Girls,
Is it normal that when I spread my legs my vagina opens and become VERY exposed/visible?
I am just two weeks post-op... I was expecting a more "closed" look..but the thing is I don't know if this is normal for vaginas or neovaginas...
Well it may still because of the swelling so let it heal first and let the skin gets softer and loose in time. If after 3-6months or so you still dont see any improvement, then its a common case and could be corrected on your secondary surgery for aesthetic purposes.
I know this because I had similar case. After the 2nd surgery my vagina is way way better aesthetically and more tucked / closed even when legs are spread
Honestly I'd suggest practicing kegel exercises.. you do have muscle around the vagina, and practice contracting the vaginal canal itself can help that. Or at least that's what I do to actually 'practice' on the stents... it also helps with the vaginal cavity NOT tensing up when you practice releasing/contraction with it. Useful for that yearly Ob/gyn evaluation and the terror device known as the speculum.
Give it a try :) You might be surprised at the results. Its something you can do sitting playing games or at work, etc... and unless you're being obvious noone can even tell you're doing it. I know I"ve heard some girls claim they can even orgasm in this manner. I haven't quite got there yet :P
Keeping those muscles strong helps with not leaking pee when you get older also.
You will change so much in the first 6 months. It is hard to even know what you have at this point. I recently (at 6 months) had a procedure to hood my clitoris more and that has done some good as far as it being closed. Don't panic.
Moni
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Thanks for the answers girls. :)
Those Kegel exercises... could they be harmful now that I am still early post-op and healing?
Dilation is being kind of painful/difficult for me mainly because it is hard getting the dilator trhough the pelvic muscle... wouldn't Kegel exercises make harder to get through that muscle?
Quote from: Valeria87 on January 23, 2018, 05:24:11 PM
Thanks for the answers girls. :)
Those Kegel exercises... could they be harmful now that I am still early post-op and healing?
Dilation is being kind of painful/difficult for me mainly because it is hard getting the dilator trhough the pelvic muscle... wouldn't Kegel exercises make harder to get through that muscle?
Kegal exercises will teach you to RELAX and contract those muscles. Learning how to relax tense muscles is just as important as being able to use them. If you have any doubt about the value of them, feel free to contact your doctor; Heaven forbid I should ever speak for them but I'm pretty certain that they'll encourage you to do the exercises. Like was stated before, it can also help prevent urinary incontinence from things like coughing, sneezing, laughing, etc. KEEP DILATING! I know it gets more difficult, but these early times are critical! Don't slack off in the beginning or you will lose depth & width, and it takes more 'coaxing' to get it to the size you want. Skin IS pliable, so it can be taught to stretch out, but it takes a bit of pain, discomfort, and sheer boredom sometimes to get there. Don't do it to the point of excruciating pain though... thats counter productive.
Doreen is right, whatever you do, don't stop dilating. Look at your positioning and make sure you have your legs supported so you can relax all your muscles.
Moni
What I have seen from myself and other post-ops and what i also heard from other post-ops, our vaginas tend to have a more open/exposed look unless there is a secondary revision known as commissure surgery. (I do understand and acknowledge there are some girls who end up with great results from their primary SRS and I am happy for them). I just do not think many post-ops end up with a Barbie doll vagina the first go. Hence why, it is not uncommon to go for a second labiaplasty. Continue with dilation until you heal completely then perhaps consider a touch-up. All the best.
To the extent I was able to think through the pain in my first few weeks I remember similar surprise, however, by the time I'd gotten to a month out, I was able to truly enjoy my look standing before a full length mirror,which was that of my outer labia fully enclosing the rest of my vulva. By 6 months things had calmed down and I love my appearance, legs closed or spread I look quite similar to a cis female.