Hello,
I am a soon-to-be college graduate (this Saturday in fact, and will most likely graduate magna cum laude) who is questioning my gender identity and identifies on the feminine side of the gender spectrum. I was assigned male at birth and identified as fully male until a few years ago, when I began to adopt a more fluid gender expression in the relative safety of my college campus. Although I live in Texas (albeit in a large metro area, but not Austin), I have not been afraid to express myself more femininely in public off-campus, including in settings where large numbers of people are present (such as when I go to the mall to go shopping, along with some of the places in my city's downtown area).
While I hate to discuss my worries, as a college graduate I am currently worried about my future on the job market, as I am gender nonconforming, live in Texas, have not been able to make any legal changes to my identity, and have a less-than-accepting family. That said, I also have multiple business ideas which could potentially serve as viable businesses should I choose to start them (some of them require coding/web development knowledge that I need to learn ASAP).
On a more positive note, I have quite a diverse interest set, too! I am quite passionate about things that will help my community, services that will help small business owners and startups get off the ground and/or improve their business, and fashion (I do enjoy shopping for new clothes, especially women's stuff, although I keep up with men's trends too!).
Currently I would say that my gender identity borders between non-binary and genderfluid (that is fluidity between the binary genders), and would use the pronoun most corresponding to my gender expression at a particular moment in time. That said, I am leaning more towards MTF in the long run, as I am more comfortable in a feminine role (at least between the two binary genders).
- B.C.
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V M
Hello BC, welcome to Susan's!
Congratulations on graduation and for hitting an excellent academic record - and for considering all your future options. Sounds like there isn't much holding you to a specific geographic location (family etc.), so you should consider going wherever your heart and career wants to go. Your academic credentials help you be yourself. If a company you talk to seems narrow minded, find a more progressive competitor to work for - or start a company and go after their business.
The software company I joined in 1991 has a policy specifically protecting gender expression. Coming out at a company like that is super easy. I think it's a smart way to run a business.
Glad you're here, and congratulations on Saturday!
Kendra
Hey BC! Welcome to Susan's Place. We're in about the same spot genderwise. I've adopted a female presentation, so I don't look the part when I'm having a boy day, but that's fine. :) See you around the site!
Hugs, Devlyn
Hello BC. With your attitude and approach, I don't think you'll have any problems you can't handle. Keep it up!
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Hiya BC! Congrats on the graduation! :) I am starting my final level courses in the spring and currently attempting to not kill myself maintaining my GPA for honors graduation myself.
If you want to get some quick coding and web dev knowledge, you can find some pretty solid and extremely cheap courses at Udemy(I have had a few for advanced javascript that were highly recommended to me by someone who is actually a web developer for the NBA and NCAA which I can pass along if you are interested). Though if you want something slightly more official without doing the self-teaching and certification routine you can hit up Udacity (I've liked their stuff I've done so far, but they aren't cheap, though do come with the added benefit of being used as a recruitment tool for companies like AT+T and Google).