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Title: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 13, 2017, 01:59:22 AM
So as a preface, I'm in my 30's, been on hrt for a bit over 2 years and had ffs not too long ago.  (sorry, this is long)

The procedures I had done were:

Rhinoplasty
Type III remodeling
Orbital rim contouring
Lift lift
Tracheal shave
Jaw contouring
Chin implant (basically took the bone from my jaw and reshaped it before placing on my chin)

I stayed in Belgrano in Buenos Aires for about a month and just want to say that I felt incredibly safe and relaxed there.  My daughter and I walked to do our grocery shopping, eat dinner, or do errands and even when we took walks in the evening, she mentioned how it felt safer there than it did in the US.  After about a week and a half after the surgery, my daughter and I used Uber and pretty much went everywhere to sight see.

One thing I recommend is that you should take someone with you at least for the first week.  My ex came with me and she pretty much took care of me for the first week.  Taking daily pictures, making sure I took my medication on time, making sure that I had enough soft foods and she even helped me bath the first time I was able to do so after the surgery.  Seriously, I don't think I could have done all that by myself.

Anyway,


I just want to say that I am very happy with the results.  My surgeon was recommended to me by my GP doctor and my therapist who both mentioned that they have a clients who went to him with beautiful results.  (My GP called him an artist with ffs) and I have met a few women who went to him.  I initially looked into 3 different surgeons but went with him after research and consults.  (Please please make sure you really do your research and talk to people who went to the surgeons if possible before deciding)

Anyway, sorry for making this so long.  If anyone wants pictures, I might post the lower portion of my face and maybe the forehead since I prefer not to post full photos for privacy sake.




Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on August 13, 2017, 02:41:00 AM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 13, 2017, 01:59:22 AM
So as a preface, I'm in my 30's, been on hrt for a bit over 2 years and had ffs not too long ago.  (sorry, this is long)

The procedures I had done were:

Rhinoplasty
Type III remodeling
Orbital rim contouring
Lift lift
Tracheal shave
Jaw contouring
Chin implant (basically took the bone from my jaw and reshaped it before placing on my chin)

Hallo You! [emoji4]

Thanks for sharing your experience! I am planning on having FFS sometime around February or March 2018 with Dr. Bart Van De Ven and Joel Defrancq, in Antwerp, Belgium, and will be undergoing basically the same procedures as you, with some differences:

[emoji830]forehead recontouring type 3 with hairline recontouring and browlift (incl. orbital rim shaving)
[emoji830]rhinoplasty
[emoji830]lip lift
[emoji830]jaw angle reduction and chin recontouring
[emoji830]lower jaw setback (although this will probably be a separate procedure)
[emoji830]cheeks and nasolabial lipofilling

I plan on having a part of my body contour surgery, with Dr. Maarten Doornaert, during the same hospital stay (normally two days later), which will for sure include breast augmentation and possibly tummy tuck +/- hip augmentation (through lipofilling).
It's obviously a fairly aggressive surgery and I'm anticipating lots of swelling and probably pain, although my pain threshold is relatively high. It's always interesting to read random accounts of people who have gone through the same, so your account was certainly not in vain!

Thank you for your story!

Hugs, Sarah

Sent from my SM-T810 using Tapatalk
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 13, 2017, 11:43:14 AM
Thanks Sarah,

I wish you the best with your surgery and recovery!  One thing I really recommend is that you take someone with you if you can.  The initial days of recovery are incredibly rough.

I personally didn't experience much pain but not being able to breath through your nose, not being able to move your mouth to eat or drink, and swelling of the face can make recovery pretty unpleasant. 

Anyway, take care and hope that you are as happy with the results as I am!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Rachel on August 14, 2017, 06:33:25 PM
Hi, May I ask who the doctor is and the costs for the procedures? Thank you.
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 14, 2017, 08:14:24 PM
Quote from: Rachel on August 14, 2017, 06:33:25 PM
Hi, May I ask who the doctor is and the costs for the procedures? Thank you.

Sure, I went with Dr. Di Maggio.  The total cost of all the procedures came out to $27,500.00 USD.  The thing is, I don't think many women outside of his former patients realize what a true artist he really is when it comes to ffs.  I'm glad I went with him although he can be quite the diva.

