So I decided to take Laurie's advice and make a new 're introduction thread' and let people know what I've been up to until now..
Some of you probably remember me, most probably don't, and that's perfectly okay.
What's new and exciting for Angela?
Well, I'm OUT. To pretty much everybody. I've been full'time for what seems like forever and it's *AWESOME.*
I'm out to friends, I'm out to family, I'm out at *WORK.* (All of these terrified the heck out of me, but once it was done it was done and there was no going back and that was *AWESOME*. I'm going to repeat *AWESOME* a bazillion times btdubs.) I will admit, a lot of crying occurred in the interim. My mother honestly thought I was handing her a suicide note when I came out to her (via letter form since I knew I'd be too choked up to say it out loud.) She was absolutely relieved that it wasn't and is even more stoked that she has the daughter she and my father always wanted.. My brother, he told me he kinda knew all along. (sunuva..) Same with my cousins ect, the general reaction was 'what took YOU so long?' *grinds teeth.*
Work has been actually, the least emotionally draining, of all my 'coming out.' Basically it came down to one thing, 'Does she have the right? yes she does. Does anybody have the right to object? No they don't. Moving on.' It hasnt been without its hiccups, ie male security guards groping me on the regular as 'routine checks' (against procedure fyi we use a wand, not hands.) Or the first 3 weeks of being full time at work having to use the mens facilities still because of a procedural 'err' (which has now since been corrected.) The guys were great about it though, they basically escorted me wherever and ensured no foul play happened. My own bodyguards basically. lol
Long story short I've learned I really need to give people a LOT more credit than I used to. My speech pathologist asked me at our last appointment, 'Angela, on average, how much of your day do you spend angry?' That particularly struck me because when I thought about it, actually thought about it, it was approaching 40%. She then said to me 'I feel awful for you because that sounds like a LOT of wasted energy.' Naturally shes right, I spent a LOT of time and energy on worry and anger and all that negativity, and it was for nothing. People have come through for me, and are continuing to do so. WEIRD RIGHT? BUT STILL *AWESOME.*
I actually have patched things up with my folks since, now that they know, ACTUALLY know, their daughter. Hell, I go for dinner dates with my Dad! (WHAT?! No really, he's a big softy. At least towards his not so little girl.)
That's basically all for now.
Oh!
Some pics
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Angela I didn't know you before but all of that sounds great. Also, great pics! What do you for work?
Welcome back Angela
Angela congrats, girl!!!!!! That is definitely all positive things and I feel you on all of them!!!! My work was the same way I told one of my superiors before I came out. She talked to the store manager and it was the same thing. Does she have a right and will it hurt us in some way, NO!! So I told my fellow department supervisors in our weekly meeting. I love the support and love from everyone. A few people from my past did the same thing and said "we suspected you were." I was like I didn't even know for sure then. I love the pic with transformer t-shirt!!!!!!! Being a child growing up in the 80's watched that show along with "my little pony, care bears," and some others. Welcome again!!!!!
Now THAT'S! what I'm talking about Angela!. Thank you for your story. It illustrates once again that it can be done.
I myself have been full time since June 26th. I kind of stumbled into it from a decision to start a little road trip enfemme. One thing led to another and it dawned on my I had been living full time since that date in my trip and I could think of no reason to stop once I returned home. I documented my whole month long cross country adventure in this thread. Road Trip (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,224341.0.html)
Thank you, Angela
Hugs,
Laurie
Angela, thank you for the reintroduction! Sounds like you've been on a largely positive journey, and you're looking great in your pictures. X
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Hi Angela,
I welcomed you on Laurie's welcoming page, but I'll take the opportunity to do so again on your official intro.
Welcome!
Love your pictures, too.
Quote from: Charlie Nicki on October 22, 2017, 06:48:44 PM
Angela I didn't know you before but all of that sounds great. Also, great pics! What do you for work?
I'm a Union Carpenter. ^.^
Its nice to meet you. :3
Quote from: Jailyn on October 22, 2017, 08:55:56 PM
Angela congrats, girl!!!!!! That is definitely all positive things and I feel you on all of them!!!! My work was the same way I told one of my superiors before I came out. She talked to the store manager and it was the same thing. Does she have a right and will it hurt us in some way, NO!! So I told my fellow department supervisors in our weekly meeting. I love the support and love from everyone. A few people from my past did the same thing and said "we suspected you were." I was like I didn't even know for sure then. I love the pic with transformer t-shirt!!!!!!! Being a child growing up in the 80's watched that show along with "my little pony, care bears," and some others. Welcome again!!!!!
Yeah. Its been quite a ride. For the most part the ladies are taking kindly to me as well. Most of them were strangers before so they ONLY know Angela.
The guys have been stellar as far as policing themselves and eachother. Really incredible given our construction atmosphere.
Yeah Im a huge and unapologetic nerd. I have shirts from everything comic sci fi horror or just plain silly in nature and I dont plan on ever changing rofl