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 :angel: Tell us who you date.

Can't see polls in Tapatalk. Can you explain what you wrote? All I see is :angel:

Quote from: MeTony on January 28, 2018, 12:30:41 AM
Can't see polls in Tapatalk. Can you explain what you wrote? All I see is :angel:

All it is is a poll and I didn't write anything other than the emote.

Quote from: MeTony on January 28, 2018, 12:30:41 AM
Can't see polls in Tapatalk. Can you explain what you wrote? All I see is :angel:

It's basically asking who you date gender wise.

Quote from: KarlMars on January 28, 2018, 12:58:51 AM
It's basically asking who you date gender wise.

Ok. Thank you.

Not dating atm. I'm still married. But if the time comes, I'll date all gender types. It's the personality that is interesting in a person.

I like dick. I don't particularly have a preference regarding what gender the dick-possessing person is. I don't think there's a PC term for that.

I answered "male" cause I'm only into men nowadays but I used to be vaguely into women before, although never actually dated any woman and now I don't want to in the future either. I have a strong preference for cis men, but am into trans men as well to a certain degree. I'm into both kinds of genitals on guys, but not female secondary sex characteristics.

I date all genders. I don't restrict myself or anyone else to a binary.

i'm not at a point in my life where dating is a realistic or comfortable option for me.  but my attraction leans toward women, if that answers anything.

I'm not interested in dating anyone for a while.

Pretty jaded on the relationship front and the "hell is other people" business. Even if someone amazing come along, I probably couldn't just leave my friend behind to go swan off with them.

I'm not sure what to put as the poll answer since I'm feeling particularly bitter today.

Men. Trans or cis

I am solely attracted to fellow males.

I'm not dating anyone at the moment though because I haven't finished my medical transition yet and without a decent body I obviously can't date anyone. I don't want to date while still being trapped in such a monstrosity with such disgraceful parts. I am grossed out by those parts and I respect myself enough that I would never humiliate and degrade myself as far as to gross a hypothetical partner out with that disgusting thing that I don't even acknowledge as belonging or having anything to do with me.

I will date when I have finished my medical transition and possess a respectable body, until then I continue to stay single and abstinent as I did my whole life so far.

Quote from: SeptagonScars on January 28, 2018, 12:09:17 PM
I answered "male" cause I'm only into men nowadays but I used to be vaguely into women before, although never actually dated any woman and now I don't want to in the future either. I have a strong preference for cis men, but am into trans men as well to a certain degree. I'm into both kinds of genitals on guys, but not female secondary sex characteristics.

Same for me.

Although I did vote 'both', I've only had one serious relationship with a cis girl (my first two 'relationships' were in middle and early high school and I don't count them), but I'd consider dating any gender.  My only preference is that I'm more attracted to feminine people than masculine.   ^-^

More attracted to men. Although I've 'dated' women, some amazing women, I find the masculine psyche a better match for my own and romantically speaking they've always been more compatible for some reason. Might be something to do with risk factors and reliability, when trust has already been accounted for.

Kind of attracted to a specific sort of guy, though. Not sure the word for the physique - tall/lithe. Not scrawny. Not excessively built either. With a certain degree of masculinity in the face. etc. With women I couldn't describe a specific "type" although I always seem to be drawn to the brunettes.   

When it comes down to it though, I've always been in the game for the long haul and that means finding someone who's not only basically attractive but who doesn't end up driving you nuts after a couple of years. Their "type" may not go the distance. Casual dating has never been much my scene (or luck). It always turns into Gomez and Morticia within a week.  ::) 

I put "other" because "both" implies that there are only two gender identities...

I said other and here's the reason: I'm really not sure about it all!

I do find both men and women romantically appealing to me and I could, defo, have a crush on a people of both genders. I could defo go out out with them. However, I find women much more sexually appealing than I find men - and therefor I'm not sure if I could, practically speaking, date men. Testosterone has changed me into much more sexual than I used to be pre-testosterone, after all.

Gosh, I'm glad I'm married. No need to spend too much time thinking about these things! ;D

I really don't have a "type" for the men I'm into. I struggle to understand what even is sexual attraction. Is it me being horny for someone or do I need to find them aesthetically pleasing as well? Cause that's rarely correlated for me. I can want and enjoy being with a guy I don't think looks good, and be very uninterested in and not like being with a guy I think does look good, and the reverse happens on occasion as well. It seems to not be about looks much at all, beyond gendered traits.

