit of humor it shows that most people just don't get it.  The PC regarding us that we see in the government is mostly superficial and driven by dictates rather than personal understanding and if it were not for laws (an approach I hate) we'd all be in deep trouble.  I can laugh at myself and even at the craziness of this situation with my friends who know me and are laughing with me, but I see more everyday about people giving lip service but really haven't a clue.  I can't say I see things improving with the current administration, and I'm really thinking about leaving Texas.  Not everyone is myopic here, but far too many to make me feel safe except in certain areas.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Devlyn on August 15, 2017, 10:41:51 AM
I'm sure we all have, even if not to our faces.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: RobynTx on August 15, 2017, 12:21:56 PM
Quote from: Toni on August 15, 2017, 10:33:21 AM
Unfortunately, a keynote speaker giving an address at an opening convocation for teachers and staff for the new school year made a comment about not worrying about referring to students as "he", "she" or "it".   This was in Texas and although I'm sure this was supposed to be a bit of humor it shows that most people just don't get it.  The PC regarding us that we see in the government is mostly superficial and driven by dictates rather than personal understanding and if it were not for laws (an approach I hate) we'd all be in deep trouble.  I can laugh at myself and even at the craziness of this situation with my friends who know me and are laughing with me, but I see more everyday about people giving lip service but really haven't a clue.  I can't say I see things improving with the current administration, and I'm really thinking about leaving Texas.  Not everyone is myopic here, but far too many to make me feel safe except in certain areas.

Yeah Texas just isn't the best state for Transgender but I still don't see me leaving for a long time.
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Paige on August 15, 2017, 12:34:10 PM
Quote from: Wild Flower on August 15, 2017, 04:10:50 AM
If it happened to me, I wouldn't care. I don't care what others say about me, they don't pay my bills.

Aren't robots called 'it' too? It is an objectification word, to make someone feel subhuman. Don't give them that satisfaction that it actually matters what they say. I would say, "Okay, what else do you want to say?"

Words are meaningless especially sentences. I don't even care what pronoun name he or she.... if you benefit me in my life then you can stick around, if you don't I won't give much attention to them.

I really lost the quality of actually caring what people say....

Hi Wild Flower,

I so wish I was like you and not care what people think of me.  I wonder if there's any way to train yourself not to care about other peoples opinions.

Thanks,
Paige :)
Title: Re: Have you ever been called an it
Post by: Christy S on August 15, 2017, 03:04:32 PM
Being open and out as an online gamer and social media presence I have been called plenty of things by lower less credible "people", "it" being one of the more toned down versions.