The total cost breakdown:





Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Rachel on August 14, 2017, 08:18:11 PM
Thank you.
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Kendra on August 15, 2017, 12:30:30 AM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 13, 2017, 01:59:22 AM
> So as a preface
You started with a great pun!

But seriously, thank you for this amount of detail.  This type of information helps others with important decisions.  I have bookmarked and will read again as I am narrowing down my FFS options. 
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 15, 2017, 04:44:46 PM
Quote from: Kendra on August 15, 2017, 12:30:30 AM
You started with a great pun!

But seriously, thank you for this amount of detail.  This type of information helps others with important decisions.  I have bookmarked and will read again as I am narrowing down my FFS options. 

lol, didn't even realize that.  Anyway, wish you the best in your decision and I hope you are as happy as I am when you get ffs!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: clawdeenwolf on August 15, 2017, 07:01:14 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 14, 2017, 08:14:24 PM
Sure, I went with Dr. Di Maggio.  The total cost of all the procedures came out to $27,500.00 USD.  The thing is, I don't think many women outside of his former patients realize what a true artist he really is when it comes to ffs.  I'm glad I went with him although he can be quite the diva.

The total cost breakdown:

  • Air fare: $1800.00 * 3 = $5400.00

  • Month rental: $1450.00

  • Monthly spending: $1900.00

  • Procedures: $27,500.00

  • Total cost: $36,250.00 (approximated value)


What!! $27,500??? He quoted me last year 18K for everything. Wow i guess he has since gone up in price?
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 16, 2017, 01:05:47 PM
Quote from: clawdeenwolf on August 15, 2017, 07:01:14 PM
What!! $27,500??? He quoted me last year 18K for everything. Wow i guess he has since gone up in price?

He initially quoted me at $19,500.00 but with the chin implant, it came out to 21,500.  During our face to face consultation, he told me that after jaw and chin work, he recommended that I get a mid face lift due to the change in my jaw structure a week after the initial surgery but it would cost more since I would have to go back to the hospital and for another procedure.

I told him I wasn't interested and it was too expensive so he asked me if I wanted to get a facelift along with the ffs which he would charge an extra $6000.00.  He mentioned that it might not be possible based on the operation but if I wanted it, he can attempt it if there arent any complications.  I told him that if they could do it, do it since I didn't want to go through more than one procedure.  Well, they were able to do it.

So:

Initial quote: $19,500.00
Chin implant: $2000.00
Mid-facelift: $6000.00
Total:  $27,500.00
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: clawdeenwolf on August 16, 2017, 05:34:00 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 16, 2017, 01:05:47 PM
He initially quoted me at $19,500.00 but with the chin implant, it came out to 21,500.  During our face to face consultation, he told me that after jaw and chin work, he recommended that I get a mid face lift due to the change in my jaw structure a week after the initial surgery but it would cost more since I would have to go back to the hospital and for another procedure.

I told him I wasn't interested and it was too expensive so he asked me if I wanted to get a facelift along with the ffs which he would charge an extra $6000.00.  He mentioned that it might not be possible based on the operation but if I wanted it, he can attempt it if there arent any complications.  I told him that if they could do it, do it since I didn't want to go through more than one procedure.  Well, they were able to do it.

So:

Initial quote: $19,500.00
Chin implant: $2000.00
Mid-facelift: $6000.00
Total:  $27,500.00
Oh i see. I did plan to see him but too many people mentioned he had made disparaging comments about them so I kind of shied away. I'd love to see him as I haven't had FFS yet, but knowing that he may not think I'll be passable post-surgery is rather off putting even if he says it in Spanish so I don't understand.. Glad you had a great experience!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on August 16, 2017, 07:22:44 PM
Quote from: clawdeenwolf on August 16, 2017, 05:34:00 PM
Oh i see. I did plan to see him but too many people mentioned he had made disparaging comments about them so I kind of shied away. I'd love to see him as I haven't had FFS yet, but knowing that he may not think I'll be passable post-surgery is rather off putting even if he says it in Spanish so I don't understand.. Glad you had a great experience!

I think I've read those and I can see how he can be a bit off putting at first but I can share what I personally experienced with him.

