Hey Ladies -
I am relatively new to this transitioning thing. It has only been 11 months since I figured me out, and only 6 months on HRT. It seems I am constantly needing to look forward to another step to try to stay sane! Recently it was wearing a bit of make up everyday...I put on foundation and very light mascara daily. It makes me feel feminine and as if I am making progress!
So what is your most recent step?
Does it ever just become me, normal me? When did it become just you...no more changes needed. I want that daily, but I know I am not yet fully Marcie. I think it was Jenny in her book that wrote...I used to really think wow! I have breasts...now its like, oh yeah I am a woman, I have breasts, of course...
SO have at it! Let us know what is going on with you and your progress!
Love and Hugs, Marcie
There is always (at least for me) that tiny little voice in the back of the head that 'remembers' when things were different. I'm just me, living life.. struggles, hardships, and rewards. Living as who & what I am, no holds barred, all the steps to be taken have long since been taken. People see me as me, even more importantly to me. (as strange as that sounds coming out).
This is a journey with many paths to the side and steps up the hill off in the foggy distance. Where yours ends is whatever path you choose to take :) May you find a warm house filled with happiness at YOUR journey's completion, wherever & whatever that is.
My first step was perfume. It really reduces my dysphoria too. Then start donating your boy clothes. I have almost zero boy clothes now. I have a nice suit that is about it. Like you I also wear light makeup. I wear tinted moisturizer, eyeliner, eyeshadow, blush and lipstick, no mascara, don't need it. Another step is to get your ears pierced. When you've done that subsequent steps of getting more studs, then coordinating your studs to your outfit. Then of course graduating to dangly earrings. I haven't done that yet. Of course don't forget about weight loss and electrolysis. Both of these are ongoing for me. Another is no more wallets, get a purse. Oh, one I did early on was getting androgynous shoes. Then I donated all my boy shoes. I did a major step of restoring my hairline just a month ago. I really don't want to wear a wig, so this is impt for me. Then of course are the various coming outs and name changes. Whew, enough yet?
Good luck! I hope these give you ideas. I'll be watching the thread too, as I'm always looking for ways to push the envelope slowly during my transition.
Bari Jo
The latest transition step I've taken was in December 2017, changing my gender on all my identity documents. I'm legally female in all regards.
Probably the last step I accomplished was in Sep 2015 when I had my birth certificate changed. Shortly after due to the continue deterioration of my marriage and out right abuse I moved back in with my parents to finish school. Life pretty much stabilized at some point after that and no one would know I'm trans, if it weren't for my big mouth pretty much telling any and everyone that I know. I like being out and proud about it though, and like to think I've taught quite a few people about trans issues. I was even in a documentary about trans veterans that won an award at this semesters CUNY film festival. The biggest secret I've found to happiness the past few years has been accepting myself for myself. I'm gearing up for a huge step soon once everything gets figured out with scheduling.
Edit: If anyone was interested in the film my friend Lauren shot it and the link is https://vimeo.com/247495373 password is Katherine
Hi Marse, I dyed my hair. No one has noticed at work. I like that. You gotta hang on Girl. You will get there and I will be there when you do, Love.
Moni
Most in the place I am would say GCS, which was just over six months ago. But really I'd say I finished becoming me when I finished my social transition, the last step of which was at work. No more double life! Surgery was important, sure, even essential. But it was more like getting rid of a cancer, not something that changed who I was.
I went to the movies dressed as a woman recently and that was lovely :)
I relate to exactly the feeling you mean though. Now that I know I do not feel like a woman, I want to... so when I don't have a project in the works to keep moving, I get antsy.
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Latest step it seems, is that I guess I´m winning my battle with our gender clinic. About two months ago I told them to go where the sun doesn´t shine, literally, when they started asking the psychiatric questions and what I felt, basically treating me like mad.
I decided to take care myself, by myself.
Now, I got a call from chief physician who asked how I am doing. I told her, that I´m getting GCS in Thailand in two months and after that, I guess I will move to Norway so that I can get my gender confirmed.
The chief physician told, that there is no need to go to Norway, they will help me to get my gender confirmed. And she also promised, that I don´t need to answer anymore questions, that I don´t like.
So, I guess I won this battle :D
Quote from: Mendi on May 08, 2018, 11:34:40 PM
Latest step it seems, is that I guess I´m winning my battle with our gender clinic. About two months ago I told them to go where the sun doesn´t shine, literally, when they started asking the psychiatric questions and what I felt, basically treating me like mad.
I decided to take care myself, by myself.
Now, I got a call from chief physician who asked how I am doing. I told her, that I´m getting GCS in Thailand in two months and after that, I guess I will move to Norway so that I can get my gender confirmed.
The chief physician told, that there is no need to go to Norway, they will help me to get my gender confirmed. And she also promised, that I don´t need to answer anymore questions, that I don´t like.
So, I guess I won this battle :D
Glad to hear you're getting the help you need, that's awesome. One of my nursing instructors told me something decades ago that stuck with me.. "Pick your battles". Some battles aren't worth the mental energy & stress load expended, while others can benefit you greatly. Sounds like this was a battle that was chosen that worked in your favor.
Hi Marcie,
I have finally taken an important step or part of one. I turned in the forms and paid the money required by the county to get a name change. I'm waiting for a court date. Prior to that I guess it was going full time and that was almost a year ago on my first road trip. Some things just take some time to do.
Hugs,
Laurie
Hey, Marcie!
