I really don't know where to put this but...
How do you move on from a relationship that is hurting you? Either a romantic, or social, or perhaps even family relationship. How do you move on from it?
This may sound harsh to some people, but if I were in a relationship that was hurting me I would drop them like a hot potato.
Your answer is in your question. You move on. You point yourself in another direction and walk, skip, or run. It always hurts and it is always a difficult thing. Our emotions will tug at us for years. There are no easy answers. But failure to "move on" may condemn you to a life of misery... one in which so many are stuck.
Cindi
Quote from: Angel on December 17, 2007, 05:57:19 AM
I really don't know where to put this but...
How do you move on from a relationship that is hurting you? Either a romantic, or social, or perhaps even family relationship. How do you move on from it?
I agree with those who have posted on this thread before me. The best that you can do is to cope.
If it is a social relationship it might not be a difficult thing to just avoid that person.
I have no family and that is by their decision. I transitioned, they left, and I moved on. I could not fulfill their wishes and could not accept their judgmental attitude toward me.
Romantic relationships are the most difficult for me. In a prior lifetime I was in love, deeply, truly, committed, in love. I was 17 and she was 16 and we were to be married. It all looked possible until I enlisted. She stuck with me through basic training but I could not see her waiting for me and never knowing if I will be there for the proms and other important occasions in her last two years of high school.
I broke up with her in August of 1970 and I still feel it.
As soon as I got back to my post I took everything that she ever sent me, photos, letters, the lock of her hair that I kept with me always, and gave them a proper destruction. I cried silently in my bunk for a week or two but after that I moved on by going to places where I could meet new people, possibly a new girl, possibly a new relationship.
The faster you move, the farther you can go in less time. The more people you meet and places you go the easier it will be to forget a romantic partner.
I give this advice in the belief that you are lots younger than I am (56). Our perceptions change with our age.
Hoping this helps,
Wing Walker
I am at a loss for words on this one except that all of the previous posts make valid points.
I wish you well. When you leave, don't let yourself carry any of their baggage with you.