What is THE best thing (or things) after finally having the top surgery ;D?
Going to the beach shirtless? Not having to bind anymore? Finally being able to wear that favorite revealing shirt of yours? Not having to care about "if they show"?
How does it feel finally having it done? Do you wake up every day with absolute bliss, or... ;D? Does the flat chest affect your mood years down the line?
Or did you get used to it very quickly and now don't notice it anymore, :D?
- Tell me anything, ;D! What goes through your mind about this? -
I'd say not wearing a binder definitely. Just the simple feeling of being able to stretch my shoulders whenever I want too and not having to stoop slightly to hide my chest. Then secondary to that putting my hands on my chest and feeling how flat it is. It felt amazing when I did this when wearing a binder but now feels 10x better
I´m going to lurk here because I have 1.5 months to go, but I would say:
- not having to tape down my chest (I use KT tape)
- letting grow my chest hair (which I can´t do due to the tape, plus it looks... kinda ffed up.
- dancing around half naked
Oh man, am I looking forward to it ;D
Quote from: Elis on November 18, 2017, 03:58:44 AM
I'd say not wearing a binder definitely. Just the simple feeling of being able to stretch my shoulders whenever I want too and not having to stoop slightly to hide my chest. Then secondary to that putting my hands on my chest and feeling how flat it is. It felt amazing when I did this when wearing a binder but now feels 10x better
i agree with this. after i had surgery, it was like how did i even survive wearing a binder. it's also how clothes fit better. just everything about it is great.
I'm doing my research now for my top surgery, and I can't wait until I can go to the beach shirtless!
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I imagine there will be lots of things -
less fat in the body producing estrogen
they won't get in the way any more
you can sleep on your stomach
you can run
you won't be "indecent" when topless
people won't be staring in the area reminding you of them, including yourself
you won't have to stoop shoulders or dress loose to hide them
no more binders no more bras
no sweating in the region
no back pain from them if you're "well endowed"
Quote from: Viktor on December 16, 2017, 05:23:33 PM
I imagine there will be lots of things -
less fat in the body producing estrogen
they won't get in the way any more
you can sleep on your stomach
you can run
you won't be "indecent" when topless
people won't be staring in the area reminding you of them, including yourself
you won't have to stoop shoulders or dress loose to hide them
no more binders no more bras
no sweating in the region
no back pain from them if you're "well endowed"
Well said ;D!
Now I have to make a list too:
Things I'm waiting the most:
- not having two tumors anymore hanging down from my body aka finally deliberated from them!!!
- having a flat, male chest as always should have been the case
- not having an 'off' shadow!!
- not being freaked out when I walk past a mirror sideways...
- NO MORE BINDING!!!!!!!!
- I can finally step out of the shower & put a shirt on immediately
- I can finally wear low-cut shirts, leave buttons undone etc.
- I can wear whatever
- I can go to the beach shirtless
- I can enjoy summer
- I can go outside with just a T on
- My life will improve by 90% - or 1000%
- I can look myself in the mirror topless without feeling I'm an alien monster
- I can have sex topless
- I can interact with people!!!
- I won't be a guy with boobs anymore
etc. etc. etc. etc.
I could figure out a thousand best things, I think...
Let's leave it at that!
I'm hoping that I will be having my surgery in 2018... here is what I'm waiting for:
FREEDOM!
Liberation from the physical and psychological weight of them. I hate them and I have wanted them gone for almost 30 years.
I'm also hoping that my clothes will fit better, my dysphoria will be less, my fitness will be able to improve, no binders...
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-taking my dog out shirtless in PJ bottoms at 10pm (when it's warm of course)
-being able to exercise again
-lounging shirtless all the time
-not having to think about binding- like not having to remind myself "oh I've had it on for 12 hours I need to take it off"
-BEING ABLE TO WEAR ALL MY SHIRTS! I had so many shirts I could only wear on 'good' days because of how they would hug my chest. I have a shirt that is my "I want to look good" shirt, but before I basically never wore it because the look of the not-quite-pecs bothered me more than the shirt made me feel good. Now, I ALWAYS love to wear it :)
-lying on my stomach and there not being anything there
Honestly for me I don't really have many 'euphoria' moments where I get super excited and happy about my chest. I finally just feel normal. I never noticed how NOT normal I felt before. I knew I had dysphoria, but I feel so -content- now. I don't even think about it, it's just normal, it's how I am and how I am supposed to be. I never actually truly noticed how often I thought about my chest pre-surgery, and it's so nice to NOT think about it now.
Quote from: CursedFireDean on December 17, 2017, 03:50:07 PM
-taking my dog out shirtless in PJ bottoms at 10pm (when it's warm of course)
-being able to exercise again
-lounging shirtless all the time
-not having to think about binding- like not having to remind myself "oh I've had it on for 12 hours I need to take it off"
-BEING ABLE TO WEAR ALL MY SHIRTS! I had so many shirts I could only wear on 'good' days because of how they would hug my chest. I have a shirt that is my "I want to look good" shirt, but before I basically never wore it because the look of the not-quite-pecs bothered me more than the shirt made me feel good. Now, I ALWAYS love to wear it :)
-lying on my stomach and there not being anything there
Honestly for me I don't really have many 'euphoria' moments where I get super excited and happy about my chest. I finally just feel normal. I never noticed how NOT normal I felt before. I knew I had dysphoria, but I feel so -content- now. I don't even think about it, it's just normal, it's how I am and how I am supposed to be. I never actually truly noticed how often I thought about my chest pre-surgery, and it's so nice to NOT think about it now.
