Now when I say dressed I mean my entire outfit will be female clothes and it will be jeans and a top with a coat.
I won't be wearing makeup or my wig.
Got to start somewhere and this i feel will really give me a huge boost to take further steps.
How about you lot? How was your first venture outside in these clothes? Did you go all the way? :)
Hello. I have just started dressing in the last couple months. I've been out in slacks, blouse and bra and a nice blazer along with my knee high boots. My nails are light pink and I wear lipstick. No wig yet and I still have some facial hair which is going away soon. I have not had a strange look or comment yet but I've only been out 5/6 times. I fully dress going to my counseling sessions. This week I started dressing full fem for work and it's going great so far.
Give it a try, it was well worth it for me.
💕💗Donna💕💗
My very first experience going out dressed up, was back in 2004. I had been dressing up at home for many years, but just knew I was way too much man to ever feel comfortable going out dressed as a girl even though that's what I wanted more than anything. So I was living in Oregon at the time. I had been dressing up almost every day at home, but I wanted so bad to get to experience the feeling of actually going out into the world. So.....I shaved my facial hair off, put a cute hat on to cover my balding head, put my favorite, cute soft, light blue skirt on, and some cute shirt, and I walked out the door, and my heart immediately started pounding out of my chest. I walked with my head down so no one could see my face, and I just walked down to a park, and then walked back home. It felt amazing, and I wished so bad that I could go out dressed like that all the time, but it also made me so incredibly nervous and uncomfortable which was not a fun feeling to have. So I did not again go out dressed as a girl at all, until just last year again finally. About 13 years later. :( Now I've lost a ton of weight, and have been on HRT for over 7 months, and have quite a few cute clothes, and I still only wear skirts or dresses to very select few places, but I wear all girls clothes, girls panties, girls jeans and shirts and almost always have my fingernails painted. Just waiting to have some more time on HRT before I am ready to go "full time."
Quote from: CallMeKatie on February 22, 2018, 10:27:27 AM
Now when I say dressed I mean my entire outfit will be female clothes and it will be jeans and a top with a coat.
I won't be wearing makeup or my wig.
Got to start somewhere and this i feel will really give me a huge boost to take further steps.
How about you lot? How was your first venture outside in these clothes? Did you go all the way? :)
I had a wonderful experience with Laurie and Michelle a few weeks back. It was very liberating to walk through town as a woman. Michelle was so helpful with my makeup. My avatar is on that day. I was very happy as you see.
Every two weeks I go see my therapist while dressed. I go to support group dressed and my first real extended foray was at Gender Odyssey. It's is at once affirming and fearful. I just wish I could be me and not give a hang about what others think. I don't think I ever developed a spine.
My first time going out in public fully female was kind of anticlimactic really. The really weird thing was that I had had long hair, had worn eyemakeup, nail polish and worn gender neutral clothes since I was 14 and went everywhere like that, including school, yet for whatever reason the idea of going out fully female scared me. I don't know why, but it did. I started hrt at 17 but I decided not to start presenting fully female until I finished high school. I had more than enough problems being the school ->-bleeped-<- so I didn't want to add to it by coming out to the whole school as trans. So I was about 2 months into hrt and my dad told me it was time I started going a few places dressed fully female. He said I was going to be living the rest of my life that way so I needed to start getting used to it. I said I didn't know if I was quite ready for that and he asked me how it would be much different than going out like I already dressed and looked. He said if anything it would probably be easier because he was sure no one would be able to tell I was trans if I was dressed all the way. So I wore a sweater and skirt set and boots and did my makeup and hair. I already had plenty of girl clothes and some breast forms, I just hadn't worn them in public yet. So I decided to go were any girl my age would go, to the mall. My brother went with me because he was afraid someone might mess with me. He wasn't worried about people outing me as trans, he was worried I might run into someone who knew me, like from school.
