At the age of 57, I've been able to survive to the point that I can retire and collect a pension. I would think that all of you who are reading this understands how difficult this has been. I'm MTF, have had no life, no ability to function sexually with either a man or a woman due to the constant gender conflict, and only have one friend, an individual with whom I've lived with for more than 31 years. There is a problem as he's gay, and cannot accept living with a woman. He's in fair health, 75 years old, sometimes falls, and is dependant on me for to help with daily living. I'm reluctant to cause us to separate since I would on one hand feel incredibly guilty, and on the other, I need his support. I also have Hepatitis C, and the doctor wants me to "try" the current teatment which for me, has an extremely low chance of success and would incapacitate me for a prolonged period with the side effects. The therapist can only offer HRT as an option for me, since I've been routinely cross dressing in public, everthing except a skirt or dress for many, many years. This how I'm SUPPOSED to dress, and I've always done it. So. Now that I can begin HRT and finally transition, I can't/wont. I'm feeling extremely trapped, and just don't know how to proceed. If anyone has any ideas, I'd love to hear from you!
Its just my opinion, but if his love depends
your physical form and you feel trapped by it,
I'm not sure your getting a fair deal out of this.
What about your life?
My feeling is that the relationship is highly assymetric.
If you truly feel as you do, when that person's gone,
there's a good chance you will resent it.
Of course, you're right, but he is the only person in my life, and is someone who has always been supportive and non judgemental. There is also the issue of the Hepatitis C, which, in the eyes of the doctor that I've spoken to, an endocrinologist; at this time he considers HRT inadvisable on medical grounds. So, yes, I feel as though I should consider alternatives.
Your Endo doesn't know what he's talking about,
Bio E has in patches has just about no effect on
the liver!!! Does he think women with Hepatitis C
are more in danger than men!! Bull!!
Hmmmm... a sixteen year relationship with my ex-boyfriend vanished down the drain after I had SRS. Sorry but *I* did what I had to do. I didn't have any options. It was transition/SRS or death and I really didn't want to die...so yeah..
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Quote from: Tink on December 10, 2007, 09:02:02 PM
Hmmmm... a sixteen year relationship with my ex-boyfriend vanished down the drain after I had SRS. Sorry but *I* did what I had to do. I didn't have any options. It was transition/SRS or death and I really didn't want to die...so yeah..
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Hello, April,
I agree with Kiera and Tink. There are choices for HRT that don't involve oral medications.
Wing Walker
Funny you should mention that... I had Hep C and would have begun hormones more than 2 years ago... but a gastroenterologist advised me not to, until I'd done the Hep C treatment, which was extremely brutal and nearly killed me. That doctor was an evil transphobe too. After that, I finally began the hormones last year. At the time I hadn't yet found out about the transgender clinic or my options for estrogen delivery. I'll ask my endo next time I see him.
If I understand you correctly, your relationship is one of being friends and supporting each other. I don't understand why he would be unwilling to remain with you. Does he actually dislike women or is he just really uncomfortable with one being in the same household? It seems kind of strange since you seem to have a good relationship and situation. Perhaps you can explore with him whether there is a way to remain together yet each maintain your own space in a way that would satisfy both of you.
Choices? No, there aren't any choices for a transsexual.
Quote from: Natasha on December 22, 2007, 06:43:24 PM
Choices? No, there aren't any choices for a transsexual.
"Death" is a valid "choice"! :-\
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