Hi! You can call me Dee. I am a trans woman, who has only come to be at peace with who I am in the past couple of weeks. The male body I was born with is not the true me, but I can live with it for now.
The experience of typing and sharing my story is still new and feels a little weird, so my mind is spinning a bit. When I say the experience is new, I have always known I was different, but only had the vocabulary and understanding, to identify a woman in the past 8 years or so. (Probably much longer if I reflect and be honest with myself.) But fear meant I kept it a secret.
That worked for a long time, but society is changing, and acceptance is improving. Well, in the past 6 months or so, I have felt like I would burst if I did not tell someone, and start the journey of being known as, and accepted as a woman.
So I came out to my partner, a fortnight ago tomorrow, and after the initial shock subsided, she has been very accepting.
I don't have much else to say, or any wisdom to share right now. The journey ahead is pretty scary. Since I have only told one person (not counting a place like this, of course, where it is safe and will not impact my daily life) it feels like the beginning of a big unknown. I am incredibly introverted and not very spontaneous, but I do know that I am happier today than I have ever been.
Thank you for reading, and for making a place like this.
Dee.
Hi Dee 🙋♀️ Welcome to Susan's Place! I'm Jessica.
I'm happy you have the support of your partner. Take it slow, they are even newer to the idea.
Hopefully you will find confidence as you learn from others experiences and how it may apply to you. If you learn something important, share it, it could help someone else.
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Hi Dee! Not that long ago I was in the exact same spot you are today, now I am happier than I have ever been (with a few crying sessions here and there) and well on my way to the life I am meant to be living. It's not easy but you will get there!
Your spouse is going to have many questions along the way, make sure to show your love, patience and appreciation daily. Congratulations on being you!
Hi Jessica & Brandi! Thank you for the welcome. Both your comments about my partner ring true, when you suggest taking it slow.
In my mind I had a fantasy that she would say, "I always knew deep down." But of course that wasn't the case. I had been thinking about it for so long, and trying to drop hints, (I thought I was being so obvious), but no, it had never entered her mind.
Anyways, I have read all the rules and warnings and will be careful round here to do the right thing.
Thanks again, getting such quick replies has warmed my heart.
Dee.
Hi Dee :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
Hugs
V M
Hi, Dee! I'm Dee! Actually, I think we're up to quadruple Dee's by now. Welcome to Susan's. I hope you find just what you need here.
(We should just call everyone Dee. It's easier that way. Or Bruce.)
The spy who came in from the cold in the War Between the Sexes.
Hi V M & Dee!
These warm welcomes are really appreciated. Thanking you both.
Now, Dee what can I say? I guess it is inevitable that such a wonderful name is popular! Nice to meet you.
Dee.
Quote from: dee82 on April 06, 2018, 11:16:44 PM
Hi V M & Dee!
These warm welcomes are really appreciated. Thanking you both.
Now, Dee what can I say? I guess it is inevitable that such a wonderful name is popular! Nice to meet you.
Dee.
If you don't mind, how did you get it? My mother called me "Dee" when I was a little girl (and we didn't know it).
The spy who came in from the cold in the War Between the Sexes.