Hey,
Since I am nearing three years full time and am basically done with transition I wanted to say......
Bra's.. I remember a post someone saying do you like wearing a bra???
I remember that I could not wait until I needed one.. OMG I loved it so much.. Made me feel girly and it was something I always envied about girls...
So here is the good news.. that goes away and you don't really care at all anymore.. or at least I don't.
And here is the bad news.. bra's suck.... LOL..
Just like CIS women mine is off the minute I think about it when I hit the door and during the day at home I rarely wear one.
In fact I leave the house without a bra many times by forgetting and I am a DD..
So good news is I am cured bad news is I hate bra's now.
I am sure that FTM folks out there will agree...
Life is funny, we get what we want and then life becomes normal as a woman.
I see men as lucky to be men.. but for me the hassle of being a woman is worth it because I am a girl period and would never want to be something I am not.
Love ya all
Bras for me are kind of a love/hate thing. My boobs hurt, always have... and it gets worse without a bra. No I don't have cancer, its just a phenomenon that has been with me since like 18 years old or so (I'm 43 now).
That being said I wear bras until the bras get to be a super annoyance... then don't wear until the boobs hurt too much, then back to wearing them again while I'm at home. Out, I always wear a bra. I'm 36c, so its surely not gravity alone.
I'm just weird, but that is what makes me special ::) >:-)
I bet the reason they suck is because most people don't get fitted for one. It's probably even more critical for a trans woman because of the broader beam in many of us, but even my wife doesn't get ones that fit right. It's like the women that wear pencil skirts a size or two too small. What's up with that? Or the guy that buys jeans too small with their belly hanging over their belt and a cracker ass showing. A lot denial going on. Just get something that fits right.
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I've been wearing a bra daily coming up on 2 years. I don't normally find them uncomfortable, except on hot, sticky days.
Have been wearing them for years and i agree the novelty has long worn off. However i do try and by nice ones both for comfort and aesthetics
Oh I could not wait. But now they suck. And I have had someone check to see if the sizing was correct. So just because I have the right size means nothing at all. Not wearing one now. But might go to a meeting tonight so I will have to wear one. I don't go fancy but they are not plain either.
Dont get me started on humidity.. OMG I don't like to sweat..
I don't hate hate them its just a girl thing that I have to do. I do like pretty bra's and I agree fit is very important..
Sweating is the worst thing in the world....
I used to find bras and women's underwear erotic. Now, it's just underwear.
I am pretty skeptical of bra sizing. What's the point of getting measured when there is so much variability in size? I was measured at a 38A. But I have tried on 38AAs that were not just big but way too big. And I found a 38C at a discount store that almost fit with only a tiny bit of empty space. The numbers mean nothing. You just have to find one that looks about right and try it on.
Quote from: Itsdone on September 01, 2017, 08:02:12 PM
Dont get me started on humidity.. OMG I don't like to sweat..
As the old joke goes. Men sweat. Women don't sweat, they perspire. ;D
Quote from: KathyLauren on September 01, 2017, 08:33:20 PM
I used to find bras and women's underwear erotic. Now, it's just underwear.
Normal female thought progression. We're just a little late.
Reading this makes me chuckle. I understand wanting to be bigger, as proportions are better. Personally I'd rather decrease as much bulk of my frame to make my itty bitties look normal. Then no bra is fine by ms:)
Hahaha yup. I recall the very day I baught my first bra (wearing it now infact). Sunday April 10 2016, I went to La Vie en Rose located at Kildonan Place mall in Winnipeg Manitoba. It was without question a day I will never ever forget. magical for more reasons then just the bra.
I am probably different from other ladies here, I have now issue with the bra. Infact I love wearing it, maybe one day it may get annoying or what not but still it added that nice everything is how it should be feel. Also, my girls continue to grow as does my smile. Now, hopefully I can finally get my bottom surgery for next September!!!
I usually have no problem with them. I am partial to the Victoria's Secret front closing bras that help enhance my cleavage. I really don't even have to wear one if I don't want to. Even though I am a 38C/D they don't have a lot of bounce to them so that they have to be restrained. Really the only time I need one is if my clothes are too thin and my nipples show. When I do wear them they are comfortable enough that I usually wear them until I go to bed.
If the bra is uncomfortable, it's not the right size. When it's too hot, I wear one with no padding at all. If they get all sweaty, they can be washed. I just don't sleep in one, since I don't have to worry about my breasts bouncing around in my sleep.
I started with sports bras and continue wearing that type. The "comfort fit" ones are not even noticeable wearing during the day. I was working outdoors as much as driving so I got both the sweaty heat and the bouncing in the air conditioning. Worst part I had was needed a tee shirt under my work shirt to hide the bra and my breasts.
