How do you identify? Do you consider yourself just a man/woman or do you use the terms transgender, transsexual, trans woman/man, mtf, ftm, non-binary, genderfluid or what...? Which terms do you prefer? Are there some you don't like or don't identify with?
Has this identification changed after transitioning, going on hormones etc.? (I've heard some people were uncomfortable with some terms pre-everything but later felt comfortable referring to themselves as "transgender" or "trans man" for example.)
How do you introduce yourself to other people? Do you use different terms when describing yourself to others as in your head?
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I personally feel I'm just "a guy". I don't use the term trans man nor ftm or anything. If anything, to me the term "transgender" or "ftm" is strictly a description of a medical condition. Like in a forum such as this. But I don't feel any connection to those words whatsoever. I'm just a guy. I don't feel any different to any other people.
I am transgender, transsexual or trans woman. I am working on just plain woman which will come as I live it longer. I hate the term queer. I am also Monica, Moni, and sometimes Dad.
Same as you; im just a guy. Or a person. I don't feel a particular connection to the label of male. Trans is just the type of human I am. FTM I feel is archaic as a term as I was never female just assigned that way because of assumptions. Non binary or/and agender I feel more of a connection towards. But rather just be seen as a person.
Quote from: Elis on November 19, 2017, 01:22:52 PM
But rather just be seen as a person.
This!
Quote from: Elis on November 19, 2017, 01:22:52 PM
FTM I feel is archaic as a term as I was never female just assigned that way because of assumptions.
I agree. I think MTF and FTM is in the same category as the word "sex change" as if you are first female and then make a conscious decision to become a man or something... weird. Does not work that way!
I use the labels "transgender" or "trans". And that's it.
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To other trans people, I introduce myself as agender. That's what most accurately describes my gender identity.
When the topic comes up in everyday life, I introduce myself as genderqueer, because people are more likely to understand why that means. I don't generally bring up my gender unless someone asks about it though.
To medical professionals, I identify myself as FTM. I'm afab and on HRT and that's what they need to know.
For the time being and foreseeable future, transgender woman. I am pre-HRT (any day now...), and not out to many people so I don't introduce myself as anything.
I don't, I am me, first and foremost I am Liz.
Wether I am transgender/transsexual/mtf/woman is generally not something I get into with CIS people. Most people don't introduce themselves to me as "Hi I'm Mary and I am Heterosexual or My name is Eric am I am Gay"
If people ask or it comes up in conversation(rarely in both cases) I am Transsexual, or a Trans Woman.
Was looking at this question last night about myself, im very analitical and always liked to know what box everything is in for just about anything so labels were good as it helped my brain understand things.
After staring at them for awhile and getting down to about 10 or so of the ones i was able to find- half of which seamee to contradicted each other i now decide i dont like lables and i cant put myself into one of those boxes right now.
All i can tell right now thats its not male but i guess the more time that goes by ill get a better understsnding of myself
Quote from: Shambles on November 19, 2017, 09:57:07 PM
Was looking at this question last night about myself, im very analitical and always liked to know what box everything is in for just about anything so labels were good as it helped my brain understand things.
After staring at them for awhile and getting down to about 10 or so of the ones i was able to find- half of which seamee to contradicted each other i now decide i dont like lables and i cant put myself into one of those boxes right now.
All i can tell right now thats its not male but i guess the more time that goes by ill get a better understsnding of myself
That's the right approach. I took about 6 weeks to decide I actually was a trans woman and not somewhere less extreme(in the binary sense) on the spectrum. Even then, I think keeping a questioning attitude and not taking anything for granted is healthy. A few people here I've seen say they thought they were, or perhaps even had to be, trans female or trans male only to eventually decide they were non-binary.
I tend to be skeptical about labels myself, but sometimes you just find one that fits, which I feel I did in my case. But it should definitely be a label of your choice, and not one imposed on you by anyone, be it society at large or even the trans community itself.
Quote from: ElizabethK on November 19, 2017, 07:39:22 PM
I don't, I am me, first and foremost I am Liz.
Wether I am transgender/transsexual/mtf/woman is generally not something I get into with CIS people. Most people don't introduce themselves to me as "Hi I'm Mary and I am Heterosexual or My name is Eric am I am Gay"
If people ask or it comes up in conversation(rarely in both cases) I am Transsexual, or a Trans Woman.
Exactly, I'm stealth, never comes up in conversation, wether we're straight, gay, trans or whatever, first and foremost I am a woman and my name is Pauline, then sometimes further information is sometimes required, ''married or single'' answer married woman, occupation fulltime housewife, that's it. Nobody discloses on introduction being trans, gay, queer whatever.
After some more thought I like idea of somthing I could pull off - the lesbian tomboy kick ass trans female although give me 5 mins and I'll probably come up with something else. I'm thinking segorny weaver from the first alien film to be exact...
I'm Michelle, a 64 year old woman.
If orientation is important, "I'm a femme lesbian" and optionally "with a touch of genderqueer."
If that promotes The Look, I may add "I got this way by being a transgender person."
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I am just a woman. I don't discuss my past with those that did not know me before i transitioned (except for doctors).
Quote from: ainsley on November 20, 2017, 09:33:46 AM
I am just a woman. I don't discuss my past with those that did not know me before i transitioned (except for doctors).
^^^ This. If I develop a very close friendship I may make an exception, but that will be very rare.
