A couple of weeks ago, I came out as trans (mtf). A couple of days later, I came out again as cis. I told my friends and family that, after some reflection, I'm not actually a woman; I just have several fem attributes, and like to cross-dress sometimes. The prospect of being a woman didn't fit, exactly.
I'm 39 years old. I was a teen who cross-dressed, and tucked away that aspect of myself for years. It's been on my mind daily for the past year and a half or so. I'm in a relationship with a woman (we live together, and were engaged, at least at a time) who is not into other women, but who has comes to terms with my cross-dressing.
I've taken her on a real roller-coaster, as far as the gender of her partner is concerned. Who here has vacillated on the trans/cross-dressing spectrum? I'd love to hear about your experiences.
Otherwise, as a bald man, I have a new wig coming in the mail tomorrow, and I'm very excited about girling up tomorrow (teacher on spring break, everyone will be out of the house but me!).
So you're non-binary. You don't identify as a woman, but you present as one. Welcome to the club. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Thanks, hon! <3 It honestly just feels SO good to have like-minded people out there! Sometimes I feel so alone!
This sites #1 claim to fame is letting people know they're not alone. :)
Hugs, Devlyn
Madison_b: A lot of people here on Susan's Place can identify with a lot of what you stated in your posting below.
Here you will find support, helpful suggestions and friendship with others that are in a similar situations as yourself.
As Devly Marie stated so clearly in her reply....
"This site's claim to fame is letting people know they're not alone"
Feel free to continue sharing your concerns, your questions, your successes and also your disappointments... AND you will also be able to read about what others share here that have similar thoughts. You just may make some new friends here at the same time.
Thank you for coming to Susan's Place, you are WELCOME here.
Best Wishes to you in your transition journey.
Danielle
Thank you, Danielle!!! XOXO
Quote from: madison_b on March 26, 2018, 09:36:44 PM
Thank you, Danielle!!! XOXO
@ madison_b: Please be certain to look over the various Forum Topics and existing posts that you can get involved in. There is a topic for most concerns that the transitioning person may have.... or just like you did with this Topic that you started you can post and initiate Topics that you want to discuss.
Danielle
So are there many individuals who cross-dress but never consider transition? Is that still transgender? Sorry if that's a stupid question ...
I'm not even entirely sure that's what I want. But the facts remain ... I came out as trans, I took it back, and here I am. Eager to cross-dress on my day off (teacher on spring break) tomorrow, but still confused.
Quote from: madison_b on March 26, 2018, 09:47:47 PM
So are there many individuals who cross-dress but never consider transition? Is that still transgender? Sorry if that's a stupid question ...
@ madison_b: Not a stupid question. Yes, I know of some individuals that enjoy cross-dressing but do not want to transition or become transgender.
Look in the
"Crossdresser Talk" topic in the Forums;
LINK here: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,23.0.html
Lots of subjects and topics there that may be of interest to you........
.... and you can start your own topic there to explore specific questions that you have with other cross-dressers and possible transitioners.
Danielle
Welcome! I think that's great! I love versatility. I thought I was a crossdresser at first and sometimes I do crossdress... as a guy!! I'm mtf though [emoji4] it should feel natural in the end. I think a lot of guys/people are non binary in general
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It might help you to look at our WIKI (https://www.susans.org/wiki/Transgender) and see if you find a description that fits. You haven't provided enough information for a proper diagnosis but a changing gender identity is called gender fluid or bigender. While people who identify a that are relatively rare, we have a fair number on this site. Non binary is quite confusing so if this doesn't feel right, keep asking question until you get the right answer.
Don't worry about labels. Be you. Just be Madison. Heck, I am not worrying.. i say i am CD. My best friend who knows about that facet of me (an online friend) thinks more likely I am pre-op. She says i am her best woman friend. We kid about it back and forth at times, but i just let Fiona flow. We laugh and smile and are just both convinced the other is wrong. and go about our lives.
I took a slow approach to my transition. Each time I'd try another step forward when I felt I needed to, then reflected on how I felt about that before deciding if I needed to go further. I'm also totally comfortable with the fact that this doesn't have to be a one-way road either.
As others have said, try not to be a label just be yourself and you'll find your happy [emoji4]. X
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There is a whole spectrum of gender. I definitely lean toward the female part of the spectrum. I think a lot of people are not totally trans or cis. Be careful with the CD in front of your wife. My wife initially accepted it, but was in denial. I shaved and wore panties, pantyhose and a bra, until she realized she didn't want to be in a relationship with a CD. She said if she knew I was TG, she would never have dated me in the first place.