I want to show a picture of myself but i cant seem to figure out how to do it or find the place where you are allowed to post a picture of yourself, can anyone help me out? Thank you in advance.
I'm assuming you mean how do you post a picture in a thread. Upload your photo to an image sharing site (I use imgur) then use the display link for message boards and cut and paste it into the thread.
Thank you. I'll try imgur then. Does anyone want to see my picture though? Note that i haven't transitioned yet but i think my face and hair is feminine. I sort of want to know what other people think. ;)
Posting pictures is liberating, I say go for it.
I got to say, i am kind of nervous about it though. I hope people don't think i'm ugly or something but just keep in mind i haven't gone through transitioning yet.
Honey,
Post away.
You should have seen me pre-transition - now that was scary!!!!!
Now I'm just terrifying :laugh:
But i haven't went through transition and surgery yet. :(
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 07, 2017, 03:34:32 AM
But i haven't went through transition and surgery yet. :(
Neither have I
The thing is, i don't want people to view me as a man on here. Since i haven't transitioned yet and i put a picture of me up on here, they might start to regard me as a man. That isn't something i want to happen because it will hurt me. Seriously, some people wouldn't believe i am a transgender because of the fact i haven't transitioned yet, which is not true. I am a trans and a woman.
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 07, 2017, 07:59:34 AM
The thing is, i don't want people to view me as a man on here. Since i haven't transitioned yet and i put a picture of me up on here, they might start to regard me as a man. That isn't something i want to happen because it will hurt me. Seriously, some people wouldn't believe i am a transgender because of the fact i haven't transitioned yet, which is not true. I am a trans and a woman.
You don't need to worry about that. It doesn't matter what you look like. People here know you're trans and I can't see anyone considering you male or treating as one.
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 07, 2017, 03:34:32 AM
But i haven't went through transition and surgery yet. :(
Same for many of us, you don't have to worry about that. :)
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 07, 2017, 07:59:34 AM
The thing is, i don't want people to view me as a man on here. Since i haven't transitioned yet and i put a picture of me up on here, they might start to regard me as a man.
This is one of the few places on the planet you don't have to worry about that happening in the slightest!
Ultimately though, all that matters is if you are comfortable posting it and if it is something you want to do.
(Oddly, or perhaps not so oddly given the circumstance, I was more comfortable posting a picture of myself even as I am pre-transition dressed in female clothing than I have ever been posting a picture of me dressed as male. As in I never willingly did the latter, but I've posted quite a few of the former now. :D)
There is absolutely no reason to post a picture if you do not wish to. Do remember to protect yourself and your identity. This is not a closed forum and any pictures you post maybe available on the internet for others to see.
Your security and wellbeing is paramount at all times and that is your responsibility.
You are most welcome as a friend and a sister no matter if you post a picture or not!!!!
Don't worry about what people will say on this site because all of us have been there at one point in our life or another. If anybody is mean, :icon_2gun: that's what moderators are for.
But you may not fully get that mental impression or image out of your heads of my pre-transitioned male state and when i do transition and put a picture up, you still might perceive me as a man. It just has implications to me personally that the more someone gets familiar with my current image, the more they wont accept me being transitioned because that image sticks with you. I dont know if some of you have a photographic memory especially since you dont see me everyday or would know what i look like for a very long time like my dad for instance but i dont know...i'll think about it because even with a feminine face, the masculinity has damaged me and other parts of my body.
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 10, 2017, 06:01:47 PM
i'll think about it because even with a feminine face, the masculinity has damaged me and other parts of my body.
You would be very surprised at what a couple of years of HRT alone can do about that.
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Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 10, 2017, 06:01:47 PM
But you may not fully get that mental impression or image out of your heads of my pre-transitioned male state and when i do transition and put a picture up, you still might perceive me as a man. It just has implications to me personally that the more someone gets familiar with my current image, the more they wont accept me being transitioned because that image sticks with you.
That is absolutely NOT true!!! No one here will see you as a 'man' at any point. I understand your fear... I'm pre-everything! Though I don't exactly look like a girl - I have a fear that if people here saw me in real life they wouldn't be able to see me as a man. But that's all in your head. But I do get your fear.
Everyone here will just see you as you, a woman. You can be at peace.
It seems you have a desire to upload! If so, go ahead! But remember not to do anything you're not sure of. As others have mentioned, this is a public forum after all. But people use Facebook too, so! But no one will see you as a man. Guaranteed!
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Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 10, 2017, 06:01:47 PM
But you may not fully get that mental impression or image out of your heads of my pre-transitioned male state and when i do transition and put a picture up, you still might perceive me as a man. It just has implications to me personally that the more someone gets familiar with my current image, the more they wont accept me being transitioned because that image sticks with you. I dont know if some of you have a photographic memory especially since you dont see me everyday or would know what i look like for a very long time like my dad for instance but i dont know...i'll think about it because even with a feminine face, the masculinity has damaged me and other parts of my body.
Sweetie, no one will think of you as a man at all no matter what you look like. That's one of the wonderful things about this forum! (Also, as I'm sitting here not having shaved in days because of a faulty water heater meaning spending only seconds getting ready in the morning before I'm freezing to death, it would be super hypocritical. ;D)
One of my favorite threads is the Before and After (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,210798.0.html) thread. Even without FFS, many of the transformations are so stunning that it's difficult to believe it's the same person. We were all where you are once. One of my therapist told me to my face that I was to masculine to transition. That's real encouragement.