I feel "drawn" to maleness, like male physical features, but what type of it has no bearing. Same as I feel "pulled away from" femaleness, for whatever reason. With men, all I ever go by is how well we communicate, our connection and compatibility.

It makes it ridiculously easy for me to find men for casual sex though, I've gotta admit. As long as they're acting decent and are serious, I'm up for it. I don't even need to know what they look like at all before I meet them, if there's a connection I know I'm 99% likely to like being with them, regardless of their looks.

But it confuses me nonetheless, and I hate getting the question "why do find me attractive? I don't look good" cause I neither want to be honest, nor do I want to lie. I'm attracted to them, but I don't find them attractive.

Quote from: Oblivion on January 29, 2018, 04:59:08 PM
Men. Trans or cis

Same.  My partner, even though he's also trans, is not currently transitioning, and he might never do so.  However, his mind is male, and I find that really attractive.

I have to admit, it took me a while to become attractive to his AFAB body, but after sorting through that mental jungle, I find him extremely attractive, even if he doesn't think of himself as so.

Ryuichi

Pretty much into men and masculinity in most ways that count.

However, I could see myself fooling around with a woman in a strict BDSM/kink sense - I probably wouldn't be attracted to her physically, and definitely not romantically, but she could be fun to play with for a scene if we had the mental chemistry.

Very much only into women, and especially feminine women/femmes

Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

Quote from: BT04 on April 04, 2018, 12:02:52 AM
However, I could see myself fooling around with a woman in a strict BDSM/kink sense - I probably wouldn't be attracted to her physically, and definitely not romantically, but she could be fun to play with for a scene if we had the mental chemistry.

I could see this being true to me as well. I'm not really attracted to the female body, but I think it's very elegant and pretty - if she had some cool costume on that covered up the scary parts, I would certainly be down to try. I can't imagine I'd be a lot of fun, though.    ;D

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

I get that guilty feeling. Although I am transitioning, I too can't imagine myself with a non-transitioning trans guy. I'm fine with female genitals, but then that is the only female trait that I am fine with... so I feel guilty about having "requirements" of other trans guys' medical transitions to be attracted to them.

That feels like I'm shallow and have a checklist for what's "approved" or something. As though that's insensitive. But then I also can't really help what I'm attracted to and what I'm not. I think for me, that's a big reason I tend to prefer aiming for cis guys while just being open to other trans guys, if that would just so happen.

A non-transitioning FTM would need to look/sound quite androgynous at the least, although I'm not particularly attracted to gigantic bears and tend to prefer cis men with a slight hint of androgyny to them (except in the face). But there are some undeniable male features that do have to be there for all that to "work". Otherwise it would probably seem close to dating a butch lesbian and I have reservations there. Yeah I think they'd probably have to be transitioning properly.

Haha, that's a relief. Glad I'm not the only one!    :P

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

Not non-transitioning, but I'll never have bottom surgery. And yeah, this. I don't think I could go near an exposed vagina without feeling like it was gross, which would be HELLA unfair to everyone involved. I don't see anything to feel guilty about, preferences and triggers are exactly what it says on the tin.

QuoteI could see this being true to me as well. I'm not really attracted to the female body, but I think it's very elegant and pretty - if she had some cool costume on that covered up the scary parts, I would certainly be down to try. I can't imagine I'd be a lot of fun, though.    ;D

A lot of people, especially trans people, seem to be into elegance and all that stuff... I don't really get it. I wanna bang in the back of a muddy truck. I like brute force, dirt, sweat, the subtle threat of violence from both parties. And that usually means meeeennnn lol.

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

Quote from: SeptagonScars on April 11, 2018, 12:10:26 PM
I get that guilty feeling. Although I am transitioning, I too can't imagine myself with a non-transitioning trans guy. I'm fine with female genitals, but then that is the only female trait that I am fine with... so I feel guilty about having "requirements" of other trans guys' medical transitions to be attracted to them.

That feels like I'm shallow and have a checklist for what's "approved" or something. As though that's insensitive. But then I also can't really help what I'm attracted to and what I'm not. I think for me, that's a big reason I tend to prefer aiming for cis guys while just being open to other trans guys, if that would just so happen.

I would not be able to be with a non-transitioning transman either and I don't feel guilty about it at all and I don't think that anyone should have to feel guilty about not being attracted to certain sex characteristics.
I am attracted to the male physique and I find the female body unaesthetic, I find tits gross and vaginas outright repulsive, plus I don't even like high-pitched voices at all. So of course I only feel attraction towards men who possess a male appearance what includes male body parts whether biological or surgically reconstructed.

