I have no family to turn to with this. My Mother, the one I thought would at least try to understand, has since latched onto the 'trans people are just autistic and obsessive' study she read on yahoo.com a while ago and has since started wathing shows like 'the A word' and projecting onto me.
Oh that kid does stuff you did as a kid, so it must be autism, you must be autistic.
Oh so youre going to the gender services? probably will find out youre just obsessed with the subject.
Have been the last two conversation enders Ive had when I tried to talk about the gender stuff (which the head of leeds gender identity services is convinced Im actually a strong candidate for gender dysphoria). I get home and tell her and she doesnt want to talk about it till 'later.'
Thing is the autism thing pisses me off because I went through testing at school for that when they found out I had dyspraxia (a physical coordination disorder) and I struggled to develop my coordination to the level where nobody would think twice about it. The fact she's jumping on that infuriates me and hurts me terribly.
I am constantly ignored when I ask family members not to comment on my body (they do this a lot, because Im broad shouldered and hairy) but they ignore my requests because I am sensitive about it and when I protest I am treated like a difficult child rather than someone who has asked for a boundry to be respected and is ignored.
Im starting to feel I need to move away and transition during a period of zero contact
I'm so sorry she does that to you... It seems like a lot of people try to project other issues on to the trans community, and it's not right.. My parents do that to me, saying I'm just bipolar, and that it will pass.. Which isn't the case.. It seems like some people are willing to accept anything but being transgender, which is horrible.. Hopefully with time, and more information, people will start to change. I've made it a goal of mine to try to inform as many people as I can, and try to make the world a safer, more understanding, place.
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I'd rather be transgender than autistic. I'm not sure why your mom is acting like that's better.
Society that breeds biggotry and ignorance is mentally ill- not being transgender. I feel for you because I know if I do come out I'll be treated the same if not worse by my mom and family. That's why I'm transitioning and I haven't told them. I don't need to explain myself, they're not my doctor and they definitely don't have medical knowledge.
That's the thing with family. There are so many complexes among them and it's almost never worth it to get caught up with that. Communities of people thrive now outside of just blood relatives. Compatibility and acceptance is much more important now than conformity.
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confronted my mum on the autism today, after she's been picking up signals that Im really upset and not talking to her (which she doesnt like, but also doesnt like me having boundaries so hey ho) and I told her that I dont like the autism comparisons.
She's backtracked now to 'you know who you are inside so just be you' and 'you'll learn to love your body if you try harder'
this is coming from a woman who within the last few months had surgery to fix a symmetry issue with her ears which she has spent years hiding under her hair. The hypocrisy is real