I am a 21 yo man, for most of my life I was content with who I was. There was something eating away at me however and I never knew what it was, in 2016 my mom passed and it forced me to look deeper and I came across the concept of being trans. After all this time I told my family and close friends about my confusion, I try ignoring it and it comes back with and vengence. I want to know if it is traits of ->-bleeped-<-, I have a facination with woman's clothing, not sexual in nature it's wanting to be like them. I feel better imagining being born as a woman and uncomfortable with the thought of aging as a man. I need advice on how to go forward.
AaronLee,
Welcome to Susan's. A greeter will be along shortly to give you some links to read up on.
As for your confusion, welcome to the club. I believe most of us here are/were the same. I'm 56 and at 53 it became impossible for me to continue living as a guy. It happens at different ages, speeds intensity and final conclusion.
I may be speaking for everyone here (or possibly only 1) you should seek out a Gender Therapist. They will be able to help you work through your feelings and thoughts and help YOU to determine your path. I got two opinions and a third before my first hormone shot.
There is also a line of thought that if you are here, you are probably somewhere on the spectrum of being transgender (btw ->-bleeped-<- is not a word). The question, I've learned over the two short years I've been here, is about your Gender Dysphoria and how to reduce or eliminate it.
Good luck and know you are with friends here.
Hello AaronLee, I see that you are new here and have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
WELCOME to Susan's Place. You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others about your transition and to read about others transitions and their trials, tribulations, and successes in their transition journey.
It is nice that you have signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have a successful moment in your journey you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. You might even find that you will make some new friends here. Please come in and get involved at your own pace.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle
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Things that you should read
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@ AaronLee
>>>OH, and another thing, since you are new here it would be great if you could go to the Introductions Forum (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,8.0.html) and tell us about yourself and about your transition goals.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle
Thanks all for the quick reply, I appreciate it.
Hi AaronLee 🙋♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place! I'm Jessica. What your experiencing is similar to many that have been confused of what and who their true self is.
I see you have been welcomed by Danielle with some links that can help you navigate the site and some rules to guide you as you learn, grow and share. Join in on a topic you find interesting or find a forum that you can post a new comment or question.
I'm so happy you are here, again welcome!
Smiles, Jessica
Hi! My advise to you is to read through inyroductions on here, see of you find yourself relating or not. If your unsure take your time, think about stuff in detail, try new things. Paint your toe nails and see how that makes you feel. Maybe remove some body hair again how does that feel? It may feel wrong or right but either way you may get a better understanding of who you might be.
Jo x