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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Bari Jo on December 01, 2017, 12:30:44 AM

Title: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Bari Jo on December 01, 2017, 12:30:44 AM
I picked up my mom from the airport and we went to lunch, then fabric shopping for my bar.  Afterwards we went home and christened the bar.  I had her favorite wine waiting and my beer.  We retired to the lounge area and made small talk for a bit.  I slowed things down and told her I had something I need to talk with her about.  Her face went ashen.  She wanted to know if we as in our interpersonal relationship was okay.  I said yes, then laid it out pretty much how it is in my letter.  I was crying almost immediately.  She was also, and was immediately accepting and supportive.  She even took responsibility for me being trans saying its biological.  I won't let her do that, even with the studies being done.  We hugged a lot and cried.  She said she's mad at me for not coming out sooner.  I couldn't, there's no way I could until now.  All this talk was a good four hours.  I gave her my letter even though we pretty much covered everything.  So at 9:30 we go to bed.  Then at 10, she surprises me in my room, saying she read my letter, and wanted to give me a hug again.  I feel like a cherished little child.  This is what acceptance feels like.

Saturday we have dinner with my dad.  I hope he becomes as accepting.  He is writing me so that is good.  Time will tell.

So now I'm out to both parents and my sister, that's my whole immediate family.  I feel a lot happier now too.

Bari Jo
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Megan. on December 01, 2017, 12:48:34 AM
OMG, wonderful! You've got a fab mum, give her a big hug from me.

Acceptance and support from our parents (in any endeavour) is I think something any child seeks,  I'm very happy you've got it from your Mum, fingers crossed for your dad too. X

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Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: tgirlamg on December 01, 2017, 12:53:51 AM
So Awesome Sister!!!! Congrats to you brave girl...

Hugs!

A😀
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: HappyMoni on December 01, 2017, 03:13:00 AM
So happy for you Bari Jo that is   wonderful.
Moni
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: zirconia on December 01, 2017, 06:33:30 AM
Congratulations! I'm so glad it went well...
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Roll on December 01, 2017, 09:10:37 AM
There is no emoji in the world with a big enough grin for this. Just... congratulations, sincere and true congratulations.

Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: sarah1972 on December 01, 2017, 09:46:15 AM
OMG - I am soon happy for you. This is the greatest response you could ever imagine.
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Bari Jo on December 01, 2017, 09:58:42 AM
I'm feel truly blessed.  Just four months ago, I was asked about my support system and that's when I realized I had none.  It's part of the reason I've failed at transitioning when I DIY'd so many times.  Anyways after being asked I knew I had to expand it and started attending group and Susan's more often. I've heard good and horror stories about coming out.  It weighed heavily, I'm so  glad it's turned out well.  I'll continue to work on my dad too.

Bari Jo
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: KathyLauren on December 01, 2017, 07:25:36 PM
Bari Jo, I am so happy for you that I am crying.  To have the support and understanding of your family is priceless.  Fingers crossed that your dad is as supportive.
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Colleen_definitely on December 01, 2017, 08:09:04 PM
Bari Jo, that is wonderful news. This world needs more parents like your mom.
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Laurie on December 01, 2017, 08:38:27 PM
Bari Jo,

  That was a joy to read even though it made me cry.

Hugs,
   Laurie
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: kat69 on December 02, 2017, 06:52:34 AM
I'm absolutely over the moon for you!   Congratulations girl!
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: Julia1996 on December 02, 2017, 12:02:09 PM
I'm really happy for you. I'm glad you have support from your family. It does make things easier. (Big hugs).☺
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: steph2.0 on December 02, 2017, 12:20:06 PM
YESSSS!!!!

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Dang, Bari Jo, I was just getting ready to put on my makeup, and now you've got my ocular piping leaking all over. I'm so happy for you!! Your mom is so cool!!

Steph
Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: sf_erika on December 02, 2017, 12:46:11 PM
Congrats!!!


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Title: Re: The Talk with Mom OR now out to both parents
Post by: bobbisue on December 02, 2017, 07:28:25 PM
     Congratulations not a dry eye here either your mom sounds awesome I know how great family support is

    bobbisue :)