During the skype consult, he seemed pretty nice although very confidant.  One thing about him is that he is honest about what he can and can't do.  He also told me all the issues I had with some of my features and what he could change and what he couldn't.  After a few more consults and emails, I decided on him after researching and speaking with other surgeons.

When I first met him in Buenos Aires, he came by to my apartment along with his liaison and told me what he recommended and what he didn't.  His personality was very brusque he didn't mince words.  He was off putting with his bluntness tbh.

After the surgery, he talked to me a bit before I went into the resting room and told me everything went better than expected although there were complications with my bleeding (This was something I forgot to mention to his surgery team) I think on the 3rd day, I had extreme swelling and once he was notified, he drove all the way to my apartment along with one of the other surgeons to check on me, give me a shot to reduce the swelling and made sure that I was ok. 

He made sure to check in on me personally at the apartment at least once a week and rode his motorcycle over to make sure I was okay.  On our final meeting, he told me that my results came out perfectly and that I should wait at least a year for the final results.  He then gave me a hug, told me to keep in touch, and email if I have any questions or need anything.  (I was honestly touched)

I think you should at least speak with him before deciding tbh.  He might not be for you and you might find someone that is much more suited for your needs but I'm very happy and I can't complain. 

Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: R W on August 18, 2017, 12:45:16 PM
I have been researching this today. Thanks for sharing with us!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: AlexisRene on September 10, 2017, 08:33:00 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 14, 2017, 08:14:24 PM
Sure, I went with Dr. Di Maggio.  The total cost of all the procedures came out to $27,500.00 USD.  The thing is, I don't think many women outside of his former patients realize what a true artist he really is when it comes to ffs.  I'm glad I went with him although he can be quite the diva.

The total cost breakdown:

  • Air fare: $1800.00 * 3 = $5400.00

  • Month rental: $1450.00

  • Monthly spending: $1900.00

  • Procedures: $27,500.00

  • Total cost: $36,250.00 (approximated value)


Thanks so much for sharing things in detail! Am located in the US & factoring travel details in, kind of evens out staying in the States to have FFS. But at the same time, you have to go with the surgeon you trust & feel is right for you. Hope you are recovering wonderfully!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: HelloKitty on September 12, 2017, 05:00:07 PM
Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on August 13, 2017, 02:41:00 AM
Hallo You! [emoji4]

Thanks for sharing your experience! I am planning on having FFS sometime around February or March 2018 with Dr. Bart Van De Ven and Joel Defrancq, in Antwerp, Belgium, and will be undergoing basically the same procedures as you, with some differences:

[emoji830]forehead recontouring type 3 with hairline recontouring and browlift (incl. orbital rim shaving)
[emoji830]rhinoplasty
[emoji830]lip lift
[emoji830]jaw angle reduction and chin recontouring
[emoji830]lower jaw setback (although this will probably be a separate procedure)
[emoji830]cheeks and nasolabial lipofilling

I plan on having a part of my body contour surgery, with Dr. Maarten Doornaert, during the same hospital stay (normally two days later), which will for sure include breast augmentation and possibly tummy tuck +/- hip augmentation (through lipofilling).
It's obviously a fairly aggressive surgery and I'm anticipating lots of swelling and probably pain, although my pain threshold is relatively high. It's always interesting to read random accounts of people who have gone through the same, so your account was certainly not in vain!

Thank you for your story!

Hugs, Sarah


Hello Sara,

I'm thinking myself to do a jaw revision and an upper jaw (I will ask for this one), cheeks, nose revision, temple skull filled.  I'm thinking about Dr Defrancq but I don't know if he's doing FFS or only jaws.  I read in your post Dr. Bart Van De Ven is working with him ?
Or maybe Dr. Noorman Van der Dusssen because I read he's able to do all.

Thank you to share with me some information to help me in my analys for my FFS in 2018


Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Ashley3 on September 12, 2017, 06:41:14 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 13, 2017, 01:59:22 AM
...  I am very happy with the results. ...

Congratulations on your positive experience!

Researching FFS can be very difficult ... I've heard others say the before (research, contemplation, planning, travel) is much harder than the after (returning home, continued recovery, enjoying the results). I have to agree with that.
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on September 13, 2017, 02:40:14 AM
Quote from: Ashley3 on September 12, 2017, 06:41:14 PM
Congratulations on your positive experience!

