Hi everyone. I had made a post about coming out to my boyfriend's parents. It was something my boyfriend thought we should do so they would be prepared in case someone I knew before transition outed me in front of them. I totally was stressing about telling them.
So, Tristan told them we had something we needed to tell them. One of his brothers said " I bet she's pregnant". Tristan told them no I wasn't pregnant. Then he told them I am transgender. It got totally quiet. They all turned and looked at me. One of his brothers sat with his mouth open for a second. Then his dad looked at me and said " you're transgender "? I told him yes I was and then it got quiet again. Then his mom said " sooo, you were born a boy"?? I told her yes I was. Then she told me she would never have known and that I was pretty and that I was a sweet girl. Then her dad asked when I had "changed" as he put it. I told him when I was 17. Then his mom and dad both started talking about how I must have felt very strongly about doing it to have done it so young and that my parents must have been sure I really wanted it to have let me do it. Then his dad said he couldn't imagine how painful that surgery had been. Obviously they thought I had had SRS already. I certainly didn't correct them.
They had a lot of questions which I answered. His dad said everyone had problems they had to overcome and that I had overcome mine. And that was it. They didn't act different towards me or act like they didn't like me anymore. His brothers were more curious than his parents and asked lots of questions, but it didn't seem like they had a problem with anything. Tristan said none of them had said anything bad about me after I left. I really hope he is telling me the truth.
This was not something I was looking forward to doing but it went much better than I had expected. I was picturing his brothers calling me a "->-bleeped-<-" , well actually Aussies say " poofer" more than ->-bleeped-<-, and I was picturing his parents telling me to get out of their house. Thankfully none of those things happened. Tristan told me that if he thought his family would have had a bad reaction he would never have put me in that Position. But how people react to transpeople is very unpredictable. I'm totally glad this wasnt a trainwreck.
All I can say is well done - my total admiration to you and your BF.
I need to do something similar but I think it is likely to be different, - but that's not my problem really it will be theirs, I have enough of my own ;D :angel:.
Love and Hugz
Katie
That's awesome Julia! I'm glad it worked out. I've heard that Aussies are one of the most open people in the world so I guess that was true.
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Julia, I am so happy for you! What a relief it must be for you. Is there a wedding in the future? I think his mom would help pick out your dress. You are so lucky to be in your boyfriends families good graces.
Hugs, Jessica 💁
So happy for you hun. I remember our first conversations. You've made a lot of progress. I like your fiestyness. Hope only good things come your way.
Dawn.
Congrats Julia! This is proof that you are 110% passable and your boyfriends family is cool. Damn, how many of us are super jealous of Julia? Seriously though, you've earned this and deserve it;)
Congratulations, Julia. It must be a relief to see how it went now that it's done.
Awesome Julia!!! You are truly blessed with so many supporting people in your life.
So happy for you! Could not have gone any better... You deserve this so much!
Fantastic and wonderful news. X
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I just want to say congratulations on feeling comfortable enough to share this with your family. It's a big step and being able to be yourself with them and know they will have your back supporting you is worth the world.
I am so happy to hear that it went well, Julia! You have some wonderful people in your life.
Such great news! I'm so glad for you. Hugs and best wishes :-)
What fantastic news Julia!
I can't imagine how stressed you must have been beforehand but what a brilliant outcome
Hi Julia,
Add me to that list of those who think it was awesome. And though I'm personally a poor judge at predicting success or failure in coming out reactions, I do think it was a pretty safe bet it was going to be accepted pretty well if Tristin said it would be. After all he should know a bit about his family. Good for Tristin and you Julia, congrats.
I do think you may have created a small problem down the road letting his dad believe you've had SRS already. They obviously like you and it probably would not have cauded a problem had you told them you haven't had the surgery just yet but that it is going to happen.
You mean to tell me there is a whole Aussie family loose in Colorado?
Hugs,
Laurie
This is awesome, Julia! So glad for you that it all went well.
Thank you everyone. It is like a huge relief that they took it well. Actually I'm surprised they had such a chill reaction but totally happy they did.😊
Laurie, I thought about that after the fact. At that moment I just couldn't bring myself to tell them I hadn't had SRS yet. And Tristan didn't say anything either so I thought maybe he would prefer they not know that detail. My SRS is scheduled for next year but it will be ok because his family doesn't know how many procedures are required for the finished product. I can just say I'm having the second stage done.
Yes, a whole Aussie family is on the loose in Denver. Scary isn't it? Lol. Tristan's dad got a very good job offer here so they moved here.
Congrats
Quote from: Julia1996 on September 17, 2017, 07:31:10 PM
Thank you everyone. It is like a huge relief that they took it well. Actually I'm surprised they had such a chill reaction but totally happy they did.😊
Laurie, I thought about that after the fact. At that moment I just couldn't bring myself to tell them I hadn't had SRS yet. And Tristan didn't say anything either so I thought maybe he would prefer they not know that detail. My SRS is scheduled for next year but it will be ok because his family doesn't know how many procedures are required for the finished product. I can just say I'm having the second stage done.
Yes, a whole Aussie family is on the loose in Denver. Scary isn't it? Lol. Tristan's dad got a very good job offer here so they moved here.
Julia, I do hope nothing goes wrong with the plan and it really shouldn't.
Let's see by my count there should be 5 of them running around Denver. Do you know if there's a bounty?
Just joking Julia,, (really)
Laurie
Quote from: Laurie on September 17, 2017, 08:11:55 PM
Julia, I do hope nothing goes wrong with the plan and it really shouldn't.
Let's see by my count there should be 5 of them running around Denver. Do you know if there's a bounty?
Just joking Julia,, (really)
Laurie
Lol, that's funny.
I don't see the SRS thing as a problem. You don't ask what's in their pants, why should they ask what's in yours. That's Tristan's business. Aussies are the most laid back people in the world! God Bless 'em! I just wish Americans were more like them. Does it seem like forever until next year? Well they seem like really good people, hang on to them!
Wow Julia, that is so great for you!
You have found a real great guy whose family is accepting. Your dad and brother love you completely as daughter and sister. Life is good girl, enjoy every day! ;)
I'm so happy for you Julia!! That is awesome!
Tristan sounds like such an amazing guy, and his family is too! Hang on to that one!
What great news. Congrats on that big step for you and your guy.
Wow. I am thinking that was best case scenario. I am very happy for you. I am scared of telling my massage therapist and she sees me almost naked. Just panties. Granted I am covered. But when I turn over there are times I know she has seen things.
This post gives hope. Hope that people can just accept us being trans. And it seems like more and more are starting to understand us. Because at the end of the day, isn't that all we really want? Acceptance?
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Plan for the worst.
Hope for the best.
The truth is somewhere in the middle.
EXCEPT this time... You got better than best. That's totally awesome and Tristin's family is fantastic.
Congratulations!
I am so in awe of you, I so need to use your inspiration and strength in my discussions with my parents. You are so much my idol in so many ways, so eloquent, looking gorgeous and have such an empathetic mind, you are a lot of what I need to be- keep going and I will help with my advice were I can (bad move lol)
Love
Katie
:angel: :angel: :angel: :angel: >:-) :angel: :angel:
*golf clap.* absolutely blaaady awesome, girl.
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