This is a dilemma for me. I want SRS, but I want it to fit in. If I did get it, I would not use it for its intended purpose, to have sex with men. I will never have sex with a man. Not interested, never have been, never will be, period, end of story. The "VJ" is the part that would never get used. And it comes with a host of problems. The constants dilation and being prone to infection and bleeding. Also, most doctors are not trained in trans health. I just don't have the incentive to put up with that kind of maintenance and risk. So if I got full SRS, I would just not dilate and let it close up. I don't care either way. But it's very expensive, so it would be a waste of money. So I wonder if there is a partial SRS where they create a facade with just the basic opening and clitoris. That would be perfect in my case.
Yes, it's called cosmetic SRS, if you search around the forums you'll find more in depth discussions of what it is and the pros/cons.
My understanding (I'm not a doctor) is yes, it's called a few different names, but you can have a vulvaplasty instead of a vaginoplasty.
This will give you the external appearance of a female, but with no vaginal cavity for penetration. No dilation is required in this scenario.
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I know of several doctors who offer it including Dr Ley/Dr Meltzer. Actually you get a very shallow vagina in the order of an inch so the appearance is correct but it's not necessary to dilate or preform any special care. The surgery is shorter because there is less work and the recovery is much faster.
What you're describing is very common among the "ladyboy" population in Thailand, many of whom cannot afford a full SRS and would get vaginoplasty if they could.
That said, you might wish to consider that penetrative sex is not the exclusive domain of those whose anatomy includes a phallus, and there's the possibility of feeling 'left out' or marginalized in certain situations if you believed it was. Just food for thought.
This is good to know, thanks. I want to know all my options. I am a long way from making any decisions.
I subscribe to a lesbian channel on YouTub and they did a survey on penetrative sex. Many lesbians don't have any interest like hetro women do.
I am not sure if complications are common for SRS, or if it's just that the people who do have problems are more vocal about it.
Most surgeons that I have asked about it call it cosmetic vaginoplasty. They have to have a short cavity, explained to me as 1-2 inches to give an anchor and some depth to the space between labia major. All physical characteristics and nerves are kept intact and functional. Clitoris is functional, and internal nerves in the cavity, so far as it goes, are intact and functional Manual stimulation in either case should result in pleasure for the recipient. The surgery is reduced by about two hours and regular dilation is not required and recovery is shorter and reduced risk of fistulas, etc. No reason that you can't still keep the cavity functional to some degree allowing the use of balls or other shallow sex toy if desired. I have opted for such a surgery in Feb. and will be happy to report results at that time. My reasons are similar to your own and since my age is up there, easier recovery is an important consideration. In any case, my body dysphoria will still disappear. Price is the same. Toni
I'm so glad i stumbled in here. I will be very glad to look into this option for myself in the future. I don't need full vaginal penetration, and my wife certainly won't benefit from me having a complete vagina. Thank you to Graykat for the post and all respondents.
Regards,
Chloe
I do remember seeing a webpage about a transwoman who was contemplating such a procedure - but she ultimately decided to go with a full vaginoplasty. Her issue, and something you should consider too, is there any chance you might have remorse for not going with a full SRS? If you change your mind then getting depth will be a lot harder (typically either skin grafts or your colon would need to be used then).
I had a partial or shallow or blind or cosmetic vaginoplasty done just about three months ago by Dr. Ley out of Dr. Meltzer's office. My reasons for getting it were similar to yours, I did not want my old junk and neither my wife nor I have any interest in penetration. The cost was a bit less, the procedure was marginally shorter, the recovery may have been shorter (hard to tell with my case study size of 1), and no dilation. The risks were also lower which was a big factor for us. So far my healing is going well but, like with a full vaginoplasty, the swelling and tenderness persist way longer than desired. I am still very pleased with the direction that we chose. Feel free to pm me with any specific questions.
Tia Anne
My partner and I discussed both options with Dr. Ley and we both decided that full depth would be the better option. I was leaning towards a partial, but beyond dilation and a shorter recovery no difference in out lay of funds (insurance) My pros were for partial were,never been attracted to men and no dilation, there were no other pros. The negatives were non penetrative intercourse. So in 5 weeks 10 hours 8 minutes will have full depth procedure (yes I am counting the minutes) I hope this was not intrusive or off topic.
I am seriously considering the cosmetic option, for similar reasons. My wife and I have no need for penetration. Even if, for some reason, I were to look for another partner at some time in the future, that partner would have to be okay with me the way I was (or they'd be out of the running). I like the shorter, easier recovery and the lack of ongoing maintenance.
There is a wole other thread on the subject that is still fairly current here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,230982.0.html (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,230982.0.html)
If it helps at all, Dr. Ley told me that if at any time I decided that I needed a full depth vagina it could be done without "major" complications. Not on my wish list but it suggests that choosing the partial does not lock out later options.
I am not arguing for or against this procedure. I will offer my perspective for your consideration. I am GCS 5 month post op. I think there are no guarantees on what will be sensitive post surgery. So far, my clitoris is way less pleasurable then a vibrator inserted. I like the idea that I have two options for pleasure if one area is insensitive. Most likely I will never have sex with a man, but I am interested in being able to have pleasure, be it with a vibrator. Each woman must decide what is best for them.
Moni