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For me at least time has a great healing effect on my transition

Thanks for sharing Stephanie. That's something I'm hopeful about happening. I don't want to hold on to saddness and resentment. I feel like my underlying emotions are being validated now that I've chosen to transition and that itself has been a huge learning experience. There's a lot more to unpack...

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      I have to agree that as time passes I feel more comfortable with being trans I am early on in my transition but I find going full time has made things so much better

     Bobbisue :)

It does get easier as time passes by. BUT I still have some negative feelings about being trans. I ( like most M to F ) would rather just have been born a woman.

Also I had a lot of anger towards myself. That is fading a lot. But some of it still there. I still feel like I disappointed people. Also the not having a relationship with my family kinda sucks.

But time does heal most wounds .

Quote from: Laurel D on April 11, 2018, 01:35:48 AM
It does get easier as time passes by. BUT I still have some negative feelings about being trans. I ( like most M to F ) would rather just have been born a woman.

Hello Laurel

Oh yes I would certainly have preferred to have been born genetically female rather than being born trans like most others as you say.

I have had so much internal aggravation and stress but I think the 2 things you have to do to start to overcome (gradually over a long period of time) are to fully accept yourself and then HRT. As I have done these, I feel better.

I vote "other" as I have only recently started and still have many hurdles to overcome.


Pamela

Totally true for me as well. At first I knew I had to transition but knowing that I was part of a minority that is looked down upon and discriminated against I felt small, like less of a person in some way. As time did go on I fully embraced myself as a transgender woman. About a year after going full time and a year after I started hormones (I was put on hrt the day after going full time) I felt way better about myself and my transition. Once I realized that I naturally pass as female I gained so much confidence that I hadn't had before. Now it doesn't bother me one bit. I would have rather been born with the right parts but my transition is what it is. Its gotten to a point where I now just see myself as just a different type of woman.

Ida

Thanks for asking.   As a rookie to this and over 50, I am relieved for finally being able to explain and embrace all of me.   I recently shifted from a period of making sense and understanding to a period now of acceptance and embracing.  It feels really good to accept and embrace me....it feels amazing.   

That said, I am a rookie and not out.  I can't imagine the lows that lie ahead, but one thing is true...I feel good about finally finding myself and taking steps to be me.

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Karen

I have only been out for two months, and already everything feels normal again. I am still a bit apprehensive when I go somewhere new, but it is all in my mind. I have never had a bad reaction from anyone, whether an old friend or a new one. Probably the lowest point was when I told my wife of over 30 years, she was devastated. We did not speak about it for months. I finally made an appointment with a therapist for both of us, and after several sessions my wife seemed to get better. Last weekend we met Tia Anne (another member of Susan's) and her wife Debi. At one point Tia asked me if I would ever go back to who I was, and I answered 'no'. She then asked my wife if she would want me to go back, and my wife also said 'no'. We still have some work to do, but our life together is now better that it had been in a long time.

I still don't feel like a woman when I wake up in the morning, it just feels like any other morning. It does not seem to kick in until I get dressed and put on makeup.  When I go shopping it is not for women's clothing, it is for my clothing. I am also comfortable discussing my transition with friends who ask. I still have a lot to learn, just yesterday I did my nails for the first time ever. I don't feel like I am wearing a costume anymore, I am wearing my clothes. I am comfortable now, and happy.