Hi Ladies,
Every day that I read others' posts on Susan's gives me the opportunity to reflect on myself while reading. You see, my brain did crazy things as I was growing up to reconcile my feelings of wanting to be a woman and just started building partitions segmenting off those desires and making very specific rules about how I could even think about it.
While reading today it dawned on my why I was never willing to consume alcohol in quantities sufficient to get drunk. On the surface that reason was I had three of four grandparents who were alcoholics and I knew that It was a risk factor for my own alcoholism, but the REAL reason which I can now remember bubbling up from my subconscious was that I was afraid I would start talking about my hidden desire to be a woman.
I want to thank all of you beautiful ladies (both figurative and literal) for continually helping me to find me. As I post in an attempt to help others, I realize that I am simultaneously helping myself.
Much love! (I'm crying now)
Julie
And i would say thank you for being here, i consider anyone on here brothers and sisters, once we realise who we are its for me atleast growing up again, reading about other peoples feelings and experances, their fears and jorneys both give me a little glimmer of hope and the feeling im not alone.
Really I used to drink heavily for years but that never came out. I would cry uncontrollably but I always thought it was for other reasons.
Glad it helps you being here! It helps me too and many others I'm sure
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I completely agree. I've learned so much about myself just by reading other people's experiences. Some were duh moments. Some scared me to my core. It wasn't till I was on here for a while that I understood myself enough to be more open and choose female as my gender. It was really hard just to reach that stage. Susan's helped me decide who I am, and what to do. I'm very happy to have this resource.
Bari Jo
And Julia you'll experience your new sisters travels through their words, the way I've seen sisters that are on the same timeline as myself, such as Bari Jo. We grow from each other's support and we become family to each other. Learning new things and sharing thoughts is one of the best things about Susan's.
This is so true. I still find it amazing so many of us started hrt at the same time! Plus their troubles might be simple for you and you can give advice or just support. I can't tell you how often I've gotten a tiny suggestion that ended up being a game changer for me
Bari Jo
I remember 5 years ago when I first started HRT and all the special advice that helped me so very much from longer transitioners. A few below I still remember and some advice from who.
# Use moisturiser 2x daily. Because with diminished T our sebacious glands dont produce the oil we are used to having and resulting in dry skin. From Cindy
#2 Dont make commitments and promises when you first start HRT. We are like treenage girls.The great increase in empathy as a new transitioner can cause some irrational decisions.
#3 Relax and as time passs you will lose those bulky muscles.
#4 I was desperatly looking for a electrolysis place in HK, and a member recommended the person who cleared my facial hair. Clearing my facial hair gave me so much confidence.
#5 Your views on life post op will change over time, once you have matured as a female. I had planned on deep stealth. Today, I know not to live another lie and am proud to be a female tg. But I understand and believe you choose your own path.
Just a few simple advice that has helped me over the years. Some have moved on in life and no longer participate in the Forum. Where ever you are, I hope you are doing well and I thank you.
Quote from: warlockmaker on February 12, 2018, 11:06:38 PM
I remember 5 years ago when I first started HRT and all the special advice that helped me so very much from longer transitioners. A few below I still remember and some advice from who.
# Use moisturiser 2x daily. Because with diminished T our sebacious glands dont produce the oil we are used to having and resulting in dry skin. From Cindy
#2 Dont make commitments and promises when you first start HRT. We are like treenage girls.The great increase in empathy as a new transitioner can cause some irrational decisions.
#3 Relax and as time passs you will lose those bulky muscles.
#4 I was desperatly looking for a electrolysis place in HK, and a member recommended the person who cleared my facial hair. Clearing my facial hair gave me so much confidence.
#5 Your views on life post op will change over time, once you have matured as a female. I had planned on deep stealth. Today, I know not to live another lie and am proud to be a female tg. But I understand and believe you choose your own path.
Just a few simple advice that has helped me over the years. Some have moved on in life and no longer participate in the Forum. Where ever you are, I hope you are doing well and I thank you.
#2 is really interesting to me. I definitely have been moody to the point that it's affected my job! My biggest commitment that for some reason feels like it's breaking apart... and I've worked with teenagers. I know irritational this experience can be. But it's so very different in reality.
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The title of this thread literally says it all.
Every day Susans reminds me there are so many of us who have felt this way so long and that we have so much in common and therefore to share. We can all help each other simply be offering support and advice.
I am sure many certainly me decided to seek therapy and then HRT partly as a result of reading Susans for months beforehand.
We encounter so many problems but theres always someone here to help.