I'm 5'7", 165 lbs., and just turned 24, but I'm really worried that I won't look good once I start MtF HRT...can anyone give me an assessment?
I'm worried that my jaw and chin will be too masculine, or that my head is too big or hands/shoulders are too wide, etc.
Naturally, I want to be cute/good-looking and I want to be able to fit in with other girls in my age range naturally...
I'm 6', 220 lbs, shoulders bigger than most body builders, and size 13 shoe. I was in a lot of doubt about transitioning because of this. But I used an app on my phone called FaceApp. It's really touchy, and doesn't seem to work on everyone. Make sure you smile, and have your face centered. But when it does, it can show you pretty much what you would look like. Only thing it did was make my cheeks a little fuller, better teeth, and give me hair with makeup on. But overall bone structure and shape stays the same. Never knew just how much I looked just like my mom. If it doesn't work or it changes a lot, it doesn't mean you'll make a bad looking woman. The main reason I did this is just because I couldn't see myself as having a woman's body. But once I could sorta see it, all my doubt went away.
I'm 5'7" 145 lbs (I was 170 three years before) and I'm 55. When I started HRT I was so scared about not looking acceptable that I stopped hormones.
Stopping hormones was the worst mistake of my life. Three months later I restarted and have not looked back. I pass about 90% of the time without any ffs.
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Quote from: Yakayla on December 17, 2017, 10:31:08 PM
I'm 6', 220 lbs, shoulders bigger than most body builders, and size 13 shoe. I was in a lot of doubt about transitioning because of this. But I used an app on my phone called FaceApp. It's really touchy, and doesn't seem to work on everyone. Make sure you smile, and have your face centered. But when it does, it can show you pretty much what you would look like. Only thing it did was make my cheeks a little fuller, better teeth, and give me hair with makeup on. But overall bone structure and shape stays the same. Never knew just how much I looked just like my mom. If it doesn't work or it changes a lot, it doesn't mean you'll make a bad looking woman. The main reason I did this is just because I couldn't see myself as having a woman's body. But once I could sorta see it, all my doubt went away.
Yes, I have used FaceApp before. I used it to make my picture female, and I really didn't like the results. How accurate is it?
I'm 43, six foot and one, and 245 pounds. Big hands, big feet, and lots of muscle from cycling. The effects of e are quite... startling. Yes, I'll be of amazonian proportions - I always have been, but I can clearly see curves, breasts, and more feminine face already. The muscles reduced somewhat and got covered with fat. Now my female co worker is jealous because I fill out jeans better than she does. :) Given more time and beard removal (got a quote expensive!) I think things will work out just fine. I also plan on getting down to 195 pounds.
It's only natural to be worried but, until you decide to dive in you won't know and can only speculate on if's. Women come in all shapes, sizes, and looks. I believe in trying and doing. You could also make it a goal to loose weight and get in a shape that you feel right in your body. There are always surgical options for some things like your face, if you so decide. So my suggestion is dive and start you journey if you feel comfortable and ready, but all in your own time!!!!
Hey Lovely,
Being realistic there is no way for us to say whether or not you will get the results you want.
There are so many contributing factors that affect a person reaching their transition goals. For me I was lucky I was able to start relatively young at 23 and I'm on the plus-size so my fat has redistributed pretty well. For others the fat redistribution may be negligible.
For some girls they are happy just taking HRT. For some girls they will take HRT and do a wide range of beauty treatments (good makeup, electrolysis/laser, eyebrow shaping, nails, etc.), and for some girls they will require FFS to be happy. It's all up to your personal perspective and luck.
The best way to approach this is to expect HRT to do very little and be surprised at all the small changes. Also keep photo records so you can physically look back and see the difference it makes.
Much love. <3
Quote from: Gulistani248 on December 17, 2017, 10:37:07 PM
Yes, I have used FaceApp before. I used it to make my picture female, and I really didn't like the results. How accurate is it?
It really depends on the picture you take. Like sometimes it does absolutely nothing. And your face has to be perfectly center and the lighting has to right. But I can show you a picture of what it did for me. It's not that it's a great program for how much it fails. But when it does work right it doesn't make many changes to your actual body. Though I know I'm not going to be as pretty as it shows.
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Quote from: Gulistani248 on December 17, 2017, 10:13:35 PM
I'm 5'7", 165 lbs., and just turned 24, but I'm really worried that I won't look good once I start MtF HRT...can anyone give me an assessment?
I'm worried that my jaw and chin will be too masculine, or that my head is too big or hands/shoulders are too wide, etc.
Naturally, I want to be cute/good-looking and I want to be able to fit in with other girls in my age range naturally...
I just wanted to say that I felt this way when I first started. I haven't been here in awhile and this was the first post that I saw and had to say something. I think we all feel like this but I did it anyway and as you can see from my latest photo that I just updated. It was worth it. feel free to look back through my facebook pics or my youtube channel. I felt all the same fears that you are talking about.
Look at me. I don't care. I look like a linebacker, albeit a good looking one. Not bad for 66. On hormones for 16 months. This was before the Ingersoll Gender Centers Christmas party a couple weeks ago. Not looking for praise I already got that from a CIS woman in attendance. It felt so good. Hiding in a closet all my life and to finally be acknowledged was so affirming. Don't give up.