That has nothing to do with me being shallow or judgemental or insensitive or whatever, it's just me being gay and only attracted to male parts. 
And I honestly would get quite unpleasant if someone ever accused me of being shallow or insensitive or a lot of worse stuff  I am not, solely because of my natural sexual orientation and because I don't ever want to get anywhere near tits and vaginas because I am repulsed by those parts. 
Unfortunately there are people of certain political ideologies screaming bigot and transphobe in order to guilt trip people if they aren't attracted to and not willing to be in a sexual relationship with people regardless of genitalia and sex characteristics. And for those people to place such a judgement onto others due to an aspect they can't change (sexual orientation/attraction) or chose or do anything about is actual bigotry in my book. 

Aside from all of that, hypothetically speaking, who would it help if I dated a non-transitioning transman? And why would he want to be with someone like me who was not attracted to his body in the first place? I think he wouldn't want that!
It wouldn't work. It would have the potential to worsen his dysphoria and everyone would lose big time.
Plus, I personally think that the person deserved to be with someone who found him attractive that way and I couldn't provide that. 

Quote from: Corax on April 12, 2018, 05:04:56 PM
I would not be able to be with a non-transitioning transman either and I don't feel guilty about it at all and I don't think that anyone should have to feel guilty about not being attracted to certain sex characteristics.
I am attracted to the male physique and I find the female body unaesthetic, I find tits gross and vaginas outright repulsive, plus I don't even like high-pitched voices at all. So of course I only feel attraction towards men who possess a male appearance what includes male body parts whether biological or surgically reconstructed.

That has nothing to do with me being shallow or judgemental or insensitive or whatever, it's just me being gay and only attracted to male parts. 
And I honestly would get quite unpleasant if someone ever accused me of being shallow or insensitive or a lot of worse stuff  I am not, solely because of my natural sexual orientation and because I don't ever want to get anywhere near tits and vaginas because I am repulsed by those parts. 
Unfortunately there are people of certain political ideologies screaming bigot and transphobe in order to guilt trip people if they aren't attracted to and not willing to be in a sexual relationship with people regardless of genitalia and sex characteristics. And for those people to place such a judgement onto others due to an aspect they can't change (sexual orientation/attraction) or chose or do anything about is actual bigotry in my book. 

Aside from all of that, hypothetically speaking, who would it help if I dated a non-transitioning transman? And why would he want to be with someone like me who was not attracted to his body in the first place? I think he wouldn't want that!
It wouldn't work. It would have the potential to worsen his dysphoria and everyone would lose big time.
Plus, I personally think that the person deserved to be with someone who found him attractive that way and I couldn't provide that.

I don't think I should feel guilty or shallow over it, cause I know I'm not doing anything wrong with who/what I'm attracted to. But I feel that way despite what I logically think about it. I'm grossed out by tits too, and not into high-pitched voices or curvy bodies in general either, especially not in combination with tits.

I don't really care about what people with certain political ideologies or agendas might think of my sexuality/attraction (cause I wouldn't date them anyhow), but more so about the feelings of the individual people I may or may not date based on my attraction or lack thereof. But then maybe I'm unnecessarily paranoid about that.

Quote from: SeptagonScars on April 14, 2018, 11:17:12 PM
I don't think I should feel guilty or shallow over it, cause I know I'm not doing anything wrong with who/what I'm attracted to. But I feel that way despite what I logically think about it. I'm grossed out by tits too, and not into high-pitched voices or curvy bodies in general either, especially not in combination with tits.

Yes, it's basically this. To be honest, I don't really hold myself to the same standard as I do with other people, I'll feel guilty about things that logically aren't my fault. From anyone else, I think feeling that way is super reasonable.

I do feel like it's a shame, though. I aesthetically enjoy the look of transmen who retain some of the androgeny/less typically hyper-masculine appearance.

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I am currently not dating anyone, I would like to date another guy, I want a boyfriend badly, so then I will have someone to be gay with that is all mine lol

I don't pay attention to the body or gender when looking for a partner. I usually get to know them as a person first and it usually goes through like friends to lovers kinda thing

I'm into people of all/most genders. My current partner is a man and I love him a lot, but I also had some crushes on women and nonbinary people in the past.