Researching FFS can be very difficult ... I've heard others say the before (research, contemplation, planning, travel) is much harder than the after (returning home, continued recovery, enjoying the results). I have to agree with that.

Thank you, I truly believe that as well.  As much as I am happy with the results, I can't imagine doing all of that all over again.  Btw the, just want to say that you look beautiful in your profile pic!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Ashley3 on September 13, 2017, 11:34:23 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on September 13, 2017, 02:40:14 AM
...Btw the, just want to say that you look beautiful in your profile pic!
Now I must top by this thread more often! ;) Thank you!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on November 28, 2017, 01:21:39 AM
Just wanted to give an update on my FFS experience with Dr. Di Maggio.

I'm now at about 4 1/2 months post op and still feel some mild swelling in my cheeks and nose but nowhere near what it used to be a few months ago. 

Middle portion of my chin is still very numb and my scalp, running from the crown area to the front hair line is also numb.  I feel quite a bit of sensation possibly due to the nerves starting to regenerate.  ie. scratch the middle of my forehead and I can feel it on my left eyelid etc.

For the most part, I didn't feel any pain or complications during the recovery but the post op depression was much worse than I thought, lol.

Anyway, here is a picture.  (no make up / guy mode)  Sorry, picture isnt the best because it was taken a bit before typing this.

https://imgur.com/hd1ulnC

 
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on November 28, 2017, 02:05:00 AM
Quote from: Justarandomname on November 28, 2017, 01:21:39 AM
Just wanted to give an update on my FFS experience with Dr. Di Maggio.

I'm now at about 4 1/2 months post op and still feel some mild swelling in my cheeks and nose but nowhere near what it used to be a few months ago. 

Middle portion of my chin is still very numb and my scalp, running from the crown area to the front hair line is also numb.  I feel quite a bit of sensation possibly due to the nerves starting to regenerate.  ie. scratch the middle of my forehead and I can feel it on my left eyelid etc.

For the most part, I didn't feel any pain or complications during the recovery but the post op depression was much worse than I thought, lol.

Anyway, here is a picture.  (no make up / guy mode)  Sorry, picture isnt the best because it was taken a bit before typing this.

https://imgur.com/hd1ulnC


Very nice! And I'm really sorry, but "boy mode" no longer applies to you! [emoji4] Congratulations! Every time I read such an account, I look even much forward to my own FFS, scheduled for 15/02/2018 (Dr. Bart Van De Ven).

Hugs, Sarah

Sent from my SM-T810 using Tapatalk

Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Ashley3 on November 28, 2017, 02:13:53 AM
Quote from: Justarandomname on November 28, 2017, 01:21:39 AM
Just wanted to give an update on my FFS experience ... here is a picture.  (no make up / guy mode)  Sorry, picture isnt the best because it was taken a bit before typing this.
https://imgur.com/hd1ulnC

Wow... you're looking great... if I'd just seen that picture randomly not knowing the context, I'd say gal hands down... great result... congratulations!
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on November 28, 2017, 10:40:37 PM
Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on November 28, 2017, 02:05:00 AM
Very nice! And I'm really sorry, but "boy mode" no longer applies to you! [emoji4] Congratulations! Every time I read such an account, I look even much forward to my own FFS, scheduled for 15/02/2018 (Dr. Bart Van De Ven).

Hugs, Sarah

Sent from my SM-T810 using Tapatalk

Thanks Sarah! I can imagine how excited you must be, waiting feels like forever and next thing you know, you're like "where did the time go?"


Quote from: Ashley3 on November 28, 2017, 02:13:53 AM
Wow... you're looking great... if I'd just seen that picture randomly not knowing the context, I'd say gal hands down... great result... congratulations!

Thanks Ashley!  I thought about make up and fixing my hair, doing all that stuff but I got lazy.  Also thanks for saying "gal" makes me feel young, lol. 
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: flower1221 on November 30, 2017, 02:57:50 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on November 28, 2017, 01:21:39 AM
Just wanted to give an update on my FFS experience with Dr. Di Maggio.

I'm now at about 4 1/2 months post op and still feel some mild swelling in my cheeks and nose but nowhere near what it used to be a few months ago. 