I have those fears a lot too. Another one is I'll be at a major disadvantage in whatever dating pool I'm in.
I just think are the rewards worth the risks? Sometimes the answer isn't a clear yes in my mind but my heart tells me what it wants..
That just reminded me of a Taylor Dayne song [emoji23]
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I think its a common fear i do feel the same way i just seen my hrt doctor monday and just got my prescriptions, to me its bitter sweet the the old me to a new me a Phoenix to say, but i would not worry to much over it just be yourself love yourself and everyone is different thats whats makes the world go around. Just be yourself and realize i am with you right there i am 45 6,1 265 pounds, size 13 shoe. But there is cis women taller and bigger thern me
I just used FaceApp yesterday and it pulled my hair back in a bun- Military/LE style which is fitting, all things considered. [emoji1345]♀️
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I am a 44yo 5'10", 270Lbs give or take depending on the day and what I ate the day before girl. I wear a size 11W-13 shoe depending on brand and style 18W skirt, and 3x top. I used to worry about what I look like. I still most often see a guy in a skirt, and wish I could see the woman there. Sometimes I do, and it is happening more and more frequently. However, I stopped worrying about what other people think, and started living. I feel great; that is what matters the most to me.
I know I'll never be beautiful, but I don't think I was good looking as a man either, so I'm going to live like I mean it and anyone who doesn't like it can shove off.
The endless things you can do to improve your self image. Hormones are but one of many steps you can take to look better. Exercise is a very close second. They go hand in hand together towards having that slim physique to compliment those feminine qualities. Then there are a large variety of surgeries. Then there's fashion, good hygiene, scents, and let's not forget another very important quality.. personality. The list goes on and on. Not everything is required, but there are always areas that can be improved. A healthy diet is another one. Health is a very attractive quality in both men and women. If you're at homeostasis, your persona will resonate with others at a more favorable magnitude. So long as you keep moving forwards towards your goals, you will become happier, and happier with your results as time progresses. Let's not forget that even natal females have to undergo many, if not all of these same struggles based on their individual circumstances. It's a part of life. Even something as overlooked as meditation and/or yoga can help give you a calm, confident mind, capable of overcoming life's challenges with a higher sense of awareness, and the heightened flexibility will certainly add to your attraction meter.
Would the inability to be a beautiful woman curb your desire to be a woman at all? If so, consider the possibility that your view of women is jaded and/or fetishized.
Of course we all want to look good. Nevertheless, we can only do the best we can with what we have to work with, just like any other woman.
I may eventually pass for a woman, but I will never pass for a beautiful woman. But I have stopped worrying about it. I people-watch a lot more than I used to. One thing I noticed is that there are a lot of women who are worse of than I am in the looks department. So I fit right in.
Image is not all about looks. A big part, perhaps the biggest part, is how you feel about yourself. If you feel good about yourself, that will show.
Seriously, it has a lot less to do with us being born biologically male than it does with the necessary steps we take to better ourselves as human beings. Estradiol is obviously a go to for us to become medically female, but from there; everything else is in our hands, and within our will to improve. The possibilities are endless.
Quote from: KathyLauren on December 21, 2017, 06:31:29 PM
Image is not all about looks. A big part, perhaps the biggest part, is how you feel about yourself.
^^ This ^^
There is the beauty that we recognize when we are young, and the beauty we recognize as we mature. You are beautiful in your profile pic (as I am in mine) not because ->-bleeped-<- would tell us so, but rather because in those moments we felt it. As much as I would like to know what it feels like to be beautiful by standards of cosmetic perfection, I observe that the people who are vary widely from happy to miserable. I'll just glad for what I've got.
I don't know what is right for you, only you can decide that.
I can tell you part of my story though...
I worried about a LOT of things regarding transition when I got out of the Army at 23 and when I went to college from 23 to 27. I wish I has just taken the plunge and done it, but then again the means to do it were not there like they are now.
I had hair still back then. I wish I had gone on hormones then so I didn't go bald like I am now. Today I am closing in on 47. I am balding and intend to have laser hair removal not just on my beard but also on what hair remains on my scalp. Expensive? A tad, yes. Painful? Most certainly. A wig may drive me crazy though, as much as I would LOVE to have hair again. There ARE plenty of bald women however, so I am going to rock that look as best as I can.
Honestly, I doubt I will ever pass entirely so I don't care if people know or not. I only care how I feel about myself. My true friends will stand by me and the rest of the world will at least take the hint I do not wish to be a part of the male realm of the human experience.
Ya just gotta OWN IT! Love yourself and who you are and make friends who love you for who you are and that you love for who they are!
As I said in the beginning, I can not say what the right decision is for you. I can say however that I wish I didn't wit until now to go on HRT. The results will be enough, but they would have been even better if I started right after the Army when I was in my 20's.
Same with careers, I should have done what I am doing now back in my 20's and done my 20's stuff now....
Best wishes to you. Love yourself and treat yourself kindly!
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