How do you spell relief?
B-R-A O-F-F!
You gals are all so silly! I actually just got my first bra yesterday... No, I haven't even started HRT yet, but I bought some breast forms and a specialty bra that allows you to place them into little pockets that it has. I wore it like this for a few minutes yesterday in private (my wife STILL doesn't know...) and it was the best feeling ever. I love the way the bra feels when I wear it. Talk about gender Euphoria! I had a feeling that one day it wouldn't be that special any more, but I'm happy that at least for now, it is.
~Love, Ashley
Quote from: KageNiko on September 07, 2017, 11:19:48 AM
You gals are all so silly! I actually just got my first bra yesterday... No, I haven't even started HRT yet, but I bought some breast forms and a specialty bra that allows you to place them into little pockets that it has. I wore it like this for a few minutes yesterday in private (my wife STILL doesn't know...) and it was the best feeling ever. I love the way the bra feels when I wear it. Talk about gender Euphoria! I had a feeling that one day it wouldn't be that special any more, but I'm happy that at least for now, it is.
~Love, Ashley
Yeah, tourism and living somewhere permanently is two totally different things... Report back after wearing your forms for a few days non stop and don't say I haven't predicted that you'll have some back pain.
Quote from: elkie-t on September 07, 2017, 11:57:02 AM
Yeah, tourism and living somewhere permanently is two totally different things... Report back after wearing your forms for a few days non stop and don't say I haven't predicted that you'll have some back pain.
Exactly! Bra's stopped being magical for me the day after my BA and I realized that I'd be wearing them for the rest of my life.
I rarely wear them around the house now. I wear them going out so I don't bounce and wear padded or lined so my "high beams" don't poke out. They are just my underwear now.
-Sandy
Quote from: KathyLauren on September 01, 2017, 08:33:20 PM
I used to find bras and women's underwear erotic. Now, it's just underwear.
I am pretty skeptical of bra sizing. What's the point of getting measured when there is so much variability in size? I was measured at a 38A. But I have tried on 38AAs that were not just big but way too big. And I found a 38C at a discount store that almost fit with only a tiny bit of empty space. The numbers mean nothing. You just have to find one that looks about right and try it on.
One the nose. I am wearing my 38C right now. Most are 38B. Just received a 38B in the mail. It's a Hanes. And it's a tiny bit tight. Most of mine are Hanes. Comfort and cute colors. Can't beat that. Just ordered a 40B. So still looking for the right exact fit. And I also have 38A's that don't fit and are too big in the cup. Had to have my doctor. Take a peak and give me some advice on size. So numbers do mean nothing. It's trial and error. If you go to Victoria Secret and get measured. The size you get from them will fit their bras. Trying to take that size and buy a different brand just does not work. Also it is just underwear now. Never should have thought I would feel this way if you would have asked me a year and a half ago.
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Quote from: Norma Lynne on September 08, 2017, 03:23:19 PM
It's trial and error. If you go to Victoria Secret and get measured. The size you get from them will fit their bras. Trying to take that size and buy a different brand just does not work. Also it is just underwear now. Never should have thought I would feel this way if you would have asked me a year and a half ago.
I could never get the right fit till I got measured, I got measured at Victoria Secret, but wearing a different brand isn't as comfortable as you say, I hate bras now, it is just underwear, but necessity, on a night out I wear the Victoria secret push-up which gives good support for my DDs, and another thing, never let a guy give you a bra, big mistake, hubby used to give me bra and lingerie sets for birthdays, he thought he was doing the right thing, might look sexy and pretty, but painful fit, throwing his money away, should have got me flowers or chocolates instead lol
Quote from: pretty pauline on September 08, 2017, 04:24:33 PM
I could never get the right fit till I got measured, I got measured at Victoria Secret, but wearing a different brand isn't as comfortable as you say, I hate bras now, it is just underwear, but necessity, on a night out I wear the Victoria secret push-up which gives good support for my DDs, and another thing, never let a guy give you a bra, big mistake, hubby used to give me bra and lingerie sets for birthdays, he thought he was doing the right thing, might look sexy and pretty, but painful fit, throwing his money away, should have got me flowers or chocolates instead lol
It's simple, take that bra and bring it back where he got it from. Exchange for a similar but in the right size. He won't be offended.
Quote from: elkie-t on September 08, 2017, 09:14:33 PM
It's simple, take that bra and bring it back where he got it from. Exchange for a similar but in the right size. He won't be offended.
Thanks for the advice, but he used to order lingerie sets, matching bras and panties online from online catalogues and sometimes stores, he just didn't understand sizes or colors, frilly pink and girly but not comfortable, I'd wear them for the birthday then discreetly leave them in a charity store few weeks later, but resently I've told him I'II do my bra shopping in Victoria Secret and he is happy with that, it's not a place a man wants to be. I'd never want to offend him, he is a fantastic husband that any girl could wish for, bra shopping is definitely a girl thing.