My dad was right, people did give me second looks but it was because of my albinism rather than me being trans. Before people would stare and sometimes it was obvious they were trying to figure out if I was male or female. No one did that. People smiled at us and guys even smiled at me which was a nice change from the suspicious looks and scowls I usually got from guys. So it was a very easy and anticlimactic experience. My brother asked me what I had thought was going to happen and I didn't know what I expected to happen. But before I actually did it going out the first time scared me.
Back in November my wife and I went to a concert in Dallas. I wore a cute black skirt, maroon tights and blouse with black knee high boots. I had a great time. I ignored anyone staring at me. My wife watched out for me and only noticed a few people that were staring. It was a wonderful experience and I enjoy it every time. Most days when I'm not working it's just jeans and a shirt.
My first time leaving the house was about a year ago. I drove to another town and just drove around kind of like testing the waters. I got out at a nearly deserted park and took a short walk but stayed kind of close to my car. Nothing happened, no finger pointing or funny looks. I've been out fully dressed several times since, and have taken the advise of other girls here who say " HEAD UP, SHOULDERS BACK, AND SMILE.
So congratulations its your day, now go out and enjoy yourself.
About a year and a half ago, I was going to support group first dressed androgynous male, then dressed androgynous female. Finally, I got a makeup lesson from a support group member, bought a bra and stuffed it with socks, and a wig, and attended group dressed all female. I was nervous as heck, but nothing bad happened.
You'll be fine, Katie. Enjoy your first outing as your true self.
Many years ago, when I was into crossdressing, I initially went to fetish parties and CD activities. I then started going out to malls, the library etc. I'd even go to get my hair cut while dressed. Never a problem.
The first time was terrifying. Now its just the norm. Honestly just be confident and enjoy yourself and 99% of the people out there will either ignore (in their own world) or simply accept you. Its a great first step go you!
Hi Katie,
I know this is a nervous thing to think about, but Hun it is a fun thing to do too. You will find that you will be okay and not many will even notice what you are wearing. When I was crossdressing I would dress in my car and drive many miles feeling nice. I had to get gas once and I was dress as if going to a party with a black lace bubble hem dress and maleup. I got out to pump my gas then found out I had to pay at the booth. arrrrrrrg Oh heck! But I did it with 2 guys in the booth I stumbled up in my 4 1/2 heels and short dress and paid my bill.
It wasn't until years later that I again went into a store dress as myself with urging from friends here that I again interacted with someone else while dressed. They had me go in and shop for a female item and check out with a live person. I did it and then did it again and before I realized it I was taking a road trip en femme for a month.
Each step leads to another and another until you are comfortable with being who you are. I returned from that road trip a changed girl and living full time as myself because I not longer had a good reason not to. You will get to that point too Katie when you are ready. You could even be like me and one day come to the realization that you have been living as yourself without knowing it. I have not worn guy clothes since before my road trip was 2 weeks onto it. I realized that I was already full time the day before I returned home.
My your own trip be all it can be Katie.
Hugs,
Laurie
Very first time was about a month ago to therapist. Went with a dress, purse and lipstick and my hair down (usually in a pony tail). It was evening so dark out, ran to car with a trench coat on so neighbors didn't see me. Once I got in car I took the trench coat off and that was that.
First time actually in public was a week later, I had a skirt and blouse with flats on and full makeup with a purse. We just went to one store. I got a few stares but I was mostly looking at the clothes racks. It was definitely easier with someone else with me.
Julie
It was just shorts a tee and converse, all women's though. It's funny how poorly the shorts and tee fit, I put it all back on not long ago to clean. What was loose and tight in all the wrong places fits perfectly now. It was what I was wearing when I first was ejected from the men's room and directed to the lady's room. That was the end of androgyny for me, it was all skirts after that.
Every stage was scary for me. Androgynous, full girl, makeup, first dress, women's bathroom it all caused that fear at first. Sometimes, like bathrooms, no one ever paid attention and somethings didn't turn out as well. I don't think that I realized that I was passing or close to it until people started to ask for my id for everything. The stupidest stuff too and eventually I started to get irate with anyone who asked for my drivers license. It meant that they weren't sure though. Oh I would get mad, no you do not need to see my drivers license I am buying a cord for my phone. The guy in front of me bought an iPad with a credit card and you didn't ask for his id. I am giving you cash so take my money and let me leave or get your manager. It doesn't happen anymore. Maybe I don't pass but no one bothers me.