Today I actually wore a bra with a NuBra look-a-like. Felt like a side-step, but there were some small victories in it! Just because I still can't figure out makeup like all you ladies >.< So, I look very 'ugh' but with a 'ohh' chest lol
No serious, these things aren't much and I got like a A36 bra and it just looks massive from the side, idk
*No Profanity Please*
Started electrolysis to finish of what is left of my facial hair. Damn is it painful!!
I just recently got everything with work squared away, so I can take 2 months off for VFS - my job requires a LOT of talking so I am taking the extra month. I just need to get past this cough I've been stuck with since March and then I can schedule (:
I think there will always be things about yourself that you wish you could change. Personally, I think the most things are to be able to be able to love yourself and to have a partner who fully loves you and treated you the way you deserve. I don't think it was until I met my partner that I really, truly just saw me as me.
Not sure if that helps :P
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I am very early in my transition so these might seem minor haha but I go to work with my toenails painted...no more boxers...and I take a backpack with me to work and everywhere that is serving as a surrogate purse I guess. I keep lotion, chapstick, etc in there. Small stuff but it meant quite a bit to me.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Alyssa
Quote from: Alyssa Bree on May 09, 2018, 06:53:57 PM
I am very early in my transition so these might seem minor haha but I go to work with my toenails painted...no more boxers...and I take a backpack with me to work and everywhere that is serving as a surrogate purse I guess. I keep lotion, chapstick, etc in there. Small stuff but it meant quite a bit to me.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Alyssa
That's great to hear, Alyssa! The surrogate backpack is a great idea! I haven't even thought about a purse or if I'd have one when I'm full-time, but I suppose that would be a really good indicator of female for most on-lookers, eh? My old school duffle bag acts as my purse right now at home. I don't move it, and my wife hasn't ever touched it in over 7 years, so I am not too worried about her discovering all of my product.
It may be small Alyssa, but I think it's a great step in the right direction! It's like a small feminization step of your belongings and not just you, physically, y'know? I mean, you could throw out all your guy clothes and stuff like that, but that's too sudden, too abrupt to be healthy. For me, once I can finally do my makeup properly, I plan to get some gender-neutral clothing and test how people react to me. Then if things go well with that, I think I'll want to take the plunge into some actual girly clothing.
But it's pretty hard, I think, to wear any actual girl clothes until on HRT for at least a little bit. >.<
What has been my most recent step....good question. I am still working through electrolysis but hopefully in the next few months that will be a thing of the past. Just had a second and final round of hair transplanting done. It has been nearly 8 moths since GCS and the healing is virtually complete. My boobs stopped growing a while ago, or at least slowed way down but I hope that I never get to the point of taking them for granted.
I think my biggest step has been going full time more than a year and a half ago. Since then life just progresses on and I spend far more time just being me than thinking about being me, not sure if that makes since but it is a huge realization. I have been on Susan's for just under 2 years and at that time the idea of spending days at a time just living as me without even thinking about how long ago this became normal. Before you know it, you will realize that transitioning or being read or WTH am I doing.....will not even be a thought in your head. But while you are waiting, enjoy the ride!
By the way, my most recent step was buying my wedding dress a week ago!
Tia Anne
QuoteQuote from: Anne Blake on May 09, 2018, 09:36:45 PM
What has been my most recent step....good question. I am still working through electrolysis but hopefully in the next few months that will be a thing of the past. Just had a second and final round of hair transplanting done. It has been nearly 8 moths since GCS and the healing is virtually complete. My boobs stopped growing a while ago, or at least slowed way down but I hope that I never get to the point of taking them for granted.
I think my biggest step has been going full time more than a year and a half ago. Since then life just progresses on and I spend far more time just being me than thinking about being me, not sure if that makes since but it is a huge realization. I have been on Susan's for just under 2 years and at that time the idea of spending days at a time just living as me without even thinking about how long ago this became normal. Before you know it, you will realize that transitioning or being read or WTH am I doing.....will not even be a thought in your head. But while you are waiting, enjoy the ride!
By the way, my most recent step was buying my wedding dress a week ago!
Tia Anne
Okay so this is probably the most amazing step ever!!! Congratulations and I wanna see!!!!!!!!!!
I can't wait to get to the point where I can enjoy where I am instead of obsessing over transitioning 24/7.
xoxoxoxo
Alyssa
I had my ears pierced yesterday. I went to this lady who usually pierces babies' ears and she was really sweet and tender. She numbed my earlobe with ice packs and it didn't hurt a thing! I'm so happy I'm finally able to wear earrings!
Quote from: Camouflage on May 09, 2018, 11:01:22 PM
I had my ears pierced yesterday. I went to this lady who usually pierces babies' ears and she was really sweet and tender. She numbed my earlobe with ice packs and it didn't hurt a thing! I'm so happy I'm finally able to wear earrings!
Earrings were my break through step about a month and a half ago, it truly is an amazing, affirming thing for some reason.
My most recent step... well, let's see. Would have to be spending a good portion of time around family presenting female. That or the hair transplants scheduled.
Quote from: Camouflage on May 09, 2018, 11:01:22 PM
I had my ears pierced yesterday. I went to this lady who usually pierces babies' ears and she was really sweet and tender. She numbed my earlobe with ice packs and it didn't hurt a thing! I'm so happy I'm finally able to wear earrings!
I can't tell you how great that feels, but you know! Just wait till you wear dangly earrings. I've only done that to group, but I love it.
Bari Jo
I bought work out sneakers, shorts and top today. It was nice to go out and walk in them. Well I wore my black dress and the sneakers. It seemed like I was getting a lot of looks and guys kept smiling... even my friend noticed and mentioned the same thing.
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Went into the correct bathroom!