Sounds awesome! Your post made me smile :)
i'm miles away from surgery, but sure would be nice looking forward to things like being able to go swimming, not having to worry about how long i've been wearing a binder, not having to struggle into one every day, being able to hang around topless, being able to finally wear tank tops, not getting nauseous every time something rubs against or bumps into me, not having to deal with horrible sweat keeping me constantly broken out in very unpleasant places... being able to stand up straight without worrying, and just generally having one less stupid thing to constantly be sitting in the back of my mind all day.
It's barely been two days and only my left side has started to heal, but the best feeling is the feeling of normalcy - things finally just make sense :)
I had my top surgery almost 4 years ago now (March 10th is my 4 years mark) and for me the best things about my chest post op are quite subtle and maybe a bit weird:
- When lying in bed for going to sleep and I hold my stuffed tiger against my chest and feel it so close to my heart without those... "things" being in the way and feeling wrong. (Yes I still sleep with stuffed animals even though I'm almost 30, judge me all you want...)
- When taking a shower and just stroking my chest without feeling any resistence, that it's just flat all the way down (little too far down though, I wish there would be a bump somewhere around there, but still!)
- Seeing how my chest hair grows and I keep thinking things like "this patch of hair right there under my nipple used to be the skin that was above my nipple before surgery" and how that's kind of fascinatingly unreal still somehow.
- Fantasising about getting a nipple piercing (might work, cause I know of other trans guys who've gotten it when post-op, but depends on the scarring, but now I have to wait until after my bottom surgery) and a chest piece tattoo that I'll never be able to afford.
- When despite being so unmuscular I can still see that I have pecs when I move my arms in certain ways, cause I couldn't see them at all before surgery.
- Yep, wearing an open shirt or preferably a shirt that's just not buttoned all the way up, cause I'm still a bit insecure about my stomach being a little pudgy on most days. But honestly I still get weird looks whenever I'm shirtless or have an occasional "nip slip" cause everyone's so prude around here...
I still find myself very happy over my results and still have my moments of "euphoria" over my chest. So, very much most definitely worth it for me. I still notice it, every time I either see or touch my chest, or if someone else does, and it always makes me smile. So that feeling never did fade for me, and I don't think it will anytime soon. However, I also did have post-op dysphoria for almost a year after my surgery. That kind of phenomenon I've noticed few ever wants to talk about. I can see why, it's not very nice having to deal with. It made me feel ungrateful and sh*tty at every turn. But eventually that post-op dysphoria actually quite poetically started fading when my scars started fading too.
Not wearing a binder actually wasn't the most amazing thing for me, although I did get very tired of the post-op binder thing that I had to wear 24/7 for 3 weeks straight. It was driving me crazy. So I was very glad to be rid of that thing.
When I just had my surgery, it was actually quite a bit of an emotional shock for me. I had my first post op shower 9 or 10 days after the surgery and I hadn't fully seen my chest until then, just a glimpse directly after surgery when the surgeon came by to take a look at me and I was still drowsy from the anesthesia. However in my own shower later on I literally almost passed out by just seeing my chest properly for the first time. It didn't look bad at all, but just how different I looked took me completely off guard.
I had the double incision with nipple grafts method, by the way, and it took forever to heal (I had to wear dressings up until 2 months after op). I was given the option to go with either that or the peri-areolar method, and most of my post-op dysphoria was about that I had regretted that I didn't go with peri instead. But I just had the feeling that it was too high a risk that my chest wouldn't have turned out even and flat if I had gone with peri, cause I had a B-cup chest, almost C-cup. I thought my surgeon was crazy for even suggesting peri. So it took me a while to kinda learn to be okay with my scars, and even appreciate them. They're still not entirely white now 4 years later, but more like a pale brown, kinda beige/tan colour while my skintone is very light so scars show very well on me unless they're white, then they blend right in. It makes me somehow feel as though I'm still ambivalent about my chest but I'm really not. It was bad, then it got better and been awesome ever since. I hope I'm not discouraging anyone though! The odds of you going through what I did are probably very tiny.
Quote from: SeptagonScars on February 01, 2018, 07:04:07 PM
(Yes I still sleep with stuffed animals even though I'm almost 30, judge me all you want...)
Hey, I have stuffed animals too ;D!
Quote from: SeptagonScars on February 01, 2018, 07:04:07 PM
I still find myself very happy over my results and still have my moments of "euphoria" over my chest. So, very much most definitely worth it for me. I still notice it, every time I either see or touch my chest, or if someone else does, and it always makes me smile. So that feeling never did fade for me, and I don't think it will anytime soon.
Sounds awesome.....!!!
Quote from: SeptagonScars on February 01, 2018, 07:04:07 PM
I hope I'm not discouraging anyone though! The odds of you going through what I did are probably very tiny.
Ha, you're not discouraging, far from it ;D! Quite the contrary actually!
Quote from: PurpleWolf on March 03, 2018, 04:50:56 PM
Hey, I have stuffed animals too ;D!
Sounds awesome.....!!!
Ha, you're not discouraging, far from it ;D! Quite the contrary actually!
Stuffed animals are great. They're like pets but they don't try to cratch your face off when you squeeze them ;) (I'm joking, be kind to pets if you have any)
It is awesome, definitely!
That's good. Sometimes mentioning post-op dysphoria can sound a little discouraging. But I'm glad it doesn't for you!
Throwing away all bras for ever.
Oh man, such a good feeling.
I can not wait to feel the wind through my shirt and reach my body :icon_joy: