If you're not a Dr. Chettawut patient but you're post op just skip the first 3 questions because I want your take on question #4!
Hey there, all day today I have been lost reading testimonials of Dr. Chettawut patients and dreaming of when it will finally be my turn. I am very anxious and excited as if it was happening tomorrow, even though I am 24 years old and still barely starting to save up. Originally I wanted to go to Suporn but I read he's retiring and seems to be all booked up until then so Chettawut seems like a great choice too after my research.
1. My first question is about the difference between their methods. Suporn vs. Chettawut, is there any? I know neither of them do standard penile inversion and it's more complex, and when I read Chettawut's surgery description it sounded the same as Suporn's which is good because that's what I originally wanted, but I wonder if I'm missing something that makes them different, or if they are the same surgery technique.
2. I guess my next question is an easy one but also one that I'm not sure I'm allowed to ask on here - if I'm not, I understand but keep reading because I have another question. The first question was, how much would you say the whole experience costs? If we're not allowed to discuss doctor prices I understand that but what I'd like to know more importantly is how much extra money would you say I should bring for the whole month there? I'm trying to come up with a number to know how much I have to save up. So let's say hypothetically his price is 15k (I don't know, I haven't found an updated price) how much extra would you say I should bring with me? Friends who have been to Thailand say it is very cheap, but I wonder...
3. I am a vegan and kind of a stubborn and committed one at that. How big of a problem is this going to be getting around?
4. My last and the heaviest question is a bit intimate and perhaps TMI but this is somewhat anonymous and I also need to just get it out.
It's about both pre and post-op sex and pleasure, I suppose. So up to this day, I have never had an orgasm during sex or from another person doing anything to me. Granted, I have never topped anyone either and I don't think I want to.
I have always credited this to dysphoria, but the truth is that I don't really know if physically I feel the pleasure people seem to feel? Like, when I have performed oral sex on someone with a penis and they seem to be in such a great place; I have received oral in different occasions and I didn't particularly care for it that much; like, physically speaking, sensation wise, it did not feel that out of the ordinary or great? So I'm thinking that maybe there is something wrong with me and that I don't have normal sensation down there and that this will become a problem when I have a vagina and I won't enjoy sex then, either. Because the vagina is built with the tissue that I already have, right? And if right now that doesn't feel good or particularly interesting then I can't imagine it feeling any different when it's reshaped into something else? Can you help me ease those thoughts? Is the feeling in your neovagina entirely similar/dependent on the feeling you felt during sex pre-op? Like, will you feel more pleasure if you naturally have a more sensitive glans? Because if so, my future sex life is not looking good.
I can pleasure myself and climax, and fairly easily might I add, so I do think it might have to do with the dysphoria factor of being with another person and feeling vulnerable and exposed because I don't like that body part. When it's just me it feels great. But with others, my sex life is really me getting off mentally to pleasing my partners. Which is like okay I guess but also not fair because I would like to hope that someday I will get to enjoy (read: come) too.
Granted, none of this matters in the end because I am doing this for myself and even if I never come again it will still have been worth it, but they are thoughts and concerns I have regardless.
I suspect with an asian diet, vegan shouldn't be very difficult. The one problem I can see is getting enough protein for proper healing. If you are willing to compromise and add something like fish to your diet, it would be less of a problem.
If you are able to climax by yourself, everything should work after surgery as well. You will have to learn how the new hardware works but from what I understand of the newer surgeries, they are just as sensitive as before surgery.
So you think it's psychological that I can't climax during sex? That's a relief, because I would like to think it's going to be different once that thing is gone.
Women including you need to be in the proper mode to climax. This is also true for men though testosterone lowers the bar a good deal. It will all depend on your lover and effort made to prepare you for sex so select someone who is considerate of your feeling and somebody who yo are attracted to. One night stands are not as likely to produce the results you desire unless you are sure your lover meets the above requirements.
Kinda forgot how to quote, but as for #4) I am the EXACT same way, I have never had an orgasm in bed with someone and as a escort, I've tried a ->-bleeped-<- ton and lots of practice ( lol) And when I do it solo I can only do it like weird and face down, (probably too much info but it may matter here iunno lol) But, I always assumed that it's a combination of mental block of not really being all "there" with the dysphoria on top of the way I do it since I cannot do it a normal way, but I think that after SRS all that will fix itself once we re-learn our new genitals and they're more congruent with what we'd like there, I too am going to Chettawut.
I also think that since we will be able to have PiV sex it will be alot more enjoyable, instead of having to have someone try to use what we currently have in front, especially since you don't top ( I dont either and have never and have no desire to ever), I'm not sure if that makes any sense but when I read your post it sounded just like my situation thats been bothering me alot and has made me sit and think about it often, it's almost making me frustrated. But, whatever I guess. I can only assume piv sex will feel better than trying to mess around and get our front ends to work is what I'm trying to say, but then again they say clitoral stimulation will be more sensitive than the rest of the vulva from what I've read, (at least in most cases I've read)
regardless though, I dont see too many posts of women whove lost all sensation and cant feel squat down there, so you have nothing to worry about regarding that, At least I think. but god everything you said is literally me right down to the very detail. I too dont understand why I cant enjoy receiving oral, but everyone else that I've gone down on seems to LOVE it and are in pure bliss, it makes me wonder if theres something wrong with me too, so youre not alone there :) *hugs*
Id pretty much give anything to climax in sex lol, ive never even came close to it