After a month being full time (pre-everything) I went for breakfast with my stepsister. It was the first time I saw someone who knows me as male. It went very good and she also gave me clothes, makeup and jewelry. I am very happy of this step. She also told me I was beautiful and she is jealous of my almond eyes and big lips. What a nice day for me.
Sabrina
Missing my first appointment to start HRT, that took two months to schedule, because I remembered the wrong time of day to show up for it. Grrr...
I was invited by the girls at work to go with them and get our nails done. Having just started HRT recently, this felt great. I feel like I one of the girls already.
QuoteQuote from: Allison S on May 10, 2018, 09:31:55 PM
I bought work out sneakers, shorts and top today. It was nice to go out and walk in them. Well I wore my black dress and the sneakers. It seemed like I was getting a lot of looks and guys kept smiling... even my friend noticed and mentioned the same thing.
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That sounds just amazing! I want that feeling! ;)
QuoteQuote from: dizz on May 10, 2018, 10:24:52 PM
After a month being full time (pre-everything) I went for breakfast with my stepsister. It was the first time I saw someone who knows me as male. It went very good and she also gave me clothes, makeup and jewelry. I am very happy of this step. She also told me I was beautiful and she is jealous of my almond eyes and big lips. What a nice day for me.
Sabrina
It's incredible how much the acceptance and love we feel from another person can boost us up! So awesome!
QuoteQuote from: cargurl72 on May 10, 2018, 11:41:04 PM
I was invited by the girls at work to go with them and get our nails done. Having just started HRT recently, this felt great. I feel like I one of the girls already.
I love this sort of thing! I have done makeovers with some of the girls from work but always in somebody's home. Going out with the girls in public sounds great!
As for myself, I ordered an exercise bike online today so I can burn some calories and hopefully slim my belly down a little. I wanted to exercise without necessarily increasing strength and this seemed like a decent compromise.
xoxoxoxo
Alyssa
That's great Alyssa!! I have trouble getting enough will power to exercise on a regular basis. I stay pretty active at work, but I still have a little gut I would like to flatten out.
Morgan.
Such a great question! It is definitely quite a unique journey, and everyones journey is different, but I have learned how similar almost every single transwoman is. For me, it started out a few years ago starting to ad more and more women's clothing to my wardrobe. Womens clothing that I could wear as a feme dressing man. Then after HRT made some changes to me after 7.5 months, I all of a sudden became much more comfortable actually wearing my wig in public and dressing even more female. I started out presenting only on the weekends when my wife and I would travel to another city away from anyone we know. That went so well, that it was easy for me to begin presenting as female a couple more days per week, till really soon I reached a point of presenting as female every single day. That felt so amazing! Shortly after starting HRT, I also started laser hair removal treatments on my face. And that has been one of the greatest choices ever since it eleminates that pesky beard shaddow that gives us all away so easily. It's sad that it doesn't matter how feminine the rest of us look, if that damn beard and mustache shaddow is visibile, it tends to scream "I am a man!!!" So I feel SOOOOO much better about myself and my ability to "pass" now that that is gone. But then my driver's license did not match who I was. So that is the most recent step I took just a couple days ago. Getting my driver's license updated with a new picture, and the correct gender on it. Now I feel almost complete. Aside from bottom surgery which is an absolute must for me! Many transwomen are fine with keeping there penis. I most definitely am not one of them!!! That thing has GOT to go! That for me will be the final step. Besides that, my voice is going to be one of the next things I really tackle. Now that I am presenting full time, my voice has become my biggest hangup. I am not opposed to vocal chord surgery, but my insurance will not cover it. So it's up to me to practice and get vocal training to be able to talk more feminine.
My most recent step was getting all my things in order for my GRS in a couple of months. If you haven't looked into it in detail, you might not know just how much of a hassle and stressful thing it is to arrange. I had to wait more than two years after putting my name on the waitlist, and had to jump from therapist to therapist to get my letters of recommendation, since many of them were just completely incompetent. Also, don't forget about the months and months of hair removal. Worth it, but a huge pain.
Finding a doctor who would see an orchi as medically nessasacy so my insurance would cover it. I've also started to feel more comfortable using the ladies rest room. The mens room lost all comfort a long time ago. Its not easy avoiding public bathrooms. :(
Well, I definitely won my battle with the gender clinic. Had a phone meeting with the chief physician. I will get the diagnose during June and legal recognition of my gender during August. In between, I stop in Thailand to have the GCS.
So, it seems that my process is nearing it´s end and it went much much more quickly than I anticipated even in my wildest dreams.
And with ending of the process I mean the end of legal and psychiatric struggle. Of course the hormones continues the process till the future and there is a lot to process and adjust after GCS, but that should be the fun part...the pulling of the teeth part is nearing it´s end.
That is beyond awesome Menid!!! Yay!!
xoxoxo
Alyssa
I went to dinner with two wonderful friends and then went to a support meeting with one of them. Thanks for being there for me Marse.
Well for me, its getting a prescription for HRT yesterday and starting them today!! I'm a bit nervous but excited about starting being me :)
Quote from: vickijonesuk on May 18, 2018, 08:08:49 AM
Well for me, its getting a prescription for HRT yesterday and starting them today!! I'm a bit nervous but excited about starting being me :)
Congratulations! The first day of your life!
I got my insurance company to pre-authorize my facial feminization surgery, which in my view is more of a moral victory than the next step in my transition (even though that IS the next step for me :) ).
Quote from: ainsley on May 18, 2018, 09:34:07 AM
I got my insurance company to pre-authorize my facial feminization surgery, which in my view is more of a moral victory than the next step in my transition (even though that IS the next step for me :) ).
Congrats! That's awesome! My insurance says they absolutely will not cover it!
Quote from: LaRell on May 18, 2018, 10:57:13 AM
Congrats! That's awesome! My insurance says they absolutely will not cover it!
Thank you! Mine specifically states it cover FFS, and, yet, I
still had to appeal because they denied a couple of the procedures saying they were cosmetic. I won. I think in time they will all cover it, it is just hard for us right now. I hope yours changes theirs. My previous employer did not cover srs and i lobbied for them to add it and after two years they did. :) (of course, AFTER I had already paid out of pocket for mine lol)
Congrats
@ainsley ! glad you got them to do it. Now when is it happening?
My most recent step was getting my name changed. It was official on the 11th but I found out yesterday.
Quote from: Laurie on May 18, 2018, 04:52:00 PM
Congrats @ainsley ! glad you got them to do it. Now when is it happening?
My most recent step was getting my name changed. It was official on the 11th but I found out yesterday.
Awesome! I felt so good getting my name changed. Very happy for you!
The doc says Fall is when he expects to do the ffs. I am going in on Monday to get - yet another - glottoplasty because of popping the stitch last time... So, one thing at a time I suppose. :)
I
Quote from: ainsley on May 18, 2018, 06:51:06 PM
Awesome! I felt so good getting my name changed. Very happy for you!
The doc says Fall is when he expects to do the ffs. I am going in on Monday to get - yet another - glottoplasty because of popping the stitch last time... So, one thing at a time I suppose. :)
I hope you have better results this time. Tell your best half I said Hi.
Lastest best thing was sending in the name change and gender marker paperwork a week ago. Soon I should be legally me, the office told me they are not backlogged and processing pretty much immediately.
been beating myself up for so long about never being able to afford this and that wanting to break every mirror in the house depressed to the hilt then i was like ahhh what about the damn beard u can just make an appointment . so i did . 1st lazer was yesterday and omg yeah that helps ... alot :) :) :)
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Today I registered here and made my first post 😄
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I set up a Imgur account. Its free and really simple. ;)
Hugs,
Chelsea
Laser is awesome! I wish I started earlier as I now need electrolysis for grays. Grr.
Enjoy it.
Quote from: jamiekisses on May 19, 2018, 01:17:37 AM
been beating myself up for so long about never being able to afford this and that wanting to break every mirror in the house depressed to the hilt then i was like ahhh what about the damn beard u can just make an appointment . so i did . 1st lazer was yesterday and omg yeah that helps ... alot :) :) :)
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May 11 name change sent in. Approved may 16 and processed the 18 and in my hands May 22. A truly wonderful week
Crossed a big milestone in my weight loss, which I'm holding as a prelude to anything else.
I started at 450+ and I'm down to 298, over 150 pounds lost. My first goal is 200, and my ultimate goal is 150.
I really feel like I can do this.
I've been able to get away with womens dress pants for about a year around the wife, but in the last 2 weeks I've also gone to wearing her old tops as well now. It's getting there! Got a strange look the first time, but I'm wearing her down :angel:
Quote from: samanthabwolfe on May 29, 2018, 01:09:25 AM
Crossed a big milestone in my weight loss, which I'm holding as a prelude to anything else.
I started at 450+ and I'm down to 298, over 150 pounds lost. My first goal is 200, and my ultimate goal is 150.
I really feel like I can do this.
Samantha, incredible accomplishment. I know at least partially how difficult this can be, I lost 80 lb / 35 kg a couple decades ago, more since then and have kept it off. In addition to the obvious benefits, your knees and spine will thank you.
I love this thread.
I'm a member of another site and I used to ask the girls in chat this same question and loved to hear the responses. Some of the steps are minor and some are major milestones. It's good to share as long as you are comfortable with it. Small steps and forward progress is what makes me happy.
Completed 1 year RLE (full time)
Quote from: samanthabwolfe on May 29, 2018, 01:09:25 AM
Crossed a big milestone in my weight loss, which I'm holding as a prelude to anything else.
I started at 450+ and I'm down to 298, over 150 pounds lost. My first goal is 200, and my ultimate goal is 150.
I really feel like I can do this.
Wow that is huge. Well done. Im down 88 pounds and plan on 180 as a target. At least until I hit it. Keep
Up the hard work
Quote from: GwenFTW on May 10, 2018, 11:10:35 PM
Missing my first appointment to start HRT, that took two months to schedule, because I remembered the wrong time of day to show up for it. Grrr...
Missed the second one too, due to a miscommunication! ??? >:(
However, went to a different place and started on the 18th. ;D
Congrats Sarah! Big step.
Continuing facial electrolysis and starting to pre clear (down there) in anticipation of GRS. Completed RLE timers a while ago and just enjoyed the view there for a bit. Now getting ready to start my surgical phase of transition.
This is a neat thread as it can help us to look back on steps already taken as well as glimpses into places we strive to walk.
I had a glottoplasty May 14th.
Electrolysis. Took me a bit to get around to it... lol
Quote from: Harley Quinn on June 24, 2018, 07:52:39 PM
Electrolysis. Took me a bit to get around to it... lol
I love and hate electrolysis. I'm on my second clearing of the upper lip, oooh the pain, but so great when it's gone! I think I'm on hour 60 around now.
Bari Jo
Name changes in progress. The important ones are done.
I've been wearing female clothing to work for a while, but today was the first time I wore makeup to work. It felt great. I got compliments from the girls I work with, and even a couple of the guys. I also set a date today to get my trachea shave done. It's been a great day!
Quote from: samanthabwolfe on May 29, 2018, 01:09:25 AM
Crossed a big milestone in my weight loss, which I'm holding as a prelude to anything else.
I started at 450+ and I'm down to 298, over 150 pounds lost. My first goal is 200, and my ultimate goal is 150.
I really feel like I can do this.
OMG. That is truly amazing. Well done and you are an inspiration to what can be done with determination
Started laser and got four moles removed from my face. Got in to a new doctor that is a transgender specialist and brand new practice. One day to see her as opposed to the original 30 month wait I was looking at.
Switched from estradiol patches to injections, learned how to stab myself.
Quote from: Donna on June 25, 2018, 10:21:35 PM
OMG. That is truly amazing. Well done and you are an inspiration to what can be done with determination
Since that post I'm down to 286.
QuoteSwitched from estradiol patches to injections, learned how to stab myself.
Oh Kendra - to me it's the worst...sticking one's self. LOL Over the years I've taught a lot of people to give themselves injections. But doing it to myself is a no-go mission impossible.
Quote from: Kendra on June 25, 2018, 10:50:16 PM
Switched from estradiol patches to injections, learned how to stab myself.
Wow, I would wake up on the floor with a syringe sticking out of my...bottom! If you can do it, more power sista!
Quote from: kaitylynn on June 26, 2018, 08:40:03 AMIf you can do it, more power sista!
Lol have done Progynon Depot in the past and over the course of repeated alternate left/right buttocks injections have found the site muscles wear down, tend to "leak". Never done arm or thigh each requires different lenght "point".
Since been maintaining with Estrofem tabs recently changed to Progynova tabs (a 'bio-estradiol precursive'?) they're less expensive and anxious to see if better, more noticeable results?
Am curious how many rely on insurance for transition expenses as opposed to self-finance, paying "cash"? "Ex" has been pushing for me to go to a proper trans/gay hairdresser - as opposed to standard androgynous 'ponytail' - unsure if ready for
THAT!
lol So my most 'recent step' would be her actually
pushing/encouraging ?
Quote from: Laurie on May 08, 2018, 11:54:27 PM
Hi Marcie,
I have finally taken an important step or part of one. I turned in the forms and paid the money required by the county to get a name change. I'm waiting for a court date. Prior to that I guess it was going full time and that was almost a year ago on my first road trip. Some things just take some time to do.
Hugs,
Laurie
Laurie - I cannot wait to do that, I think it is down the road aways for me, but you never know!! Love and hugs!!!
Quote from: Kiera on June 26, 2018, 10:31:57 AM
Am curious how many rely on insurance for transition expenses as opposed to self-finance, paying "cash"?
I paid for most of mine out of pocket, but only because my previous employer excluded trans care from our insurance. My new employer pays for everything, so I am all in with insurance paying the way. I just got them to cover electrolysis and got pre-authorized for FFS, for example.
Quote from: Kiera on June 26, 2018, 10:31:57 AMAm curious how many rely on insurance for transition expenses as opposed to self-finance, paying "cash"?
My insurance offered through my company has been covering the medical portion without issue. I have already discussed surgeries with my advocate and they appear to be covered as well. I have been paying out of pocket for my therapists though as I really do view them as an asset and I want them to be right for me.
Quote from: Laurie on May 08, 2018, 11:54:27 PM
Hi Marcie,
I have finally taken an important step or part of one. I turned in the forms and paid the money required by the county to get a name change. I'm waiting for a court date. Prior to that I guess it was going full time and that was almost a year ago on my first road trip. Some things just take some time to do.
Hugs,
Laurie
BTW love the new picture
Quote from: Bari Jo on June 24, 2018, 08:19:51 PM
I love and hate electrolysis. I'm on my second clearing of the upper lip, oooh the pain, but so great when it's gone! I think I'm on hour 60 around now.
Bari Jo
Congratulations. I didn't find facial electrolysis painful at all. 🤔 I have only been doing an hour at a time, but no numbing cream or anything required. Are they doing blended?
Electrolysis I guess. I'm only early on in the process, but it's my first PERMANENT change, so I felt good about that! ;D ;D
Appointment with Endo august 16th and first appointment for laser tomorrow. I am so glad my body will change to what I really am...
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Big steps Dizz, congratulations and enjoy the ride!
Tia Anne
Health care card came in today name and gender changed. Started electrolysis today and did every single black hair on my face. Pain wasn't overly bad even at max until the lip around the nose. Then the tears flowed. Blacks make up about 40% of my face hair
Ive been starting my transition for 3 months. I just came out at work because someone told me to go nurse in Qatar/saudi Because you can earn loads. I responded with I cant i would get stoned to death I'm trans. He responded with giving me details of some trans person he knows. A odd but ultimately uplifting reaction.
My most recent step is coming here to this website, before that I began voice feminization, shaving everywhere but my head and growing out my hair, although it is still very short. Next step is finding someone who can help me get started on HRT. :)
Harley, I am about the same point time wise and Nanci will be getting to my lip soon. She has removed a few hairs from the lip but the nerves in the area also seem to be connected to the teeth and that is where most my pain manifests. Unfortunately she can't do a full zap on me because of my myriad of medical problems.
Hi Ladies - I love how this has taken on a life of its own! My latest step(s) are
to come out to my Daughter and Son, with one daughter to go yet! It has been so good to be able to be more open about who I am! It has also to this point helped with my wife a little bit as she is not on me all the time worried about the kids figuring it out!
Also I went to my endo this week, my E was low...ha;lf what it was despite raising my E intake with the patch three months ago. So I am switching to pills! I am hoping that there is not really an increased risk of heart and stroke issues (at least not for me!). After just taking pills ponce my nipples hurt more than they have so far.
