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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: PurpleWolf on December 12, 2017, 09:15:10 PM

Title: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: PurpleWolf on December 12, 2017, 09:15:10 PM

Do you (or did) you think that you used to be attractive as your assigned sex at birth,  :D?
Did you ever feel you could have made a good-looking man/woman had you not transitioned?
Or did you just absolutely hate your looks?
What about others - did they find you attractive  ;D?

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I don't know, man... the last time I've been a girl was when I was about 12...!
But then again - I'm pre-T,  ;).
All I can say is - I do like my looks,  ;D! You gotta love one's face, don't you think?
I hope I can preserve my face even on T - and only become more handsome  :D!
I'd like to think I'm attractive as a human being!

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Man!!! I can't help myself! Another question  ;D!
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: natalie.ashlyne on December 12, 2017, 09:25:47 PM
No i did not I thought i was ugly, fat I hated every thing about myself. I was told by others I was good looking I did not believe the I thought it was sympathy
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Sol on December 13, 2017, 01:03:35 AM
Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 12, 2017, 09:15:10 PM
Do you (or did) you think that you used to be attractive as your assigned sex at birth,  :D?

I used to model when I was younger due to parents, so I guess I must have been.

Did you ever feel you could have made a good-looking man/woman had you not transitioned?

I have everyone telling me I was good looking and "why did you wreck your looks?"

Or did you just absolutely hate your looks?

I hated how I looked and would never pose for pictures if I could help it. I stayed away from mirrors too. I would have prefered to poke my eyes out with an icepick given the choice.

What about others - did they find you attractive  ;D?

As above. yes

Man!!! I can't help myself! Another question  ;D!

I am sure you will be back with more
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Jailyn on December 13, 2017, 01:18:58 AM
Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on December 12, 2017, 09:25:47 PM
No i did not I thought i was ugly, fat I hated every thing about myself. I was told by others I was good looking I did not believe the I thought it was sympathy

I am feeling natalie 110% on this. I don't think I hated everything, but I had no confidence in myself either. I just didn't like my old and a lot of things that were on me.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: mothmanofficial on December 13, 2017, 01:39:51 AM
i mean considering i was 12 before i knew i was trans, i can't say much. i think i did (and still do) have a nice face but my hair was AWFUL. i'm so glad to have it shorter now. my body shape is suuuper feminine, and i think maybe if i were a woman i'd think i'm attractive, but as things stand i think i look pretty icky.
i personally think i'd make a better man than i would a woman, my facial shape is a bit more masculine and womens clothes just look no good on me. i think once i'm on T i'll be much more attractive but i can only dream!
some members of my family are the only ones who thought i was prettier before i came out, but i kind of think that's only because they want me to be girlier [emoji53]


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Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Elis on December 13, 2017, 02:09:56 AM
Not at all no. I was chubby, never knew how to dress properly or what to with my appearance at all. I think this is why I partly never I had an inkling I was trans until much later in life. I wanted so badly to fit in and maybe if I did the self consciousness would go away.

Now I'd rather be seen as an ugly guy but gendered correctly. I think T has made me care less what others think about how I look and has gradually made me like my appearance. On social media you see trans guys who looked very attractive pre T and even more attractive on T;  that never was gonna be me  :D
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: iamthatiam8 on December 13, 2017, 03:56:33 AM
I was told i was good looking. But i always saw a freak. Even now that i look androgynous i find i cannot understand what i see unless i see female. The brain is weird.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 07:09:05 AM
This is kind of hard to answer. I looked pretty much the same before transition. Hrt has given me boobs and hips and made my face more feminine but the changes weren't that dramatic . I've never thought I was especially attractive. I hate my skin, eye and hair color. Mascara and filling in my eyebrows and wearing tinted contact lenses helps somewhat but I still hate my skin color.

Would I be attractive as a guy? I really don't know. I started HRT at 17 so I really have no idea what testosterone would have done to me as I got older. My brother once said he wondered what I would have looked like if I had been CIS male. But then he said he couldn't picture it. I would have to say I don't think I would be attractive as a guy. When I first transitioned one of my brother's friends told me he thought GRS was a good idea for me. He said I was way too small and that I would have been a joke as a guy. An insult-compliment.  Guys are good for doing that.lol
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 09:14:51 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 07:09:05 AM
I've never thought I was especially attractive.
What  :o?

Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 07:09:05 AM
I hate my skin, eye and hair color.
What? What?! That is you in your pic, right  ;)?!

Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 07:09:05 AM
When I first transitioned one of my brother's friends told me he thought GRS was a good idea for me. He said I was way too small and that I would have been a joke as a guy. An insult-compliment.  Guys are good for doing that.lol
That was harsh  ;D! I've been told too that I'd have made a terrible job as a woman... ;D! I kind of take that as a compliment!
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 09:21:05 AM
Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 09:14:51 AM
What  :o?
What? What?! That is you in your pic, right  ;)?!
That was harsh  ;D! I've been told too that I'd have made a terrible job as a woman... ;D! I kind of take that as a compliment!

