Hey, so...
fortunatey there are only two situations where I'm regulary formally adressed, meaning called "Miss xxx"
That's college and therapy (not gender-specific).
Since therapy is an environment for me where I should feel save and free to talk whatever comes to my mind, it's very important to me that I don't feel hold back by something as minor as being adressed in conversation.
Do you have any ideas/experiences how I could ask my therapist to adress me differently/without title, without practically outing myself? I am stirring the conversations there right now, but it's slow and I definitly don't want to rush things (bc I'm unsure myslef). Still, inwardly cringing every time I'm adressed doesn't make it any easier.
Thanks
Okay I misread so let me change this up a bit. I mean you could always say that you believe in equality and feel that gender specific pronouns contribute to inequality. but I still hold by the fact if your therapist is good you should just be able to tell them and not have to worry about outing yourself. Remember they are bound to confidence so they really cannot share what they learn in sessions say for extreme situations.
I've asked people to relax and to please be less formal and to drop the Mr and Sir. Should work for a therapist as well.
Just thought I'd let you know how it went, since you so kindly took your time to respnid to my concerns.
So, last session I outright interrupted her sentence and asked her "Please, could you maybe stop calling me "Miss xxx" that often? Or avoid it at all?" .... and she didn't even ask why. She just said, that she'd try her best, but I'd have to eventually remind her, whever she adresses me the wrong way.
Although she thinks it is becuase I dislike my last name ::) I at least am free of that particular dysphoria trigger now.
Thank you for pushing me towards that important step!