I am still needing all the steps I can muster to keep my spirits up! This is SO HARD! Hoping all you ladies are able to keep things going in the right direction!
Love and hugs, Marcie
Marcie,
I am so proud of you. You are moving forward under very difficult circumstances. You are an awesome person and I am happy to call you my friend. Thank you for being there for me during my recent difficult time. I only hope I can be what you need me to be for you.
In the spirit of the thread, I had 2500 hairs grafted with Dr. Cooley.
Hugs Sweetie,
Moni
Hi Marcie!
Last week was a very big week for me. I came out to everyone including FB. I was so stressed about it but it turned out I was stressed over nothing. Much to my amazement, everyone was so positive. Next week I start electrolysis and feminine voice therapy. Next month marks 1 year on HRT and I will be meeting with my therapist to begin my RLE and start the process for GCS. I am soooo happy and alive. Oh yes, I finally found my perfect bra lol. I still have another year to go before completion, if that is possible. I mean there is always FFS, breast augmentation surgery etc... It's a long road Marcie and for me a very rewarding one. I hope you fine the road very rewarding too. A quick note to Doreen, I love your profile photo girl. I think all of us at one time or another fine ourselves walking on egg shells :).
That's so great Donica. You will love RLE, the acceptance and understanding from just about everyone has been amazing so I know how your feeling. I hope all goes forward as planned with your docs. It truly is an amazing time and experiance
Quote from: HappyMoni on July 08, 2018, 08:24:34 AM
Marcie,
I am so proud of you. You are moving forward under very difficult circumstances. You are an awesome person and I am happy to call you my friend. Thank you for being there for me during my recent difficult time. I only hope I can be what you need me to be for you.
In the spirit of the thread, I had 2500 hairs grafted with Dr. Cooley.
Hugs Sweetie,
Moni
Moni - You are the best! Keep plugging along...lol... I am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts this week!
Love and Hugs, Marcie
I got a pedicure over the weekend and bought my first pair of heels that I will wear to work. These are low heels, but in my opinion are a departure from the ladies doc Martin's I've been wearing everyday. They are still closed toed though. I'm not a fan of feet. I'm getting better, now that my toes are painted.
Bari Jo
Just wait Bari Jo. Shoes are addictive, well everything feminine is. I started with 3 inch closed toe heels then went to open toe sandle now I'm sticking up on anything open toe I can find. Got a great 3 inch platform sandle today and I love showing off my painted nails.
Have fun for sure
Quote from: Bari Jo on July 09, 2018, 09:44:16 AM
I got a pedicure over the weekend and bought my first pair of heels that I will wear to work. These are low heels, but in my opinion are a departure from the ladies doc Martin's I've been wearing everyday. They are still closed toed though. I'm not a fan of feet. I'm getting better, now that my toes are painted.
Bari Jo
Bari Jo - I love your work progress I am not out at work yet, but I wear make up often, and wear women's clothes (androgenous for sure) all the time. I hope the shoes feel great and make your everyday more everyday!
Love and hugs, Marcie
Started electrolysis and I love the results. All the black hair is gone off my face for this round. Now for the millions of white ones. Lol
This weekend I got a few new things -guy things unfortunately, but I decided to try something.
I have had a lot of problems with my legs related to injuries I suffered while in wrestling and my weight. I had cellulitis, a long-running infection that infects the fat in my legs. Being the size I was, it can be quite painful. It's lowered significantly since I started losing weight. Another side effect of it is that cuts opened up easily and healed slowly. Well, since I started losing my weight (Which is continuing well, I'm at 277 now, down 5 pounds from last week, about 25 or so since I last updated this thread) my legs had entirely healed up, no more sores or anything.
Because of how my legs looked with constant cuts, I haven't worn shorts or gone swimming in about 15 years.
This weekend I bought a pair of shorts, and a pair of swim trunks. on Sunday I went to the pool for the first time. Despite my fears I got in, no shirt, and went swimming for the first time since high school.
I just swam across the pool. I can't really "Swim", the pool's not big and it was busy, but I crossed laps in the pool however I could for about 30 minutes. It's a nice change of pace from working out on the treadmill! No one said a word about my legs or my body which has been a great confidence boost.
I went again today and with it being a lil less busy I was able to go for about 40 minutes. Best single workout I've had - over 700 calories burned (I also walked the treadmill for 350 or so calories, overall the best workout day I've ever had. I nearly burned as much as I ate!).
In my mind, I'm imagining that this is a little step toward dressing the way I want to dress... one day, I don't want to be stuck in long outfits.. I want to be able to wear anything my body will hold and will look good, and be appropriate for me... I'm realistic, I'm 37, no micro mini skirts or anything for me. But above the knee? Yes. I want to be able to do that. and while it's minor... it's a step toward being me.
Consulted with a surgeon regarding breast augmentation and body contouring. We are running things through insurance now and after speaking with my insurance liaison, it should go through. Kind of getting excited, but will hold out till we have the approval letter before shifting to truly excited. Still, this is the start of what I feel will be the final BIG push of my medical transition, surgical.
Completed surgery #4 of 4 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,230213.240.html). Last one was Breast Augmentation and GCS-2 (Labiaplasty) - or I could say left/right/center. ;)
Done!
I stopped HRT
Because my surgeon told me to
That is big news Colleen! When is your scheduled date?
Six days :o
I've already started laser hair removal on my face and neck and have long hair (not needed, but a personal goal)
So...I have my first appointment with a new therapist in two weeks who states that he has written many letters :)
Just set the surgical date for my BA for the 27th of August! ;D
Hooray for boobies!
I'm still debating on that one.
