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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Bari Jo on November 04, 2017, 12:59:02 PM

Title: snooping relatives
Post by: Bari Jo on November 04, 2017, 12:59:02 PM
Do you ever have those relatives that snoop over?  It seems all of mine do, i have just gotten used to it.  Yes, youve found herbal hormones, yes you have found ladies panties, yes you have found nail polish, yes, i have issues.  The odd thing is they have never said anything about it.  For the next fwo seeks, my sister is staying at my place taking care of my dog while im gone.  I deliberately put a letter in my underwear drawer for her to find this trip.  It isnt a gotcha, more of a coming out letter.  We shall see if she finds it.

Bari Jo
Title: Re: snooping relatives
Post by: Julia1996 on November 04, 2017, 01:19:14 PM
Quote from: Bari Jo on November 04, 2017, 12:59:02 PM
Do you ever have those relatives that snoop over?  It seems all of mine do, i have just gotten used to it.  Yes, youve found herbal hormones, yes you have found ladies panties, yes you have found nail polish, yes, i have issues.  The odd thing is they have never said anything about it.  For the next fwo seeks, my sister is staying at my place taking care of my dog while im gone.  I deliberately put a letter in my underwear drawer for her to find this trip.  It isnt a gotcha, more of a coming out letter.  We shall see if she finds it.

Bari Jo

That's a good idea actually.  If you're pretty sure she's going to snoop. But then what if she finds the letter but won't say anything because she doesn't want to admit she snooped. Maybe you should just leave the letter where you know she will find it like on the fridge with her name on it. That way you will have some time for her to absorb it before you see her.

The only snoopy  person I've ever had to deal with is my mom. A few months ago before she had moved out she was snooping in my room and found lube ,blindfolds and wrist cuffs in my nightstand and she found my 4 point restraints under my bed. She had no problem telling me she was snooping in my stuff and asked me "what in the ## I was doing with (that boy)". Lol I told her to use her imagination.  She told me I could at least have the decency to be embarrassed.  If you snoop in someone's stuff you take a chance of embarrassing yourself by what you might find.
Title: Re: snooping relatives
Post by: Bari Jo on November 04, 2017, 01:35:59 PM
I thought about leaving it out in the open and i actually wanted to do that.  This first weekend shes with her new husband.  Although he might be accepting, i wanted the first coming out to family be just with her.  So, its in my undies drawer.

Bari Jo
Title: Re: snooping relatives
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on November 04, 2017, 10:50:41 PM
very smart I love that idea