Yes HRT is amazing from what i heard and its covered by most insurance too if you have a decent coverage.
I guess no one will view me as a man then. I dont look very masculine as far as my face goes and my body is not muscular like a macho man or anything but i am overweight but all this can change and be fixed as i apply myself accordingly towards losing weight and transitioning.
I might post my picture here or in the before and after thread, which one would be ideal? I think more people would see my picture in the other thread than this one.
Dena that therapist was horrible, i cant believe they said that. Was it a therapist that specialized in gender studies and transgenders? That's a gruesome thing to say to a transgender woman. :o
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 11, 2017, 09:38:20 PM
Dena that therapist was horrible, i cant believe they said that. Was it a therapist that specialized in gender studies and transgenders? That's a gruesome thing to say to a transgender woman. :o
When I transitioned, gender therapy didn't exist. The doctor who made the statement was out of the UCLA program and as far as I know, the one who was the best was self taught.
Hi Sheila,
I would suggest you post a picture as your avatar. That way we can see you with each of your posts.
Hugs,
Laurie
Dena, usually the best could be self taught, more practical rather than theorizing. A practical observation is usually the most realistic. Too many people get wrapped up into jumping to conclusions based on speculation rather than practical examination or book smarts rather than experience. If that therapist said you were "too masculine", she was judging based on physical appearance and ignoring that transitioning could fix most of that and ignoring the inner depths of your soul and your female brain. You look like a woman to me in your avatar picture, so i wouldnt let what that therapist said get to you or distract you from who you really are. :D
Really Dena, a therapist should not say that to a trans woman, that is extremely disrespectful which is why i'm sort of cautious about who i speak to so that i dont get hurt because even if you are masculine and say you look completely manly without an ounce or shred of feminine features to your physique transitioning especially nowadays can fix all the damage of masculinity has done to a transgender woman. There are trans women who look like cis women and even look more beautiful and feminine than cis women. I prefer a therapist who has captured the interest of how i feel who i truly am and that has soaked up scientific and medical knowledge about transgenders, not a therapist that is biased in any way like the therapist you mentioned. In a setting where there is bias, there is no hope for moving forward with getting the help and guidance i need. I need one that is completely cooperative and supportive. If the therapist wouldnt say a cis gender woman is masculine than they shouldnt say a trans woman is masculine either, especially to say that you have no hope of transitioning because you're too manly. That obviously is not true.
There are bigots who say we are not real women but they are ignorant and then there are those who say its a sin or disgusting to be transgender or gay which i go over how its not in this thread: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,231230.0.html
I'm hoping my insurance plan covers some of the transitioning i will go through, if not i'll need to keep saving my money but i will not have to do everything and you dont have to pay in one lump sum all the money. It can be paid gradually over time per week or month just like many other medical costs. I know some insurance plans are better depending on the state you live in the US. In more conservative states, its different i think. When did you transition anyway? I was born in 1988.
Laurie i really would make my picture my avatar but most people dont put their pre transitioned picture as an avatar because it reminds them what they used to look like which we hate. I even hate looking at myself in a mirror because i know the person starring back at me in the reflection is not who i am. It triggers a dysphoric attack. I dont want to be reminded of how i look now compared to how i will look after transitioning. Fortunately i wont need a complete makeover even though i would like to get one because trans women who transition fully many people see them as if they were cis gender and couldnt ever tell what they used to be. I dont mind people considering me trans as long as the men i date arent bigoted. I know lots of guys who love trans women as much as cis women, if the trans woman is "hot" and sexy and that's what i want to be but moreover so i can live as a genuine person being the woman i should have been assigned as at birth but that didnt happen especially in 1988 with limited ways of doctors being able to look at the brain and your hormones besides other things that steers one in the direction of being transgender. The doctor just said "oh there's a penis, so male" pretty much...and i'm glad SRS exists now but that will probably come last in my transitioning process but it's not completely necessary even though i want to do it. I dont want my penis to be honest, a cis woman doesnt have one unless they are intersex so why should i but since i'm bisexual it would severely limit my sex with cis women a good bit but there is more than just penetration and intercourse which made me feel awkward to begin with as i always felt i should never had a penis and i rarely ever masturbated.
Actually the therapist was a male fairly fresh out of medical school though I wasn't aware of it at the time. There were few of us around and I am pretty sure much of his practice involved people who needed therapy for other reasons. He told me that at our last session when I was switching to my third therapist where my transition really started so any doubt I had was quickly forgotten. Besides that, the exchange took place nearly 40 years ago so it's ancient history but useful to show how things aren't as they appear.
Hi Sheila,
I only suggested you posting a picture as an avatar because you had been talking of posting one of yourself somewhere. Of course you should post a picture you don't like where you can see it all the time. Someday you will fine a picture that you are comfortable using as an avatar. We can wait.
Hugs,
Laurie
I think i have a few good face pictures. Still want to see them? :-X
Quote from: hiddengirlsheila on December 14, 2017, 02:34:35 PM
I think i have a few good face pictures. Still want to see them? :-X
Sure ;)!
I bought some lipstick or makeup when i went shopping at walmart today too...its pink color haha... :P
Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 14, 2017, 03:16:15 PM
Sure ;)!
Ok i'll put one of me with and without lipstick, is that good?
Anyone else want to see my pics? :o
Go for it Sheila.
Laurie