Congratulations Colleen, Congratulations Katie
Wishing you both success and happiness
Pamela xx
Quote from: Donica on July 08, 2018, 09:17:41 AM
Hi Marcie!
Last week was a very big week for me. I came out to everyone including FB. I was so stressed about it but it turned out I was stressed over nothing. Much to my amazement, everyone was so positive. Next week I start electrolysis and feminine voice therapy. Next month marks 1 year on HRT and I will be meeting with my therapist to begin my RLE and start the process for GCS. I am soooo happy and alive. Oh yes, I finally found my perfect bra lol. I still have another year to go before completion, if that is possible. I mean there is always FFS, breast augmentation surgery etc... It's a long road Marcie and for me a very rewarding one. I hope you fine the road very rewarding too. A quick note to Doreen, I love your profile photo girl. I think all of us at one time or another fine ourselves walking on egg shells :).
Oh Donica THANKS! It is a rewarding road but as you know also filled with potholes. I am just a year old with this and so many steps yet to go...But I know it is the only road I can tread- thanks for the good wishes. I wish you nothing but smooth sailing, I cannot wait for each move toward becoming more like me! I love finding new underthings that fit! The right bra! AMAZING day!!
Love and hugs, Marcie
I have VFS through Yeson Aug 1st; FMLA has been approved :D
...and I just received paperwork to file from a law firm/Advocacy group (for free) to change my legal name and gender - without having to announce it in the newspaper and to seal the record. I'm so excited!!
If anyone lives in Indiana and wants their info, feel free to message me.
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Going full time in June. Finally attending events so now all my family has seen me. Finishing up my name change documents to get turned in. All happened at the same time.
With warmth,
Jacqui
Swimming in public with no hiding. :) A great fear beaten.
My most recent step is waiting. I'm doing a lot of that.
My doctor referred me to a psychiatrist for my second GRS letter back in September. I called the shrink's office a couple of months ago to confirm I am still on the waiting list, and I am. Naturally, trans folks who are stable are triaged well below people in crisis. I just hope I am gradually moving up the list.
Also waiting for my two years of RLE so I can change my gender on my birth certificate. Where I live, there is no provision for changing one's gender separately on government documents like driver's license or health card. You have to change your birth certificate first. So I wait. One more year to go.
The most recent thing that was actually progress was my name change, which became official a year ago Tuesday.
Name and gender change documents are sent. Hurray! Just have to wait 2-3 months.
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SRS done, 10th day post-op :)
Only thing left is legal gender change which should happen within next 6 months.
Then things where I have to rely to shrinks is done and I can just forget them.
Laser hair removal will of course continue till who knows how long and I´m really on fence about trachea shave.
But major things are done, rest is just maintenance ;D
Congrats Dizz and Mendi!
WELL...
I allowed my wife to tell her one sister, you know the one that is a little different an=bout me...I was not there, but it will give my wife more support. I feel totally weird about this. This one I had no hand in. Karen my wife said she is just confused, well duh! I hope my sister-in-law will now talk to me about this and learn! And most of all accept me for who I am.. Thoughts, and prayers accepted...this is my NEXT STEP! Keep up the good work Ladies!
Love and Hugs Marcie
A huge step in coming out, Marcie! I found that once the second level revelations start, there is nothing left to leave closeted...not that we should have ever had to closet ourselves. Well, congrats!
My most recent step was cross dressing complete with padded and bra and fillers and I felt great! Can't wait to do it again but I feel like some things missing in the mean time. The only thing stopping me now is that I'll have to come out to my siblings before I can dress more regularly.
X Maria
Quote from: kaitylynn on July 22, 2018, 03:13:07 PM
A huge step in coming out, Marcie! I found that once the second level revelations start, there is nothing left to leave closeted...not that we should have ever had to closet ourselves. Well, congrats!
Thanks! This one was harder than even telling my immediate family I had to do that...this feels like a choice, and opening Pandoras box!
Love and Hugs
Marse,
It is so hard to have no control over an event. I hope this is good for both of you. You know where to find me if you need to. Hugs
Moni
Got my last eligard injection. Sitting solidly at castrate levels, filled in all the paper work and the boys are out on August 23
I had my packing and catheter removed today
That first dilation was an interesting experience after having several feet of packing taken out.
Quote from: Colleen_definitely on July 24, 2018, 07:23:57 PM
I had my packing and catheter removed today
That first dilation was an interesting experience after having several feet of packing taken out.
Oh, fun! Good for you! It's like being released on your own recognizance when those two things are removed.
Being able to sleep any way but on my back is an amazing thing for sure.
The whole time that my surgeon was pulling packing he was joking around saying "I don't remember putting this much in there". It's amazing how much he managed to jam in there.
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Quote from: HappyMoni on July 23, 2018, 11:08:31 AM
Marse,
It is so hard to have no control over an event. I hope this is good for both of you. You know where to find me if you need to. Hugs
Moni
OH MONI! Love you!!!
Emotionally dealing with changes, thinking about my past and the current day to day reactions of others. I'm getting used to people looking at me I guess.
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I will begin working august 6th as the true me Sabrina. I feel nervous because it is the first time I work in female clothes. I hope everything will go well in my new job. I am so proud of me getting my highest paid job ever! The most difficults thing will be to dress properly and also the beard management. I am so eager and by the same time so scared. I think they wouldn't have hired me if they don't know all that.
Thank you to all of you for reading and great support.
Sabrina
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Sabrina!! You'll do great. Major milestone and a challenge, but in a way you can think of this as easier than all those years living in a role that didn't quite feel right for you. You will soon look back at August 6 as the start of something amazing.
