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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: CallMeKatie on January 28, 2018, 05:31:00 PM

Title: I like being a girl
Post by: CallMeKatie on January 28, 2018, 05:31:00 PM
So I am not there in person but online I can be whover I truly am without any prejudice of me being tall, a bit overweight and looking male.

People are generally just nicer to you and I can be my silly self without guys threatening to beat me up for joking.
I feel free and liberated and just. ..ctap I dunno.  Happy.

It's going to take time to bring this into my offline life and I know people won't be nice all the time but it's just...nice.
That's it. It's like I'm a girl so I am given a free pass or something.

I'm rambling. Sorry. It's not meant to be a rant but hearing people call me by my name online feels SO good.
How I am going to stop myself crying when offline do, I have no idea.

Yes online interactions are a huge part of my life
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: Jamie_06 on January 28, 2018, 05:37:16 PM
I agree, being a girl really can be fun. And you've seen nothing yet; wait until you pass as a girl in real life. It's really exciting when you can finally express that side of yourself openly. I know I did.
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: Dani on January 28, 2018, 07:41:08 PM
Many of us test the waters on line, which is satisfying for most of us somewhat. Later, we find that nothing is better than real life.

Be careful on line.
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: judithlynn on January 28, 2018, 11:41:44 PM
Hi Katie;
I think I just read that you are based in the United Kingdom. I sort of commute between Australia and the United Kingdom and have a i-property in Devon. Can I ask which part of the UK you live in.

JudithLynn
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: doctorinkwell on January 29, 2018, 12:26:13 AM
Wahoo! Go, Katie, go!

Do what feels natural. Take your time. Becoming into yourself is a beautiful experience.

:) - Sunny
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: Allie Bee on January 29, 2018, 03:42:19 AM
Quote from: CallMeKatie on January 28, 2018, 05:31:00 PM
So I am not there in person but online I can be whover I truly am without any prejudice of me being tall, a bit overweight and looking male.

People are generally just nicer to you and I can be my silly self without guys threatening to beat me up for joking.
I feel free and liberated and just. ..ctap I dunno.  Happy.

It's going to take time to bring this into my offline life and I know people won't be nice all the time but it's just...nice.
That's it. It's like I'm a girl so I am given a free pass or something.

I'm rambling. Sorry. It's not meant to be a rant but hearing people call me by my name online feels SO good.
How I am going to stop myself crying when offline do, I have no idea.

Yes online interactions are a huge part of my life



Twitter & instagram & social media helped me come out.  Was on hrt, feelin ugly, posted a random selfie on #transgirltwitter in solidarity or whatever & started gettin likes & compliments. Startrd bein called by my name.  Started feelin good about myself. But in person, without filters or laser hair removal yet,  i wasnt anywhere close yet. It took a while for me to be become accepted offline, but it all started goin as fast as it did Because of social media & the support of the community:)
All of the sudden when that happened, life became Immensely better. Even the air smelled better, smiling all the time, life is good... the uncertainty & "risk" of this whole process is so scary & stuff but the payoff is indescribable...
So ya, lol, i relate;P
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: CallMeKatie on January 29, 2018, 04:10:17 AM
Quote from: judithlynn on January 28, 2018, 11:41:44 PM
Hi Katie;
I think I just read that you are based in the United Kingdom. I sort of commute between Australia and the United Kingdom and have a i-property in Devon. Can I ask which part of the UK you live in.

JudithLynn

HI JudithLynn.  I'm east mIslands.  Long way from Devon haha :)
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: VickyS on January 29, 2018, 05:48:37 AM
I have noticed I'm not as introverted and have more sass.

If I'm driving my car and someone was looking at me in a traffic queue, before (in male mode) I would feel very self concious and not no where to look. Definately not directly at them.

Now, if I'm in full girl mode (mentally) I will look straight at them and THEY look away!

I think the more I have 'feminised' myself, albeit only very slightly with longer hair, longer fingernails, all body hair removed, toe nails painted, more feminine mannerisms, the more confidence I'm getting.   It's like I was REALLY uncomfortable in my own skin before.  To a man, what I have done should produce LESS confidence, but I guess that's the point.

I also think that we have to be careful with our on-line personas.  I don't think it's healthy to develop an alter-ego as such.  When I first created my female on-line persona it was new and exciting but felt slightly disconnected, but as time goes on, more and more things are slotting into place and I'm realising that I actually AM Vicky and slowly but surely I feel more connected to my true female self as the male self begins to evaporate.  Hope that makes some sort of twisted sense!! lol.
Title: Re: I like being a girl
Post by: CallMeKatie on January 29, 2018, 06:53:49 AM
Hey Vicky, I don't have an online persona, I am me all the time online or offline. This is me. :)