Middle portion of my chin is still very numb and my scalp, running from the crown area to the front hair line is also numb.  I feel quite a bit of sensation possibly due to the nerves starting to regenerate.  ie. scratch the middle of my forehead and I can feel it on my left eyelid etc.

For the most part, I didn't feel any pain or complications during the recovery but the post op depression was much worse than I thought, lol.

Anyway, here is a picture.  (no make up / guy mode)  Sorry, picture isnt the best because it was taken a bit before typing this.

https://imgur.com/hd1ulnC



Your link isn't working, I'd love to see the picture .  Great write up too
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Justarandomname on December 01, 2017, 10:46:27 AM
Quote from: flower1221 on November 30, 2017, 02:57:50 PM
Your link isn't working, I'd love to see the picture .  Great write up too

Hi flower, thank you.  I apologize but I actually only posted my photo for a little over 19 hours before taking it down as I'm still not comfortable with posting my photos.
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: konstancemalewska on March 24, 2019, 09:42:41 PM
Hi Sarah, did you have your surgery w Defrancq? can you share your experience? Thank you in advance.

Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on August 13, 2017, 02:41:00 AM
Hallo You! [emoji4]

Thanks for sharing your experience! I am planning on having FFS sometime around February or March 2018 with Dr. Bart Van De Ven and Joel Defrancq, in Antwerp, Belgium, and will be undergoing basically the same procedures as you, with some differences:

[emoji830]forehead recontouring type 3 with hairline recontouring and browlift (incl. orbital rim shaving)
[emoji830]rhinoplasty
[emoji830]lip lift
[emoji830]jaw angle reduction and chin recontouring
[emoji830]lower jaw setback (although this will probably be a separate procedure)
[emoji830]cheeks and nasolabial lipofilling

I plan on having a part of my body contour surgery, with Dr. Maarten Doornaert, during the same hospital stay (normally two days later), which will for sure include breast augmentation and possibly tummy tuck +/- hip augmentation (through lipofilling).
It's obviously a fairly aggressive surgery and I'm anticipating lots of swelling and probably pain, although my pain threshold is relatively high. It's always interesting to read random accounts of people who have gone through the same, so your account was certainly not in vain!

Thank you for your story!

Hugs, Sarah

Sent from my SM-T810 using Tapatalk
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on March 24, 2019, 10:00:33 PM
Quote from: konstancemalewska on March 24, 2019, 09:42:41 PM
Hi Sarah, did you have your surgery w Defrancq? can you share your experience? Thank you in advance.
Hi Konstance!

Ultimately this was not necessary. Only Van De Ven "touched" my face, so I do not have any experience with Defrancq, appart from knowing that he's a charming gentleman.

Best wishes,

Sarah

Sent from my SM-G965F using Tapatalk

Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: V M on March 24, 2019, 10:01:02 PM
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Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Casady on March 25, 2019, 04:00:30 PM
Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on March 24, 2019, 10:00:33 PM
Hi Konstance!

Ultimately this was not necessary. Only Van De Ven "touched" my face, so I do not have any experience with Defrancq, appart from knowing that he's a charming gentleman.

Best wishes,

Sarah

Sent from my SM-G965F using Tapatalk

Are we allowed to say Van De Ven again now? ;D
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: NatalieRene on March 25, 2019, 05:39:42 PM
Quote from: Justarandomname on August 16, 2017, 07:22:44 PM
I think I've read those and I can see how he can be a bit off putting at first but I can share what I personally experienced with him.

During the skype consult, he seemed pretty nice although very confidant.  One thing about him is that he is honest about what he can and can't do.  He also told me all the issues I had with some of my features and what he could change and what he couldn't.  After a few more consults and emails, I decided on him after researching and speaking with other surgeons.

When I first met him in Buenos Aires, he came by to my apartment along with his liaison and told me what he recommended and what he didn't.  His personality was very brusque he didn't mince words.  He was off putting with his bluntness tbh.

After the surgery, he talked to me a bit before I went into the resting room and told me everything went better than expected although there were complications with my bleeding (This was something I forgot to mention to his surgery team) I think on the 3rd day, I had extreme swelling and once he was notified, he drove all the way to my apartment along with one of the other surgeons to check on me, give me a shot to reduce the swelling and made sure that I was ok. 