Internally, mostly woman, externally male as I am pre transition. MTF is the standard acronym. For me it's not a medical issue, but one of development, like someone that has autism or being left handed. I'm just another expression of what it is to be human.
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Normally I just see myself as a woman with a history of transitioning. For convenience sake I might say trans woman or transsexual woman (if relevant) but I don't like to disclose it. In an ideal world it wouldn't matter but I don't want people's ignorance to change their perception of me.
I see me as a guy trapped in a woman's body. I'm pre T and pre op.
I use ftm to make people understand, who know the term, in what direction I'm going. To people not familiar with the term, I say I'm a guy in the wrong body.
People on internet, not knowing me. I'm just another dude.
Tony
Just a guy.
Most of my friends knew me before, but it´s fine and not talked about often.
Before my physical transition I used to see myself, first as genderfluid, then as transgender, and genderqueer. Now I only use the term transgender to indicate the medical procedure, and I´ve dropped the queer altogheter.
Transitioning has made me very boring :D
Just female. I don't tell anyone I'm trans.
I feel myself as a transgender. I don't like the term transsexual. I prefer trans-woman or just plainly woman. I introduce myself as Jailyn and leave it at that. I don't explain myself. Now if I am telling people about myself then I might bring up that I am trans. Otherwise no need to disclose.
I don't like any of the terms.
In my own head I don't need a term or a name as I know exactly what I am without words.
For the purposes of a forum such as this I'm FTM.
For the purposes of my doctor and strict scientific debate, I'm transsexual: born XX, feels male, lives male, operates on male hormones.
For the purposes of everyday life, just a man.
I'm a man simple as that!
I don't feel any attachment to any other term than 'man' or 'male' because that's what I am.
And I introduce myself by my name like every person does!
Transsexual only refers to the fact that I medically/physically transition for me and I personally see it as a term that describes my medical status and medical history but I don't identify myself over this, just like I don't identify myself over suffering from asthma and allergies.
I don't disclose my medical history to people and it's none of their business anyway.
I don't like the label FtM at all. It implies that I would have been "female" at one point and I never was; females have female brains and I have not and never had. I strongly dislike anything containing the word "female" in regards to me. So I personally never use that label for transmen, I couldn't care less if others do though even though I don't like it.
How do you identify? Do you consider yourself just a man/woman or do you use the terms transgender, transsexual, trans woman/man, mtf, ftm, non-binary, genderfluid or what...? Which terms do you prefer? Are there some you don't like or don't identify with?
I consider myself "just another guy," but I'm now starting to feel its "okay" for me to refer to myself as "male." I'm also starting to say "I'm just a man," which I felt I had to work myself up to doing. Now that I've been on T for a year and am starting to grow real facial hair and other changes, I'm actually starting to look like a man. It might be some time until I'm comfortable in saying "I'm a man" to others though.
Has this identification changed after transitioning, going on hormones etc.? (I've heard some people were uncomfortable with some terms pre-everything but later felt comfortable referring to themselves as "transgender" or "trans man" for example.)
I'll always be transgender, but I don't have to tell others that I am. I'm not stealth, I simply feel that unless I plan on having sex with someone, its irrelevant for them to know. Before I started growing facial hair and my voice deepened, I felt like "a guy," but now that my voice had deepened and I have a (light) beard and mustache, I feel more like "a man." Maybe once I get my top surgery, I'll finally feel comfortable referring to myself as "a man." Introducing myself to others I usually say "I"m male/a guy," especially on the increasingly rare times I'm misgendered.
How do you introduce yourself to other people? Do you use different terms when describing yourself to others as in your head?
See above answers.
Ryuichi
Not much into labels, but could be TransGender, Transsexual, MtF... non would bother me or necessarily be more preferable
When I introduce myself, it's "Hi. I'm Michelle. She, Her, Hers."
If people want more specifics, "I'm a 64 year old lesbian."
If some fool decides that they're going to save the world, or at least other lesbians, by disclosing my origin, "Of course I'm a transgender person! That's how I got this way!"
And no, I'm not trying to fool anyone. I'm generally not planning on stripping naked in public, nor am I planning on hopping into bed with someone I just met. My disclosing being transgender to someone I just met is about as relevant as announcing that I drive a Prius, or have French Canadian ancestry. They're all about how I got there, not who I am.
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Quote from: Michelle_P on December 05, 2017, 09:22:29 AM
My disclosing being transgender to someone I just met is about as relevant as announcing that I drive a Prius, or have French Canadian ancestry.
Sadly, it is not uncommon for people to randomly bring up they drive a Prius when you first meet them. ;D
When I introduce myself to someone, I introduce myself as "Hi, I'm Kathy." That's all they need to know. If they guess more, I don't particularly care as long as they don't make a big deal of it.
My sexual orientation is relevant only to my wife. The fact that I have a wife makes it obvious to most people that I am a lesbian. I don't need to advertise it. There are few times when it is relevant.
To myself, I consider myself a transgender woman. I haven't been living the role long enough to drop the adjective and just call myself a woman. Hopefully, that will come in time.
I use the words trans or trans man in places like this or in the medical world.
I don't introduce myself with my gender, people see me and they make an assumption. Being many months on T I'm thankful that this is now male 99.9% of the time. I'm a guy, a '12 year old, not old enough to drink' looking guy, but man nonetheless. I think I've told 5 people in 1.5 years that Im trans that I didn't know pre transition, 2 of them I was drunk and one I was outed. People don't need to know and I dont want to deal with the judgement that comes with the label 'transgender'.