It is different, that's all. One day it won't be, it will be the most normal thing in the world. 🙂 You have to start somewhere.
Good luck.
I regressed majorly. The first time I went out dressed in women's clothing I looked very cheap. I mean I had a party city wig on and my makeup was all over the place. I had fun that night at a bar by myself. Everyone was talking to me, guys were flirting... I remember the next week I was dressing and going our every night.
Then I stopped because I was living with my parents but I starter again last summer. By the time it was September I started hrt and then I became so depressed when I had to take off my makeup and outfits.
Not only that but I felt I wasn't feminine enough anymore, thus not deserving to wear dresses and makeup.. I feel that way now and it's something I'm trying to work on.
It's just weird how everything suddenly changed when I started hrt.
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Well I didn't wait. I decided to not get changed back to my man gear to go to the shop.
Nobody noticed but one large scary bald man with an aggressive voice shouted at the top of voice "yo" about ten times in a row.
The fake beggars use that tactic to get you to stop so once you've stopped they can threaten you for money.
Otherwise it's all good
I guess it counts. I first started with wearing underwear and stockings under my male clothes.
Then when I decided to come out I went all the way. Scary, very scary, the first day. Driving my truck and stopping at a traffic light thinking... oh shoot people are looking at me. Wearing a bra in public was nerve breaking at first.
My make-up and wig skills probably made Ronald McDonald look a 100 times better than me. :)
Now, I feel naked and weird with any type of male clothing or being bra-less. BTW, I have 0, zero, nada, male clothes.
You know whats funny... I JUST DID THIS! My parents are away for 2 days and I'm home alone so I went out in leggings and a t shirt and girly shoes that I found in our basement. I went to a school and ran a lap around the school hoping that I wouldn't have any interactions because I didn't have a wig or makeup so there was no way I was passing. When I got back to my car, I decided that I felt free and in my fit of happiness, went to the football field at my school. I went to get out and a truck pulled in to deliver something to a building but I parked close enough to the building that the truck boxed me in. I hid in the car until he left so he wouldn't see me. Then I left and went back later to do it. When I went back, the lacrosse team was showing up so I hid as I drove by someone I knew. Overall, this was a scary but freeing experience.
My first time (excluding tights under my pants) was one Sunday morning at 4:00am. I put on a dress with heels and went about 3 miles in my car and delivered a rubbermaid cooler of water for the running club.
Got home got undressed and climbed back into bed. I didn't sleep before and I didn't sleep after.
Just a note, I wore a dress to work yesterday. How things change.
BTW - Katie - You'll be fine. Take a breath as you open the door, smile and walk out!
Quote from: Denise on February 23, 2018, 06:51:13 PM
My first time (excluding tights under my pants) was one Sunday morning at 4:00am. I put on a dress with heels and went about 3 miles in my car and delivered a rubbermaid cooler of water for the running club.
Got home got undressed and climbed back into bed. I didn't sleep before and I didn't sleep after.
Just a note, I wore a dress to work yesterday. How things change.
BTW - Katie - You'll be fine. Take a breath as you open the door, smile and walk out!
: The key element here is to go out dressed and let people see one as confident and self-assured... that will go a long way in how people react to a trans-woman and eventually help them to pass.
aspiringperson
Quote from: Aspiringperson on February 23, 2018, 07:03:58 PM
: The key element here is to go out dressed and let people see one as confident and self-assured... that will go a long way in how people react to a trans-woman and eventually help them to pass.
aspiringperson
Aspiringperson speaks wisely - smile, be confident. I would suggest not drawing attention to yourself. You'll probably be self-conscience so drawing unwanted attention might not be desirable.
QuoteI would suggest not drawing attention to yourself.
That's why I went for the plain Jane look. Some other cross dressers would dress in something completely inappropriate for the situation and stand out like a sore thumb.