Yes that's my picture. Having my mom always telling me I was weird looking growing up and hearing the same from kids in school has had a long term effect on me. I'm trying to get over it but it's harder than it would seem.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 09:30:11 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 09:21:05 AM
Yes that's my picture. Having my mom always telling me I was weird looking growing up and hearing the same from kids in school has had a long term effect on me. I'm trying to get over it but it's harder than it would seem.

Omg, Julia, you are absolutely attractive  :D!!!!!!! The prettiest girl on this forum!!!
How can I say this? You do actually look very beautiful. Honestly. I'm sure others can agree.
That sucks people have been telling you otherwise... That is not true!
Maybe ask Tristan a few compliments,  ;)?
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Allison S on December 13, 2017, 09:35:45 AM
I still present male for the most part. I've always teetered on androgynous, but not quite. I've been told I'm attractive as both genders but my nose bothers me as female. I feel it's too masculine.

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Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 09:42:11 AM
Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 09:30:11 AM
Omg, Julia, you are absolutely attractive  :D!!!!!!! The prettiest girl on this forum!!!
How can I say this? You do actually look very beautiful. Honestly. I'm sure others can agree.
That sucks people have been telling you otherwise... That is not true!
Maybe ask Tristan a few compliments,  ;)?

Well thank you that's sweet. I don't need to ask Tristan for compliments he gives me compliments all the time. My dad and brother have told me I'm pretty but they are my family. I could be ugly enough to make an onion cry and they would still say Im pretty.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 09:59:53 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 09:42:11 AM
I don't need to ask Tristan for compliments he gives me compliments all the time.
I'm sure he does  ;D!!!

Quote from: Julia1996 on December 13, 2017, 09:42:11 AM
My dad and brother have told me I'm pretty but they are my family. I could be ugly enough to make an onion cry and they would still say Im pretty.
Well it's good to hear then that outsiders agree with your family, right  :D?
You are incredibly beautiful. (Always thought so.)

Plus your hair, eyes & complexion are your best parts  ;D!!!
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Bari Jo on December 13, 2017, 10:09:08 AM
Agreed, Julia is the darling in my eye.

As for me, yes I've heard it from others that I was cute, but have never thought so.  I feel very uncomfortable about my male self.  I never could have a long relationship because of it.

Bari Jo
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: KathyLauren on December 13, 2017, 11:24:19 AM
I thought I was a pretty handsome dude (if I do say so myself).  It just wasn't my first choice in the looks department.  I have no idea what others thought of me.  I did have a few ladies try to flirt with me a time or two.  I was too naive to understand the interaction at the time.

I doubt if I project a flirtable vibe now, at least not for the right reasons.  But, what the heck, I think I look better now.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: PurpleWolf on December 13, 2017, 11:50:42 AM

Julia, you are so pretty you look like a living doll  :D!!!
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: DawnOday on December 13, 2017, 12:01:59 PM
I always seemed to be attractive to older women, rather than girls my own age. I really don't have a long history of dating women. Hardly more than a hand full. But, I never got turned down for a date. My mothers praise for wearing my sisters costumes really enforced the Honey Boo Bop in me. I always thought I would be a model. I was tall, skinny 140 - 160 lbs. and that would have been fine with me. I don't look at women with lust but rather I envy them. I want to be them. I have always wanted to be them.  Actually I resemble my father.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: big kim on December 13, 2017, 12:22:26 PM
No I was a tall skinny kid with spots & greasy hair.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Deborah on December 13, 2017, 12:31:57 PM
When I was a kid I thought I looked weird.  Looking back at old pictures I still think that.  After I grew up though I thought I looked pretty good.  Occasionally I would get lazy, and depressed for a while and gain some weight but my mirror always motivated me to get back on track before it got too far out of control.


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Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Charlie Nicki on December 13, 2017, 03:25:31 PM
Yes I liked how I looked as a guy. I felt attractive and people still tell me I was hot (I have started changing thanks to hormones). I see old pictures and I see a man that I think was handsome, but I know it didn't really matter cuz I still felt empty and sad, compliments and attention only gave me a temporary happiness but deep down I was always insecure and thought life was meaningless. I think once I look like the woman I picture inside, that will all change :) I already feel happier and way more comfortable with myself even though I'm in the weird in-between stage and I look like a shade of my former self.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: Kylo on December 13, 2017, 06:04:05 PM
I didn't think I was attractive, but then there's flaws that're obvious to me and aren't to other people. But I know I wasn't exactly ugly and it could have been a hell of a lot worse.
Title: Re: Did you find your old self good-looking?
Post by: krobinson103 on December 17, 2017, 02:45:52 PM
Not really. When I was fit people called me Handsome. I always felt there was work to do. I cycled till I literally couldn't move, ran till I threw up, got my body fat down to 5% but it still didn't make me happy.