I came out to my parents. It was really hard. My parents are supportive above all else, even if they don't understand. I encouraged them to ask questions so they could hopefully understand. I can forgive how they reacted at first because it would have been a shock to them.
Two days later my mum was asking about how qualified my psychiatrists are. I can't help but be a little hurt by that. It's kind of like implying I'm not even capable of thinking for myself, and that somehow two psychiatrists got it wrong. I'm not sure if I should just let it go, or explain that asking was a little hurtful.
Big hug! That's a huge step!
Let it go. Your mom is just concerned, and still sorting this out. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Quote from: Devlyn Marie on November 20, 2017, 05:52:49 AM
Let it go. Your mom is just concerned, and still sorting this out. :)
I second that! That sounds just like General concerned Mom stuff. It sounds like it overall went well. Congrats on taking this big step!
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I agree. Your mom is worried and just wants the best for you.
Congrats, I bet that was hard. I'm going to do that with Mom in a couple weeks. Dad, maybe a week after that. Dreading it, but it's got to be done.
Oh and let it go, there will be lots of questions. The one I really expect is, are you sure you aren't gay.
Bari Jo
It is pretty hard coming out to anyone especially parents. My dad actually phoned my psychiatrist telling her that she is wrong and leading me down the wrong path and wanted me to change to a 'proper' psychiatrist. It is just something they do because they are looking for another way out of the situation and is maybe in denial. It will pass and all will be fine. Congrats on the big step
Jamie!!!
Congrats on the brave step forward!!!... Any concern on her part is coming from a core of love!
She is worried because she doesn't yet know what this holds for your future and in her mind she had at least a foggy view of what she thought she saw as your future... Your coming out changes what she foresaw and there will be a period of adjustment for her....in time she will understand your journey... The love between you will always endure!!! Time and patience will be what is needed! All will be well
Hugs!!!
Ashley 😀
Yay! A brave step, I'm glad they've been OK.
As a parent I can say, I'd always support my children, but I'd also want to know they had all the right knowledge and support when making big decisions. I'm sure your mum only has your welfare in mind.
Best of luck with everything. X
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Quote from: Jamie Xu on November 20, 2017, 05:38:56 AM
I came out to my parents. It was really hard. My parents are supportive above all else, even if they don't understand. I encouraged them to ask questions so they could hopefully understand. I can forgive how they reacted at first because it would have been a shock to them.
Two days later my mum was asking about how qualified my psychiatrists are. I can't help but be a little hurt by that. It's kind of like implying I'm not even capable of thinking for myself, and that somehow two psychiatrists got it wrong. I'm not sure if I should just let it go, or explain that asking was a little hurtful.
Congrats for taking that first step - I can't emphasize enough how big a deal that is.
As for parents, that's tough. I haven't really spoken to mine since my wife accidentally outed me - they claim to be supportive, but there's all sorts of little things that leave me thinking they're supportive of the Dave I used to be, and not the Sarah I may become.
But that aside, try and take everything they say with a grain of salt - they're trying, in a very short time frame, to catch up with something that you've known for years. They're going through a roller coaster of "did we do something wrong", "should we have known" and so much more.
But as with so much - honesty is the best policy. If you are hurt by something let them know - odds are they don't even know they've done it, and you're better off addressing it than letting it stew.
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I commend you on your task, a family is one of the tough ones. May I offer that you be as honest and open as you can. Try to explain how you feel and maybe offer a meeting with yur psychiatrist. Embrace who you are, best of luck
Hey Jamie Xu, my therapist is trans which made my mom say "you should go see another therapist who is objective" which annoyed me a lot. So I understand you. But I believe they're just doing their best to understand and want the best for us.
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It was very helpful to hear all your points of view. Sorry for the late reply, yesterday was my travel very far to get electrolysis day.
Always a huge step, Jamie, congrats it seemed to go well. :)
Be happy your mom worries about you, that is a good thing. ;D