Hello my name is Jenny I'm completely new here. So Idk what to expect. I'm 28 fixing to be 29 years old in October. Been trying to get hormones since 2012. With no support of friends or family. I only recently managed to get hrt last week. BUt what's been on my mind for years is If it's too late for it to do any good. I don't think i have any chance at passing. I'm 6ft 1inch talll with large frame and obese. I been working to loose my weight since last year. I've lost in total 51 pounds. But I stilll look big. I don't think it's gonna change much even when I hit my target weight on 190. I been trying too l save up to move out of state. I want to move out of the bible belt. I've known people who been beaten up for being out here. But finding a job lately is impossible Sorry for this mess of a post. I just needed to get this off my mind. It doesnt help that my friends refuse to stop dead naming me and calling me sir. Even been told the best I can hope for is lookign like a guy in drag.
Hi Tandy, since that is your first post expect a mod to be by shortly for the introductory routine. :D
First, i have very little experience (I'm new to all of this too), but I'm going to echo the sage advice I've heard repeatedly since joining these forums: Passing isn't everything. What's important is that you are true to yourself and happy in your own skin.
Second, if passing is something you do feel you need, don't give up hope yet. Extra weight can really hide your physical features, and you may find that as you lose more pounds that you will see potential you didn't know you had. That is what happened to me at least, and a big part of why I am on these boards today. And the height issue is just one of many factors in final presentation, so that doesn't disqualify you inherently from passing at all. There are many women who are your height or taller. I was terrified about my shoulders, but the more I read and the more I look up dealing with them, I've found not only numerous indications they don't matter, but that there are actually tons of beautiful, famous cis-women with the same shoulders!
Lastly, what you can expect from these forums is simple. Love and support!
(Oh! And congrats on the weight loss, that is always a huge accomplishment! I have about 40 pounds more to go myself for my current goal.)
Hello Jenny,
Women come in all shapes and sizes and some cis women actually look more like a man to me, since I started paying close attention. I mean, look at Michelle Obama. Tall, broad shoulders, big hands and a face that isn't very feminine. I'm not ragging on her. I love her, but I thought this would be a good example of a famous cis woman that if you didn't know who she was and saw her on the street you'd swear she was trans. Don't lose heart.
Good vibes your way,
Tommie
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Hi Tandy,
I have felt the same way re: aging. I turn 31 in December and just last night I was telling my boyfriend that it may be "too late for me" to transition. Whenever I see a trans woman on HRT in their late teens or early twenties, I ask myself why I wasn't brave enough to transition a decade earlier. However, for me, I realize I say these things even though I know deep down that there's no such thing as being too old or not brave enough. It's a hard world and I've tried very hard not to be trans. That trying has at times led to the darkest of thoughts, which is why I know now that I no longer have a choice. It took the time it took, and now I'm here.
I'm learning tons from the women on these forums. Keep coming back. I thought my first post was messy too, but it allowed me to seek help (therapy and support groups) and get healthier (exercise, healthier eating, a full physical, dental and vision appointments!). I didn't realize the extent to which I had thrown my health out the window. It was the depression and anxiety. Starting to talk about it and moving forward slowly has made me want to live.
Congrats on starting your HRT! I hope to start soon, too.
-AntÃa
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