Not going to lie this will be a highly dramatic post. So my question is , is my boss trying to sabotage me? I had an interview a few months ago and i passed. They were accepting of my transness however I got a somewhat off putting feeling one day when I called one of my managers. I called to ask what I should bring then she told me don't worry about x y an z. She seemed eager to get off the phone , and that became apparent when I tried to ask her another question for a background check she didn't stay on the phone and hung up. Anyways, I kinda got over it even if I felt it was unprofessional. I worked there for about a month and got told good things, even made friends as well as "friends". One of these "friends" I made was this one lady who I thought I could trust, even with my deepest secrets and future dreams. I should have saw the red flags though as she blades everyone who works there, gossiping about them and harshly only to be nice to them as soon as they are in front of her. Last month we went shopping and she even invited me to breakfast that same day. A few days later me and this other coworker get into a fight, she had issues with something I did and never said it was an issue before. She only brought it up when she called me a "dude" and I said please don't then she started to throw things at me that were never a problem up till that point, she even said before if she ever had an issue with anyone she lets them know then and there. Upset over that and home situation I decided to see this person, the other lady who I hung out with before. I was back at my place of work and vented (a no no yes but I was so hurt) she played the game alright. I made an indirect post on fb over it not mentioning the person or place of a situation. Only one person knew I was venting, and it was the one who talks about everyone else in a bad light. She not only told my boss but also uploaded my fb on a company computer to show my boss. Since the status has no name or place in it, and only the woman in question assumed what it was about it was easy to figure out who told.
Personally I wouldn't care if this was a regular person, but this woman is friends with my boss and in addition actually talks smack about others. I have seen her rip one girl to pieces behind her back only to have a 20 straight talk on the floor on work hours laughing and joking it up. Snake. Anyways my boss calls me in and takes no account over what the lady I got into a fight with said after telling her once before indont like being called dude. She stuck up for her actually and tried really hard to place all blame onto me. Even things that were not my problem she tried to pin onto me. This should have been another warning sign but I accepted responsibility and promised it never happen again. The next two weeks or so it is the same thing one would expect. Cold shoulder and largely ignores me.
After Xmas we seemed to get back onto talking terms and even had semi good talks and this seeemd to last until About 10 days ago. Just before New Years me and this guy were closing the store and neither of us has a car, it was -50 C out . Lucky a woman was there and stayed later to drive us to drop off the keys and to our houses. The woman who drove us kinda mentioned too to speak to manager about a driving arrangement. So I asked the manager if until spring me and the male co worker could close with others until spring when we won't have cold snaps. I was more worried about him as he is now in his 50s and walks a much longer distance, then I was worried about my self. I can walk it even if I don't want to but for him maybe he should be in a car. She told me " not my problem" and that if I want this then my hours will be reduced. Since then she has given me the cold shoulder, less then idol looks and complaints.
This past week I have had to do extra work as mark down dates keep getting missed and people are not rotating. Produce, dairy, dry food, you name it. I even got rid of things that expired months ago. Since no manager was there and I was off Monday I wrote in the communication book asking to plead remember to rotate. On the Tuesday, did I get a good job for getting rid of all that waste, cleaning extra areas of store or picking up others slack? Nope, she came out onto the floor to tell me that I am "blading "people and that it's not up to me to give performance reviews on the person on before me. I told her that's not what I was doing and there were days being missed so it wasn't not directed at one person who could get singled out. Didn't matter. So, I once again annoyed over busting my rear just to get lectured at swallowed my pride. The following night I got rid of yet another kart or more of things. Things that the other cash should be looking for but doesn't. I got rid of liquids and snacks from many months ago. Not only did I do that, but I also checked the aisles to see what will be expiring soon. I wrote down maoutains of things set to expire this very week and a warning that there was about 20 times being expired the following day. Then next day income to work, not only does she no say anything to me all that stuff set to expire still sat there (she got message). I had to take them off, it wasn't my job that day by the way as I was set up to do other jobs. She knew there was expired product and she just let it sit there for customers to buy. Later, she came into story to get stuff and everything was super formal and down to business.
