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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: EmilyRyan on October 15, 2017, 07:20:59 PM

Title: I did it!! It finally happened!! :D
Post by: EmilyRyan on October 15, 2017, 07:20:59 PM
After two years, two months, two weeks, and five days and rigorous amounts of applications I finally got offered a job at Walgreens. I'm glad to not only have a job now but one that's LGBT and disability friendly.

Plus four months on hormones :)
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Post by: C. Raine on October 15, 2017, 07:22:39 PM
Awesome congratulations!!!!

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Post by: Deborah on October 15, 2017, 07:26:37 PM
It looks like things are finally turning around for you.  Congratulations and keep up that happy positive attitude!


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Post by: KathyLauren on October 15, 2017, 07:27:56 PM
That's great, Emily!  I am glad to hear it!
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Post by: KatieFox1202 on October 15, 2017, 07:37:03 PM
Heyy Emily!

Well done! That's great!

Don't lose your positive attitude and enjoy the job!

Hugs :D

Katie

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Post by: Allison S on October 15, 2017, 07:41:09 PM
Congrats! Getting a job is such a good feeling because it means you can make money! Who doesn't like money lol
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Post by: HappyMoni on October 15, 2017, 07:57:05 PM
Fantastic for you Emily. Very happy for you.
Moni
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Post by: SailorMars1994 on October 15, 2017, 08:26:01 PM
Thats my girl <3!!!
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Post by: MeTony on October 15, 2017, 08:35:44 PM
Congratulations! :D
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Post by: LizK on October 15, 2017, 08:55:55 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on October 15, 2017, 07:20:59 PM
After two years, two months, two weeks, and five days and rigorous amounts of applications I finally got offered a job at Walgreens. I'm glad to not only have a job now but one that's LGBT and disability friendly.

Plus four months on hormones :)

Round of applause please  :eusa_clap: :eusa_clap:

That is fantastic news....I know how long you have been going at this and your persistence and belief in yourself have paid off.

Well done

Hugs

Liz
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Post by: Sno on October 15, 2017, 11:51:49 PM
*dances happy dances*

Rowan

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Post by: rmaddy on October 16, 2017, 12:04:57 AM
A person's work is their dignity.  Congratulations.
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Post by: warmbody28 on October 16, 2017, 12:55:17 AM
Congratulations. They are a good company to work for
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Post by: Sarah_P on October 16, 2017, 07:00:32 AM
Congratulations Emily!!  :icon_joy:
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Post by: Sarah77 on October 16, 2017, 07:58:22 AM
Well done. Delighted for you!
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Post by: VeronicaLynn on October 16, 2017, 02:22:48 PM
Congrats Emily!
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Post by: Mariah on October 16, 2017, 02:39:55 PM
That is fantastic Emily, Congrats.
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Post by: Soli on October 16, 2017, 04:03:47 PM
wow very cool, congrats Emily, now road ahead opens free, just keep your hands on the wheel  ^-^
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Post by: SailorMars1994 on October 16, 2017, 04:44:49 PM
Not to hijack your thread Emily but I thought I too should share I got a job today aswell :)!!!.

Look at us Emily, two openly transgender women who are both on the autism spectrum (believe you said sometime ago you were too yes?) getting ourselves jobs and showing the world we mean business and NO ONE can stop us or hold us back!

Congrats again girl <3
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Post by: EmilyRyan on October 16, 2017, 05:13:07 PM
Holy crap Soli!!! It's so awesome to hear from you again!!!  :D :D :D

Oh and thank you everyone else I honestly can say I feel pretty happy right now, yeah I still have to deal with parents but I'll let time be the judge and hopefully they'll just see that I'm happy and both mentally and emotionally sound but if not I'm actually no longer afraid of getting kicked out after being homeless during the summer I not afraid (although it does suck) of that petty threat anymore.

And I'll share my experience with being on hrt for four months:

There is breast growth not significant yet but enough to the point it's best to wear a bra

Skin is getting softer

I think my hair is thicker and it has gotten darker

Some fat redistribution hips are developing my thighs are a little thicker

Sex drive is getting low I no longer have random erections

Emotions oh they're there lol I cry ever so more easily now like earlier today I got a thank you message from someone I had helped find a clinic for hrt in Oklahoma and her message was so touching I had to hold back tears. Hrt isn't for the faint of heart xD

That's the changes I noticed so far and I welcome the coming months :)



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Post by: EmilyRyan on October 16, 2017, 05:19:52 PM
Quote from: SailorMars1994 on October 16, 2017, 04:44:49 PM
Not to hijack your thread Emily but I thought I too should share I got a job today aswell :)!!!.