Correction:
Horses sweat, Men perspire and Women glow... :)
Quote from: Dena on September 01, 2017, 10:01:49 PM
As the old joke goes. Men sweat. Women don't sweat, they perspire. ;D
Hi girls 🙋🏼 After almost 2 mths on hrt my breasts are getting tender. I just was on vacation where I tried surfing, ouch! It may be time for some protection.
🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️🏄🏻♀️ Jessica
Quote from: KageNiko on September 07, 2017, 11:19:48 AM
You gals are all so silly! I actually just got my first bra yesterday... No, I haven't even started HRT yet, but I bought some breast forms and a specialty bra that allows you to place them into little pockets that it has. I wore it like this for a few minutes yesterday in private (my wife STILL doesn't know...) and it was the best feeling ever. I love the way the bra feels when I wear it. Talk about gender Euphoria! I had a feeling that one day it wouldn't be that special any more, but I'm happy that at least for now, it is.
~Love, Ashley
I have an anecdote about my forms. I assumed they were going to be delivered to my PO Box so I put my daughters name on the order, Well they would not deliver to the PO box so they look up my daughters address and delivered them there. Oh the agony. Her and her husband were making fun of them. They took pictures and sent them to all their friends on Facebook. Then she told me. I told her someone was playing a joke on her and told her to give them to me and I will get to the bottom of it. When I finally came out about 6 months later I had to explain they were mine. Now I have my own home grown.
Water and breasts. Surfing, I use to wear a wet suit. I have not been in the water on the beach for 2 years :( I would need a different wet suit now, one with some color :) ). When wearing a rash guard you must use something to protect your nipple area. The material will chew up your nipples.
Prior to my BA I wore a sports bra. I forgot I had it on most of the time. I loved to take it off but my wife at the time kept saying I was showing and to put something on. Now post BA I got fitted and have very nice BRA's. Sizing is brand specific and you need to get in the store and try them on ( I understand about being self conscious but it must be done). I never liked wearing a bra and still do not. I would much like to be braless but people say things. Pre-BA at work I would get a lot of comments from men and woman if I did not wear a bra. Now I must wear a bra when in public.
I had my BA on 7/17/17 and am looking to shed my bra more and more. Sleeping I am braless. I need to expand some free time. When I started transition I wanted breasts and still like them. They make tops took good. I would not give them up for anything but bras a annoying.
Quote from: DawnOday on September 09, 2017, 04:24:19 PM
I have an anecdote about my forms. I assumed they were going to be delivered to my PO Box so I put my daughters name on the order, Well they would not deliver to the PO box so they look up my daughters address and delivered them there. Oh the agony. Her and her husband were making fun of them. They took pictures and sent them to all their friends on Facebook. Then she told me. I told her someone was playing a joke on her and told her to give them to me and I will get to the bottom of it. When I finally came out about 6 months later I had to explain they were mine. Now I have my own home grown.
That is so silly! I'm always afraid something like that will happen with the stuff I'm sending to my PO box. I have a bunch of dresses and skirts coming now, and if they went to my house, well, I'll just say this: my daughter is a Tom boy. There would be no denying that they were mine!
Wearing bras in the beginning was magical. Now they are just underwear. They don't make me feel more feminine my breasts is there to do the job. I am a B cup and love looking down at my shirt without a bra seeing them there knowing that is all me. I usually wear my bra most of the day but night time comes bra is off at home.
Quote from: josie76 on September 07, 2017, 06:17:35 AM. . . the bouncing in the air conditioning. Worst part I had was needed a tee shirt under my work shirt to hide the bra and my breasts.
With colder weather approuching hiding 'straps' become less of a problem. With the constant bouncing of my 379 Peterbilt I sometimes wish wore one more often . . .
My biggest problem is the 5 other girls in our house!! Well, the two babies & grandmother aren't really a prob yet but keeping decent underwear thru the constant wash is well-neigh impossible . . . don't really care for what cis girls choose to wear.
Used to 'tuck' 24/7 but no more!!
Quote from: Amoré on September 11, 2017, 05:39:15 AM
Wearing bras in the beginning was magical. Now they are just underwear. They don't make me feel more feminine my breasts is there to do the job. I am a B cup and love looking down at my shirt without a bra seeing them there knowing that is all me. I usually wear my bra most of the day but night time comes bra is off at home.
That's the size I'm wanting! I was talking to my mom about this the other day and I told her that I don't want to be 'huge' like her, and we both giggled. I just want a nice size that I can entice my future bf with one day, not to show off to the world. I'm too shy for that!!