I am a cismother to a wonderful transdaughter. She came out about 4 years ago & the majority of the family support her with the exception of someone who married into our family. My daughter has been on hormones since a month or so from coming out. She is attending university and is looking forward to getting SRS near the end of this year.
I came to this board looking for info on the place she will getting her SRS (PAI in Thailand) as well as some other information that might help her in her transition and life. I respect her privacy so I will not talk in great detail about her. I have read to her posts from here I found helpful, and I know she has visited this site a few times. At the moment she is busy with her studies and friends, so I decided to jump in and find out what I can from others on this wonderful site.
I do admit I feel like an intruder, I am not in her or anyone else's shoes but my own. My heartbreaks for some of the struggles I read about on here. Each and every person on this planet deserves love & respect unless their actions prove otherwise. So many of you are judged not by your actions, but by your appearance or some other silly thing that people should not judge others on. It is wrong, and you deserve better.
I am doing my best to give my daughter a strong support system family, friends, medical professionals and skills to help her. I want her to have a happy, healthy & successful life. Thankfully we were able to get a loan for the SRS, I know that getting that done will do a lot to make her feel more happy & healthy and take a huge weight off her shoulders that she has had to carry for years.
Thank you for this place. Thank you for those that share your stories, your triumphs, your struggles and your advice and support. May your light and life shine bright, and may each day bring your dreams closer to reality. Thanks again.
Lena
PS- I apologize if anything written above is offensive. It is never my intention.
Hi Lena, and welcome!
You are certainly not intruding, you sound like a caring parent who only wants for their child to be happy and healthy; so thank you, and I hope that we can be a useful resource in your families' journey.
I'm a UK based pre-op MTF trans-woman, and I've been living full-time for 9 months, and on HRT for 7.
Good luck with everything .x
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This is the best/most positive post I know of on PAI.
My wonderful surgeries SRS, BA and FFS at PAI Bangkok
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,204651.0.html
Also look here
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=226261.0
They do traditional penile inversion, not the "Thai technique" you sometimes hear about. I see their advantage as being quite cheap and short wait list.
Welcome to Susan's Place. You are far from an intruder as we welcome everybody to the site. Our most active members are transgender because they are searching for answers but we have Significant Others who regularly post on the site. Sooner or latter most will make a post in the Significent Other (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,26.0.html) section of the site however that is not a requirement. One of the heartfelt post (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233074.0.html) was made by a SO in the introductions area of the site. Feel free to explore, ask questions and get to know us a little better.
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Lena, I'm so happy you are here. You give hope to those here that feel no one could accept them. You are in no way intruding here. We need your insights as much as anyone's. You are such a wonderful mother.
Jess
Welcome! It's nice to have a fellow mom here. I too am the mom to a transgender woman, but we are just starting the process and it has been pretty rocky so far. I hope that I will be able to get some advice from you while she is in the early part of this journey since you have already been there. :) There are lots of wonderful, supportive people here that I am certain you will get plenty of helpful information from as well.
Hi Lena :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Thanks so much for the warm welcome. I appreciate the links, information, advice & those that reached out. You are all so amazing.
LJH24, of course I am happy to lend an ear & offer advice since my daughter and I am currently a bit further along on her transition. I will soon be able to send & reply to PMs. So feel free to PM & once I hit 15 posts I will reply (may take another day or two to reach 15). I am glad your daughter has you. So often my daughter has met other transyouth that have been kicked out of their homes! It enrages me that parents could do that to their own kid! Every child on this planet deserves to have a family that will love them through thick or thin.
Also anyone else PMing, just give me a day or two to hit 15 posts. Thanks again for all welcomes, advice, links, etc... I truly appreciate all of it.
Wishing you all the best!
Lena
Hi Lena,
I'm Laurie and I greeted you in a different thread. We are glad to have you and other people that are involved in a transgender person's life. We do have a Significant Others forum where you and other SOs can share with each other in what we try to keep as a friendly welcoming place for you. It is not exclusive to SO's but we try to encourage others to be nice and keep things supportive. If perchance you do run into what you think is an inappropriate post please report it to a moderator by utilizing the link in the lower right corner of every post then tell us what the problem is. All reports are investigate and action taken if need be.
Again I welcome you and your daughter into our midst. It is good that you daughter has such wonderful support from you. Kudos for being a great mother.
Hugs,
Laurie