Hi guys/girls,
Just wondering if anyone has shared the same experience as me. I find that I prefer to wear shoes/boots with a heel because it helps me subconsciously walk a little more "femme". Sometimes I feel when wearing flats I revert to my old manish elephant walk. Anyone have any tips on remembering to walk a bit more delicately? :laugh:
I never found it particularly hard wearing heels and I'm only 5"9 so I'm not extremely tall however I did have a guy stand on a curb to kiss me once. It would be nice to wear flats and feel equally girly! :P
Much love <3
The one I always used to hear is, walk more as if you're walking on an invisible tightrope line on the floor. Not literally but in terms of keeping your feet on a single line instead of two parallel ones.
Never did this as I naturally have more of a lumbering elephant walk than that, but supposedly it makes a more feminine movement of hips.
Quote from: Viktor on December 18, 2017, 12:03:38 AM
The one I always used to hear is, walk more as if you're walking on an invisible tightrope line on the floor. Not literally but in terms of keeping your feet on a single line instead of two parallel ones.
Never did this as I naturally have more of a lumbering elephant walk than that, but supposedly it makes a more feminine movement of hips.
Hehe good advice. Thank you.
Much love. <3
I like heels and they do take some practice. I love a nice shoe regardless of the heel...there are some really cute styles in flats. Good advice from Viktor...I use this technique and whilst I have no hips or bum to wiggle, it certainly improves the look of your walk. Video yourself and to get a better idea of what you look like.
I have noticed the same thing about heels: they help me with my posture and walk. On the other hand, I am totally not used to them. Fear of breaking my ankle as well as self-consciousness about being taller than most women keeps me mostly in flats. My new boots have about a 3/4" heel on them, which is enough to affect my walk without feeling like I have to balance on stilts.
Low heels for me, for either gender actually, I've always liked dress shoes. Wide too, practical, but obviously feminine in whatever way. Stilletos etc., not so much. I dress up fancy and just feel like I'm a CD...
Last summer I found about 6 pairs of size 11-12 stilletos in a thrift store, someone was purging. Really glossy femmy stuff. They fit me well too and was on the verge of buying a pair, then thought, what am I going to do with these crazy things? This was when I was making up my mind I was a TS, I just don't entirely understand crossdressers. I don't want to bother much with makeup until my beard is gone, and just spent an hour and a half shaving my body clean, I imagine they think I'm nuts too. Or boring. ;D
Heels do impose a bit of sexy stride on you, but I don't feel less like a woman in flats. Oh to be a kid again! But I'm a dowdy old broad in her middle age so... :D
Heh, you're definitely not alone in this. My wife teases me about my penchant for high heels - when I'm out as Sarah in generally wearing heels in the 3"-4" range. I have a couple pairs of shoes that are lower, but for the most part higher is better.
For me it's a combination of factors. They definitely affect your stride, but that's only part if it. I think it started with when I was first really discovering the Sarah part of me, and wearing something so undeniably feminine - something that I couldn't help but notice and feel - acted as a trigger on my brain, a constant "you are being female" sensation. Between the way they hold your feet (even when sitting, there's no denying you're wearing heels), the way it affects your stride, the sound of walking - I love it. And to me it's one of those things that screams "feminine" - so it's one of my go to clothing items when I'm out as Sarah, because I feel that it helps compensate for the fact that I'm still physically Dave.
Although I have to laugh about the height thing. I'm 5'10", so in my heels I'm easily over 6', which is noticably tall for a woman. But as much as I could probably "blend in" more of I wore flats, I still end up wearing heels. What can I say, I'm a whore for shoes. [emoji3]
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At 6ft1 heels would be over the top for me. I don't need to be any taller. I find that wearing feminine cut shorts and pants accentuates the butt, thighs, and legs plenty so that people notice (judging from the stares I get in female jeans, and the comments from female co-workers who know) and so do I. I've found that without thinking I've started to walk differently anyway.
Quote from: rainecloude on December 17, 2017, 11:20:05 PM
Hi guys/girls,
Just wondering if anyone has shared the same experience as me. I find that I prefer to wear shoes/boots with a heel because it helps me subconsciously walk a little more "femme". Sometimes I feel when wearing flats I revert to my old manish elephant walk. Anyone have any tips on remembering to walk a bit more delicately? :laugh:
I never found it particularly hard wearing heels and I'm only 5"9 so I'm not extremely tall however I did have a guy stand on a curb to kiss me once. It would be nice to wear flats and feel equally girly! :P
Much love <3
I would wear heels over flats. But remember that if you dont buy the right comfortable heels, your feet can hurt alot when you wear them. So i think its better to look after the right heels which doesnt hurt to walk in (they exist i heard).
Quote from: Phoenix1742 on December 18, 2017, 08:37:54 AM
Heh, you're definitely not alone in this. My wife teases me about my penchant for high heels - when I'm out as Sarah in generally wearing heels in the 3"-4" range. I have a couple pairs of shoes that are lower, but for the most part higher is better.
For me it's a combination of factors. They definitely affect your stride, but that's only part if it. I think it started with when I was first really discovering the Sarah part of me, and wearing something so undeniably feminine - something that I couldn't help but notice and feel - acted as a trigger on my brain, a constant "you are being female" sensation. Between the way they hold your feet (even when sitting, there's no denying you're wearing heels), the way it affects your stride, the sound of walking - I love it. And to me it's one of those things that screams "feminine" - so it's one of my go to clothing items when I'm out as Sarah, because I feel that it helps compensate for the fact that I'm still physically Dave.
Although I have to laugh about the height thing. I'm 5'10", so in my heels I'm easily over 6', which is noticably tall for a woman. But as much as I could probably "blend in" more of I wore flats, I still end up wearing heels. What can I say, I'm a whore for shoes. [emoji3]
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I think you really described it better than I could. It's definitely not just the walk. It's the whole feel. Helps me subconsciously present more feminine in all aspects. Also helps that I'm a shoe whore too. :laugh:
If I'm not wearing sneakers, I'm usually wearing 2 inch heels. It's not so much to create a feminine walk. My adoptive parents teased me about walking like a duck. When I consciously straightened out my feet, it created a feminine gait, that I got teased about.
People don't tend to stare at me for my height so much, when they see me in heels. Now, if I went with higher heels, people might stare. But then, higher heels would increase the pain caused by rheumatoid arthritis.
Comfortable is a must, of course, even more so with high heels. I have found one set of glossy high pumps that fit really great too, they're there if I need them. The first shoes I bought in a store were some Comfort Pluses with 3" heels that aren't bad. My really good ones are Fitzwells.
There are training courses on how to trot around in them without looking ridiculous, too. Or look like a catwalk model. Something along those lines. I just relax and slow down in general, and watch GGs for guidance.
I love my heels. Most of them are three to three and a half inches though I was given a pair of four and a halfs that I have yet to be able to master. Last Sunday I was dancing in my spikes and loving it! BUT, I have been shifting more and more to flats. We live in a small town and heels just don't fit in. Wearing a comfortable long denim skirt and fashionable flats is not noticed and I never get the stares that I would get wearing three in pumps. I can tell you that wearing fashionable casual clothes and flats can give me a very feminine comfort that I don't feel glitzing it out.
I notice my feet hurt less in heels than flats, which is a bit interesting considering when I first started to wear heels, they hurt more than wearing flats. Perhaps that's because I've been wearing flats my whole life, so couldn't do an accurate comparison. Now, I can walk around for hours in heels without any issue. There are some really fast runners that can run in heels. High-heel racing is very popular, especially in Russia. They use stilettos! ;D