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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: CallMeKatie on February 01, 2018, 05:42:08 AM

Title: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: CallMeKatie on February 01, 2018, 05:42:08 AM
I'm a girl  I like football and scifi and too much bacon in one sandwich.
I also like my hair down,  cute bracelets,  the colour pink and emotional movies.

Does this make me a tom-boy? I am okay with that.  My best friends are tom-boys.

I sometimes just wonder if I should be more...I dunno...girlie?
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: PollyQMcLovely on February 01, 2018, 05:46:38 AM
I think you'll find there's more variety in this community than just about anywhere else.

Check out this thread:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=233091.0 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=233091.0)
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Colleen_definitely on February 01, 2018, 06:18:50 AM
I'm going to a shooting competition called "Desert Brutality" this weekend, so it better be okay.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: TonyaW on February 01, 2018, 06:25:50 AM
It's ok to be a girly girl when you want to and a tom boy at other times.  I think most women float in between the two.

I'm more on the girly side generally but not always.  I went full time last summer, I still kept golfing, won my fantasy baseball league and watched every Badger and Packer football game when I wasn't working.  My mom and my sister watched more football than I did and follow it closer than I do.  I would say they are neither girly girls or tom boys.

So as they say,

you do you. 


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Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: ChrissyRyan on February 01, 2018, 07:43:46 AM
Being a tomboy can be attractive to some guys as they may think it is cool that a girl likes doing some "boy" things that they as boys like doing.  Just be yourself.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: KathyLauren on February 01, 2018, 07:48:24 AM
There's no "should" when it comes to being trans.  You can be as masculine or as feminine as you want, or you can even alternate.  You get to choose.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:11:36 AM
Of course it's ok for you to be a Tom boy if you want. There are no "rules". Lots of women like football. So what if you have extra bacon on your sandwich?  I've seen some women who can out eat a large guy. I hate football and all sports really and I'm very girly with most things but I love Sci-fi and I find southpark and the three stooges funny. If that makes me a " tomboy" or masculine, oh well. I don't care. So many transwomen make their transition so much harder by totally stressing about their behavior and hobbies wondering if they are too masculine. Just be yourself. If someone doesn't like it or thinks you are being " masculine " screw them. Transition takes a lot from us but it doesn't need to take things you enjoy from you too.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Jessica on February 01, 2018, 08:19:59 AM
It better be! 
Of course it is, why do you think the term is around?
My wife is a tomboy, and so am I.
We both like girlie things too, we just make sure we wear our gloves over our manicured hands when we race the RZR.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:25:08 AM
Perfect tomboy mix; syfy, fantasy with Hallmark :)
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:28:47 AM
Quote from: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:25:08 AM
Perfect tomboy mix; syfy, fantasy with Hallmark :)

Hallmark channel?  Oh no,no. The hallmark channel is a total sleeping pill! They have the MOST boring movies ever!
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:30:36 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:28:47 AM
Hallmark channel?  Oh no,no. The hallmark channel is a total sleeping pill! They have the MOST boring movies ever!

What ya talk'n bout Willis!!!!!!
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:35:26 AM
Quote from: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:30:36 AM
What ya talk'n bout Willis!!!!!!

It's true. They have so many romance movies! Unlike a lot of women I don't like romantic movies! They're boring!  If the movie is about a jilted lover who goes on a rampage and starts slaughtering people or someone finds out they married an alien in human form then I would watch it. Lol
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:38:25 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:35:26 AM
It's true. They have so many romance movies! Unlike a lot of women I don't like romantic movies! They're boring!  If the movie is about a jilted lover who goes on a rampage and starts slaughtering people or someone finds out they married an alien in human form then I would watch it. Lol

They did have a Hercules movie once, lol. 

Personally, I find crime and thrillers boring and very rarely haven't figured out the plot early on.

For fun I like the Carbonaro Effect, it's hilarious at times.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Jessica on February 01, 2018, 08:40:41 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:35:26 AM
It's true. They have so many romance movies! Unlike a lot of women I don't like romantic movies! They're boring!  If the movie is about a jilted lover who goes on a rampage and starts slaughtering people or someone finds out they married an alien in human form then I would watch it. Lol

Try "The Shape of Water" it's a love story with a monster
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:41:40 AM
Quote from: Jessica on February 01, 2018, 08:40:41 AM
Try "The Shape of Water" it's a love story with a monster
Oh yes. I want to see that one.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: TonyaW on February 01, 2018, 08:42:27 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:35:26 AM
It's true. They have so many romance movies! Unlike a lot of women I don't like romantic movies! They're boring!  If the movie is about a jilted lover who goes on a rampage and starts slaughtering people or someone finds out they married an alien in human form then I would watch it. Lol
Yeah but on Hallmark channel the new knight in shining armor would come in a save the damsel in distress from the rampaging  jilted  lover. 

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Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:43:23 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 08:41:40 AM
Oh yes. I want to see that one.

While kinda strange it was enjoyable.

Anyway, Julia, quick - some suggestions for salad mix'ns  I know it's not this thread but getting ready to take daughter to work and go shopping.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:44:35 AM
Quote from: TonyaW on February 01, 2018, 08:42:27 AM
Yeah but on Hallmark channel the new knight in shining armor would come in a save the damsel in distress from the rampaging  jilted  lover. 

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I still have my suit of armor from my hero days but only the helmet fits nowadays :)  And it certainly will be too heavy for me as I transist :)
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 09:22:05 AM
Quote from: Cassi on February 01, 2018, 08:43:23 AM
While kinda strange it was enjoyable.

Anyway, Julia, quick - some suggestions for salad mix'ns  I know it's not this thread but getting ready to take daughter to work and go shopping.

Lettuce.
Spinach.
Kale.
Tomatoes.
Cucumbers.
Onions.
Mushrooms.
Bell peppers.
Bean sprouts.
Shredded cheese.
Ham cubes.
Boiled eggs.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Jessica on February 01, 2018, 09:23:58 AM
Quote from: Julia1996 on February 01, 2018, 09:22:05 AM
Lettuce.
Spinach.
Kale.
Tomatoes.
Cucumbers.
Onions.
Mushrooms.
Bell peppers.
Bean sprouts.
Shredded cheese.
Ham cubes.
Boiled eggs.
.

Garbanzo beans
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Mountain Warfare Girl on February 01, 2018, 09:28:13 AM
Yes it so fine I'm in to guns , auto racing and survival / homesteading that doesn't make me any less of a woman
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Lady Lisandra on February 01, 2018, 10:38:10 AM
I personally don't like cars nor football, but I'm really into martial arts and HEMA. I'll probably pick up one of them once the summer holidays end.

You like things that are not considered feminine, so what? Nobody said you have to choose either dresses or sports.
Title: Re: Is it okay to be a tom-boy girl?
Post by: Kylo on February 01, 2018, 11:09:00 AM
Of course it is ok. I was thought to be one and never had anyone telling me I should be more girly.

Well except from my grandma but she was oldschool. She realized there was turning me into the perfect lady and gave up I think