Other things to note , she was suppose to do a performance review but when I asked her she was "too busy" and never got back to me. She also says I spread gossip for that one incident last month and about the book a week ago. Yet she and 4 other people , 2 other which were not managers were in a room gossiping and nit picking another co worker over her job and what she does. Like legit gossip, not a vent or a ponder, gossip. She seems sometimes even more standoffish when I not just do my job, but go well above and beyond and can help other departments. That's when I especially notice a cold look. I would love to say she is stressed and too busy but yestarday she stood right beside me , while not saying hi or thanks for note, but was chatting with a friends and giggling away as I worked. Indont get it, if I somehow do something that could be not so good I get told about it, even at my till when customers are there. When I go well above and beyond she seems even more passively rattled. Again, I would say she is just a cold mannered boss but she is so warm with others and shows positive expression to them, but for me the harder I work the more cold she gets too. What's going on?
Should mention. While others got training on the new gas system and new procedures I got left out on the training until I got told "do it " out of the blue, or just got told don't worry about x y and x. Sad thing is I like my job in general but not what's going on
Quote from: SailorMars1994 on January 12, 2018, 11:14:57 PM
Should mention. While others got training on the new gas system and new procedures I got left out on the training until I got told "do it " out of the blue, or just got told don't worry about x y and x. Sad thing is I like my job in general but not what's going on
Have you thought of contacting your HR or Company HQ?
I would, but I am in probation period. If inruffle any feathers that way they could can me on the spot without reason or notice. However, they told me and I do believe it is in writing somewhere they will do weekly check ups to inform me how I am doing. The other manager who I am ok with is gone for the time being over an accident and the one I am talking about has only came up to me to chew me out on the floor. That's it. No "you're doing good here, but improve here" just cold shoulder or I become a crapping post
Probation sucks.
How much longer is your probationary period?
I would say your manager is threatened. Some managers are not fit for the positions they hold as they are not trying to make their wards look better than them. My opinion is that you will not last that long in this place as you will be judged by that manager and your strengths turned into something else. My recommendation is to keep your head down, be complicit and look else where.
I would love someone like you in my company, initiative is an awesome attribute.
I hope things work out well for you.
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My probation is over in a week or so. And yes, inspite of all the work I do I doubt I will get the job based on office politics alone. I would love to switch jobs and would start looking now. Issue is, my current job is just about the only place in this area. I have no car, and I don't even live in a town. Inlove in something smaller then a village, think closer to a hamlet.
Sucks to be you... maybe you should keep your head low for a while, and stop writing any notes. I hope your probation is finished and you get on a regular basis, but don't think it's over even then. Work for a paycheck, not for friendship, not to make the place better, just for paycheck.
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Yes, I'd work through the period and be hired. If you still are unhappy then look for another job while having the job you don't like. It does sound like your boss has issues. I don't know if I'd recognize being forced out, only that you are in an uncomfortable situation. If it doesn't let up, sure look for other work, but only while you currently are working. It looks better on resumes and I'm interviews this way.
Bari Jo
Despite your perception of her interaction with others, there is no way this is happening in void, so don't take it personally. If she's horrible to you, she's horrible to other people who are working there now or have worked there in the past. And it's not something you can see if it was to people in the past of course. People just don't wake up one day and start behaving like that. Often you'll find you are in a revolving door position, in which a small group has formed a clique and have repeatedly forced the person in that revolving door position out over and over. This creates a perception that it is targeted to you explicitly, when in reality it was the dozen people before you and the dozen people after you as well, until something else finally gives. I've had family go through that a number of times.
As others have said, take the paycheck and keep it as impersonal as possible. Don't be unpleasant of course, but don't try to make or expect friends. Keep your personal and work life separate. And never, ever vent in a public space such as Facebook. You've got to go completely zen on this, and just try not to let it bother you as much as possible.
Also, stop going above and beyond. Don't worry about impressing people like this, you will never win them over in a million years. Just do what you're supposed to do and leave it at that. If management wants to run a terrible store with expired inventory, well, let them, that is their problem. It will come back around in the end.
Hey all. There is unexpected good news and news I already knew. The news I already knew was she is indeed playing favorites by giving sliders to others. Today a fellow co worker told me that since she is afraid of heights my boss told her she doesn't have to climb onto the big gas tank at work to do dip stick. So she will make amends for that but not for two coworkers to walk in -50 C from one side of the hamlet to drop off the keys to walk all the way back to the other side for home. She has also made exemptions for other people on other things. Also, when I told a trusted person who knows her what's going on he said that isn't really in her character so it is off.
Either way good news, after asking around I talked to someone about their job and they informed they are hiring after I asked if there are positions. They said yes and the owner of said place when grocery shopping looked for me to introduce themselves to me. They want me to swing by on Monday to see my skills so hey, maybe I am not screwed after all!