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Title: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on February 28, 2018, 07:03:47 PM
Hi I'm Sonja,
I live in the beautiful city of Auckland with my wife and young son. Self employed working in my own office allows me to 'dress' during working days and wear concealed clothing all other times. My wife bought me a fantastic collection of knickers and a cute nighty for xmas for which I adore her - for all the obvious reasons. I don't 'dress' in front of her BUT I would love to go on a special outing with her completely done up - ie makeup, hair etc. so I'm working on seeing if she would be comfortable with that, and looking for a good venue for a great night out - please let me know what you recommend in Auckland?
At this point I'm more CD than Trans and I spend most days thinking about how far I want to head down this path without sacrificing other parts of my life that are very important to me. Fingers crossed I don't get busted in this gorgeous little playsuit I've got on right now!

Would love to make some friends on here.

Sonja xx
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Jessica on February 28, 2018, 07:49:29 PM
Hi Sonja 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place!  I'm Jessica, a transgender woman.  I think when you transition your body, your mind may also change in that it will allow yourself to do things you only dreamed of.  With me, I believe, I've kept who I am as a human, it was never contingent on what gender I presented as.  I am me.  I think if you go as far down that path that you want, you can still achieve your goals in life that matter. 
I understand there are a few gals from Australia here.  Enjoy and learn.

I see your new here, so I'll post some links that may help you get better acquainted with the site.


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Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: V M on March 01, 2018, 08:39:17 AM
Hi Sonja  :icon_wave:

Welcome to Susan's Place  :)  Glad to have you here, join on in the fun

Hugs

V M
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Chelsea on March 01, 2018, 02:08:53 PM
Hi Sonja

Welcome!   Glad to have you with us. :)

Hugs,
       Chelsea
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 01, 2018, 03:52:26 PM
Quote from: Jessica on February 28, 2018, 07:49:29 PM
Hi Sonja 🙋‍♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place!  I'm Jessica, a transgender woman.  I think when you transition your body, your mind may also change in that it will allow yourself to do things you only dreamed of.  With me, I believe, I've kept who I am as a human, it was never contingent on what gender I presented as.  I am me.  I think if you go as far down that path that you want, you can still achieve your goals in life that matter. 
I understand there are a few gals from Australia here.  Enjoy and learn.
Hi Girls,
Thank you for your warm welcome, appreciated!
Jessica - You're very insightful thank you for your advice, for me personally at this time I find the hardest part is knowing what I want but stressing about what it will cost me in  my life. During the day I actually notice how happy and relaxed I feel once I'm 'dressed' - it always puts a smile on my face. For quite a while I thought maybe this was just gender euphoria ( arousal from presenting as opposite sex )  but I shocked myself when I noticed that I wasn't actually trying to 'get off' in that state of dress - actually I was simply happier and more calm than 'normal'  while I was just tapping keys on my computer getting work done.

Cheers,

Sonja.
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Transfused on March 01, 2018, 04:05:06 PM
Hello Sonja and welcome on Susans.
I'm relatively new too.
It's pretty cosy here.

I have always wanted to visit Australia and New-Zealand one day.
I live in Belgium :-(
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 01, 2018, 08:47:11 PM
Quote from: Transfused on March 01, 2018, 04:05:06 PM
Hello Sonja and welcome on Susans.
I'm relatively new too.
It's pretty cosy here.

I have always wanted to visit Australia and New-Zealand one day.
I live in Belgium :-(
Thank you - that's very kind, I love your hair - such a cool style!  If you're ever planing on coming over to NZ let me know, I'll take you out and show you around BUT you have to bring some of that fantastic Belge chocolate with you!
( is that how you say it - Belge?? idk )

Sonja x
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: CincySixx on March 02, 2018, 12:34:32 AM
Quote from: Sonja on February 28, 2018, 07:03:47 PM
Hi I'm Sonja,
I live in the beautiful city of Auckland with my wife and young son. Self employed working in my own office allows me to 'dress' during working days and wear concealed clothing all other times. My wife bought me a fantastic collection of knickers and a cute nighty for xmas for which I adore her - for all the obvious reasons. I don't 'dress' in front of her BUT I would love to go on a special outing with her completely done up - ie makeup, hair etc. so I'm working on seeing if she would be comfortable with that, and looking for a good venue for a great night out - please let me know what you recommend in Auckland?
At this point I'm more CD than Trans and I spend most days thinking about how far I want to head down this path without sacrificing other parts of my life that are very important to me. Fingers crossed I don't get busted in this gorgeous little playsuit I've got on right now!

Would love to make some friends on here.

Sonja xx

Im new here as well!
Its good that your family is accepting of you,
Hopefully in time they will open up their hearts even more.

Need someone to talk to even if it's just random...
Feel free to hit me up <3
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 02, 2018, 07:44:59 PM
Quote from: CincySixx on March 02, 2018, 12:34:32 AM
Im new here as well!
Its good that your family is accepting of you,
Hopefully in time they will open up their hearts even more.

