Hi my name is Dustin and I have recently been coming to accept that I don't feel right as a boy. Since I see a little kid I have always felt uncomfortable about who I was and always described to myself that there was a a girl in me and she's tried desperately to get out but I was always scarred and didn't know what to do so I suppressed my true self and has been killing me on the inside now an feel like im lost. I wanna come out and tell my sister how I feel and it'll be hard to say like "oh BTW I feel like im your sister not your brother. I mean she's like my buddy always so loving.. But im trying to ask for tips on how to come out to her and explain who I really am..because I need to tell someone cause it's eating away at me on the inside. Ty for your time to read and help and struggling girl out
Hi Dustin 🙋♀️ Welcome to Susan's! I'm Jessica. If you have been close to your sister, you may be surprised on how she may react. Have you given any clues that may help your cause?
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Hi Dustin :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
I thought it easier, to write a letter (email) to each and every person to whom I wanted to tell about myself. Personal letter to everyone.
It gives time for yourself to gather your thoughts and say just the things that you want and feel that you need to say.
It also gives the person receiving the letter time to digest the things you have written down and if there is a danger that someone goes crazy from this, they usually calm down and start to think a bit when they start to write a reply or in a time, when they search the phone and choose your number.
And of course you don't need to actually send it if you dont like to. You can print it out and give it in person. Which ever feels better to you.
Hi Dustin, welcome to Susan's!
I didn't write any coming out letters but that has worked really well for many people. I agree with what Mendi is saying.
If you write a letter and don't send it, that still helps organize your thoughts. Another thing you might find helpful is spend time seeing other members' experiences in the Coming Out (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,29.0.html)forum on Susan's.
Really great to see you here.
Kendra