Look at us Emily, two openly transgender women who are both on the autism spectrum (believe you said sometime ago you were too yes?) getting ourselves jobs and showing the world we mean business and NO ONE can stop us or hold us back!

Congrats again girl <3
Congrats :)

Yeah I at least think I am it's still a matter of getting a proper diagnosis but since I happen to be officially diagnosed with a learning disability I go by that when it comes to disclosing and such
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Post by: DawnOday on October 16, 2017, 06:45:27 PM
Emily
So happy for you Emily. Keep your confidence up. You can do this. Just keep the nose to the grindstone. Initiative is always welcome so don't wait to be told what to do. That looks lazy. Find things you can fix and then make sure everyone knows it. When you don't have any orders, straighten and clean. Look busy. You are trying to set yourself apart from your coworkers. Not by your gender but by your work ethic. You know more will be expected of you, just because. But you are up to it. Good Luck. 

SailorMars - Excellent... I love what you said ...getting ourselves jobs and showing the world we mean business and NO ONE can stop us or hold us back!.

This is terrific. Well done. 
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Post by: Rachel on October 16, 2017, 06:53:53 PM
Awesome news, I am happy for you.
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Post by: Soli on October 16, 2017, 08:05:13 PM
Quote from: EmilyRyan on October 16, 2017, 05:13:07 PM
Holy crap Soli!!! It's so awesome to hear from you again!!!  :D :D :D

hey it's so nice to hear these good news, I think you deserve that; I drop here once in a while, and I saw two of your important posts, when you left your parents' place some time ago, and this one here, and I must say I really am happy for you, you so needed that.  :)
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Post by: The Flying Lemur on October 16, 2017, 09:37:29 PM
Congratulations, Emily!  I'm really happy for you.  :)
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Post by: EmilyRyan on October 17, 2017, 09:02:01 PM
Now comes the total issue of my family and the fact that not only I'm back with living with them but that they're still unsupportive/accepting and finding myself doing hrt in secret (yikes). I do worry about when the changes from hrt become noticeable I worry about how they'll react. As I said before I'm not afraid of getting kicked out but I am concerned of where I will go if that happens.
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Post by: rmaddy on October 17, 2017, 09:17:12 PM
You're going to need to tell them and unfortunately, families are often least likely to be supportive initially.  Good luck with that, and make sure you have other support to draw on when you go through it.
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Post by: EmilyRyan on October 17, 2017, 10:06:19 PM
I have tried talking to my mom about things like my feelings, boundaries, and about me being trans and trying to get her to understand but she refuses to listens and stays in denial and still, though not as bad now, tries to control me. I been trying for like a month now since I been back to get through to her at least
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Post by: rmaddy on October 17, 2017, 11:17:36 PM
All you can do is is be firm and consistent.  You can also tell her that her not accepting you will not change your identity, which is a pretty common fantasy for parents.  Unfortunately, you can't make her accept you.  Still, you have the right to insist on respect.
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Post by: Soli on October 18, 2017, 06:47:03 PM
my feeling is you don't have to tell them now, especially if that has a chance of bringing more stormy weather

eventually, you'll move out, right? No? Now that you have a job?

chances are they won't notice any changes that you notice yourself on your body, that's the story in my case with my family, even my breasts, I can see in my sisters' eyes that for them they go almost unnoticed when I mention them... we don't see each other often but even then, no noticeable change in my face for them, I always looked a little androgynous, my hair... Looks like it's a twist of the brain where everyone who knew you before always see the same person.

well of course, there's the clothing, but... I read here stories of trans women who live stealth at their job and it generally goes unnoticed. Clothing is a big thing in getting people to notice we're trans. Now I get called Mrs on the street, but usually people apologize right after saying "Sir", so it's what I wear they first notice, and then I don't know what they notice that make them say "Sir", my voice maybe, my jaw, whatever, but transsexualism is so out of this world for them, it's not even an option they consider, so... so it'll be the same for your parents, they probably will not notice any change and they may even never admit that you are trans... but that doesn't matter since you know that you are
Title: Re: I did it!! It finally happened!! :D
Post by: EmilyRyan on October 19, 2017, 07:50:24 PM
Far as dealing with family goes we'll see what happens

Anyhoo I officially start my job at Walgreens next Friday :)