Need someone to talk to even if it's just random...
Feel free to hit me up <3
Thank you :-)
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Northern Star Girl on March 04, 2018, 10:10:03 PM
Quote from: Sonja on February 28, 2018, 07:03:47 PM
Hi I'm Sonja,
I live in the beautiful city of Auckland with my wife and young son. Self employed working in my own office allows me to 'dress' during working days and wear concealed clothing all other times. My wife bought me a fantastic collection of knickers and a cute nighty for xmas for which I adore her - for all the obvious reasons. I don't 'dress' in front of her BUT I would love to go on a special outing with her completely done up - ie makeup, hair etc. so I'm working on seeing if she would be comfortable with that, and looking for a good venue for a great night out - please let me know what you recommend in Auckland?
At this point I'm more CD than Trans and I spend most days thinking about how far I want to head down this path without sacrificing other parts of my life that are very important to me. Fingers crossed I don't get busted in this gorgeous little playsuit I've got on right now!

Would love to make some friends on here.

Sonja xx

Hello Sonja and WELCOME to Susan's Place.  You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others about your transition and to read about others transition and their trials, tribulations, and successes in their transition journey.  You might even find that you will make some new friends here.  Please come in and get involved at your own pace.
Again, Welcome.
Aspiringperson
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Susan Baum on March 05, 2018, 11:03:28 AM
Quote from: Sonja on March 01, 2018, 03:52:26 PM
Hi Girls,
Thank you for your warm welcome, appreciated!
Jessica - You're very insightful thank you for your advice, for me personally at this time I find the hardest part is knowing what I want but stressing about what it will cost me in  my life. During the day I actually notice how happy and relaxed I feel once I'm 'dressed' - it always puts a smile on my face. For quite a while I thought maybe this was just gender euphoria ( arousal from presenting as opposite sex )  but I shocked myself when I noticed that I wasn't actually trying to 'get off' in that state of dress - actually I was simply happier and more calm than 'normal'  while I was just tapping keys on my computer getting work done.

Cheers,

Sonja.
HUGS
Hi, Sonja - and welcome to your new home away from home. If you're not careful, you could end up staying here all day instead of (ugh) working.

I, too, had a supportive wife and thought I was only CDing. Then came the realization that Susan was the real me and (deadname) was truly an imaginary being built upon what the world at that time thought a boy/man should be. I won't say the rest of my journey has been trouble and worry free but the real me has been able to thrive through the challenges.

Love who you are.

Susan

Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 05, 2018, 04:04:10 PM
Quote from: Aspiringperson on March 04, 2018, 10:10:03 PM
Hello Sonja and WELCOME to Susan's Place.  You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others about your transition and to read about others transition and their trials, tribulations, and successes in their transition journey.  You might even find that you will make some new friends here.  Please come in and get involved at your own pace.
Again, Welcome.
Aspiringperson
Thankyou Aspiringperson you're very kind and you have a fantastic smile!  I saw in your profile you live in Alaska! - that is awesome - it always looks so beautiful when I see a tv program filmed there.

Sonja
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 05, 2018, 04:12:43 PM
Quote from: Susan Baum on March 05, 2018, 11:03:28 AM
HUGS
Hi, Sonja - and welcome to your new home away from home. If you're not careful, you could end up staying here all day instead of (ugh) working.

I, too, had a supportive wife and thought I was only CDing. Then came the realization that Susan was the real me and (deadname) was truly an imaginary being built upon what the world at that time thought a boy/man should be. I won't say the rest of my journey has been trouble and worry free but the real me has been able to thrive through the challenges.

Love who you are.

Susan
Hi Susan, thank you for sharing that , I've always thought that its a kind and generous thing to tell people about your life, especially personal and meaningful things.  It does seem there are many people here that are walking their own path (which is great) instead of the one the world shuffles you down if you walk blindly.
Thank you - I hope you're having a great week.

Sonja
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: MsMarlo on March 10, 2018, 01:57:57 PM
Hi, Sonja.  Gender dysphoria never goes away, no matter what you do or what you try.  You are born with it - you do not get to pick and choose.  Fortunately, it sounds like you have a pretty level of support right where you need it.

You will know when the time comes to address it fully; it took me almost getting killed to finally take my steps forward.  In the meantime, take your time, talk to us; we come from all walks of life, diverse backgrounds, and even more diverse stories.  What works for one may not necessarily work for or be best for you.  That said, know that we all are here and do not be afraid to ask questions; remember that you are safe here.  TTYL

M

ps:  I LOVE Austrailia - have you ever watched the movie On The Beach (2000) or better yet, Wentworth?
Title: Re: Hi I'm Sonja
Post by: Sonja on March 10, 2018, 08:46:35 PM
Quote from: MsMarlo on March 10, 2018, 01:57:57 PM
Hi, Sonja.  Gender dysphoria never goes away, no matter what you do or what you try.  You are born with it - you do not get to pick and choose.  Fortunately, it sounds like you have a pretty level of support right where you need it.

You will know when the time comes to address it fully; it took me almost getting killed to finally take my steps forward.  In the meantime, take your time, talk to us; we come from all walks of life, diverse backgrounds, and even more diverse stories.  What works for one may not necessarily work for or be best for you.  That said, know that we all are here and do not be afraid to ask questions; remember that you are safe here.  TTYL

M

ps:  I LOVE Austrailia - have you ever watched the movie On The Beach (2000) or better yet, Wentworth?
Hi Ms. Marlo,

Thank you for your kind welcome, I look forward to getting to know you and the other people on Susans more in time. I havn't seen 'On the Beach' yet - I will look into it, I have watched Wentworth - Loved it!, also Loved watching Bad Girls years ago it seems now - was a great program.

TTFN,

Sonja.