He made sure to check in on me personally at the apartment at least once a week and rode his motorcycle over to make sure I was okay.  On our final meeting, he told me that my results came out perfectly and that I should wait at least a year for the final results.  He then gave me a hug, told me to keep in touch, and email if I have any questions or need anything.  (I was honestly touched)

I think you should at least speak with him before deciding tbh.  He might not be for you and you might find someone that is much more suited for your needs but I'm very happy and I can't complain.

He sounds good to me. Direct and detailed orientated with set expectations is very important so both parties have a clear idea of what to expect.
Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Sarah.VanDistel on March 25, 2019, 09:20:06 PM
Quote from: Casady on March 25, 2019, 04:00:30 PM
Are we allowed to say Van De Ven again now? ;D
Hi Casady!

I'm not sure.

I had created a big thread about my transition, since the very beginning, including pics and all. It was a sort of a journal. By coincidence, along the way, I got my FFS done by He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named, with results which made me happy. One day, I enter Susan's forum and the whole thread is gone - no warning or explanation. Tried to understand what happened and was vaguely informed that it might had to do with references to He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named. Asked to have it restored, so far without success.

So despite being a contributor, despite always striving to use a nice language, someone simply decided that that slice of my life was not that important. No apologies given. Nothing. Just unilaterally deleted.

That's also the reason why I'll be leaving Susan's quite soon. I think that all the girls who supported me so much deserve to know the end of my story (in short, a bit more than 2 years ago I didn't dare to go to my therapist dressed up as Sarah... and then a few months later I began my RLE and 6 days ago I got my GCS). But then I'd also feel guilty for supporting a platform which stabbed me in the back because my FFS was done by someone with a poor online behaviour from the part of that surgeon. No matter how you put it, this is not okay.

Enough ranting. I'm still a very happy woman and I still intend to publish a timeline of my transition pretty soon... without mentioning He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.

Hugs, Sarah

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Title: Re: Recently had ffs and just wanted to share my experience
Post by: Casady on March 26, 2019, 08:28:31 AM
Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on March 25, 2019, 09:20:06 PM
Hi Casady!

I'm not sure.

I had created a big thread about my transition, since the very beginning, including pics and all. It was a sort of a journal. By coincidence, along the way, I got my FFS done by He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named, with results which made me happy. One day, I enter Susan's forum and the whole thread is gone - no warning or explanation. Tried to understand what happened and was vaguely informed that it might had to do with references to He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named. Asked to have it restored, so far without success.

So despite being a contributor, despite always striving to use a nice language, someone simply decided that that slice of my life was not that important. No apologies given. Nothing. Just unilaterally deleted.

That's also the reason why I'll be leaving Susan's quite soon. I think that all the girls who supported me so much deserve to know the end of my story (in short, a bit more than 2 years ago I didn't dare to go to my therapist dressed up as Sarah... and then a few months later I began my RLE and 6 days ago I got my GCS). But then I'd also feel guilty for supporting a platform which stabbed me in the back because my FFS was done by someone with a poor online behaviour from the part of that surgeon. No matter how you put it, this is not okay.

Enough ranting. I'm still a very happy woman and I still intend to publish a timeline of my transition pretty soon... without mentioning He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named.

Hugs, Sarah

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Hi Sarah Of Thistle!

I had my FFS last December at 2Unmentionable and, as my operation date grew nearer (and my nervousness grew greater!), I came to rely heavily on your journal. Then, not long before my surgery, your thread and all other mention of the surgeon was taken down! I felt quite upset and anxious at that point, even though the reason for the removal was nothing to do with his skills as a surgeon. I also felt a little angry and almost left Susan's at that point. The accounts of others' experiences (especially good ones) are so important to those transitioning. Anyway, it turned out that I had nothing to worry about and everything went well. In fact, I would say that despite a little discomfort due to swelling etc., I had a lovely time there, especially in the guest house. So much so in fact, that I am (almost :)) looking forward to going back to Antwerp for lower blepharoplasty and facelift at the beginning of May. I feel sad though that I have been unable to share the story of my FFS on here.

It is wonderful to see how far you have come and I am pleased to hear that your recent surgeries have gone well! I wish you all the best for your recovery and I certainly look forward to reading your timeline if you do publish one. (Also, once this site's ban has run its duration, I would like to think that your original thread will be restored so that it may continue to help others.)

Casady