Wearing a bikini to swim laps in the public pool. Not very recent though, decades ago but it was my most recent.
Having an email address for my female side.
Quote from: LexieDragon on July 27, 2018, 11:34:20 AM
Having an email address for my female side.
Good, I have made a Facebook account at the same time back then with an image instead of a picture. Most of the people I've come out with did add me as a friend with my new account.
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Quote from: dizz on July 27, 2018, 11:54:19 AM
Good, I have made a Facebook account at the same time back then with an image instead of a picture. Most of the people I've come out with did add me as a friend with my new account.
Awesome. Not quite there yet myself. Still at the point where only my SO, her sister, and my best girl-friend are aware...heh.
Hi Ladies -
Out to my older Daughter, now to all my kids. It was hard to set up because she does not live close, but it was the best! She said thank you for including me in your life, I love you, what pronouns do you want me to use? What more could one ask for? Not much! YEA!!\
Love and Hugs, Marcie
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YOU are so beautiful!
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I wanted to gets this going again! I know we are all still taking new steps to becoming who we really are! I am in the middle of a lull, waiting to get past a couple of family weddings and trying not to be the center of attention at them so it will be a month before I can take any large steps, but I have to say that I have taken a couple of steps recently one large and important, others not so much so.
I video skyped my older daughter to finally tell her what was going on. She was THE MOST ACCEPTING AND SUPPORTIVE PERSON when I told her, said she was proud of me, thanked me, then she later said it will take time to get back to where she was...she was mourning the loss of the Dad she knew and the future thoughts she had of how life would be. SHe is a Psychologist so I think she was doing her psychology thing at first, but we are still loving one anbopther and that is what counts!
Also I am investigating bottom surgery - I really cannot wait for that and have discussed the steps to make the gender maker and name changes and to list when and how I will proceed form here...That has been so helpful!
Thanks all for sharing - let's keep this going!
Lots of hugs and Love,
Marcie
Hello Marcie
Body Hair Removal but I am being greedy and claiming two:
BHR Laser for face, back, abdomen, and nipples which started first and then BHR Electrolysis for face in conjunction with BHR Laser but on different dates by different practitioner.
Hugs
Pamela
Quote from: pamelatransuk on September 14, 2018, 09:01:11 AM
Hello Marcie
Body Hair Removal but I am being greedy and claiming two:
BHR Laser for face, back, abdomen, and nipples which started first and then BHR Electrolysis for face in conjunction with BHR Laser but on different dates by different practitioner.
Hugs
Pamela
I bet that feels great! After the wedding this will be the first thing I get started with, especially the face!! LOVE AND HUGS
Yes it does and good luck with everything, Marcie.
Pamela
I officially started on HRT today! Got my very first injection of E earlier today! I'm very happy, it's almost as if I felt the medication surge throughout my body [emoji846] I can't stop smiling today, I wonder why? Could it have to do with the fact that I've known this to be what I've wanted since the age of 17? When I discovered what the name for my feelings is. [emoji846][emoji846][emoji846]
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Marcie that's so awesome your older daughter is so supportive! You raised her well.
Pamela, you go girl! Nice and smooth.
Wow Cat - congratulations! I cherish the memories of my start with HRT and I am sure you'll do well. Your future started today.
Quote from: Kendra on September 14, 2018, 11:24:40 PM
Wow Cat - congratulations! I cherish the memories of my start with HRT and I am sure you'll do well. Your future started today.
Thank you Kendra! I'm looking forward to the future, not the mood swings though. I really hope that I'll see results as wonderfully as yours. :)
Right now I'm just so happy in general, the only worry that I have now is coming out to my family. That is the next step that I'm gathering courage for. Doctor said that I have about 6 months before they really begin to notice without me telling them. I will keep y'all updated [emoji846]
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Two year HRT anniversary. Weight under 200lbs. for first time since I was 26. Was 298 three years ago.
Congratulations Cat. You'll remember your first injection (or tablet) of HRT forever. It is a wonderful feeling, isn't it?
I wish you every happiness on your journey.
Congratulations Dawn on HRT anniversary and weight loss.
Hugs
Pamela
Thank you Kendra and I hope you enjoy meeting the UK girls in Birmingham next week. I know you will enjoy Emma's company again. I am away on holiday and cannot attend but I hope all goes well.
Hugs
Pamela
Thank you Marcie for resurrecting this thread yesterday.
I am happy that your oldest daughter accepts you even though she will need time to fully process the matter. Clearly she loves you and that determines everything!
Good luck investigating surgery and getting name and gender changes done.
Hugs
Pamela
Had my first Facial and Derma planning last week
Started the approval process for Orchi yesterday with my insurance
My most recent step was I filed my legal documents for name and gender change, turned in my facial profile pictures and completed my lab work for FFS. I have my first voice therapy appointment this Wednesday. So happy things are moving right along.
Waiting for orchie to happen. Not much else I can actually do in terms of transition. :)
I'm trying to get an orchi too. Also ffs and my name/gender changed. I have a lot to do as we all do right...
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Allison and krobinson, hoping the surgeries come soon and you are feeling finally who you are meant to be! Love and hugs.
Quote from: Marcieelizabeth on September 16, 2018, 10:25:20 AM
Allison and krobinson, hoping the surgeries come soon and you are feeling finally who you are meant to be! Love and hugs.
Thank you very much! I'm hoping things go well with you for your daughter's wedding. I have to take a look at your thread again! It made me nervous for you... I know what it's like having to switch back to male clothes.. It's terrible!
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My most recent step was coming out to someone. My therapist is helping me build up the courage to come out to others, but that is a work-in-progress. I'm planning to start HRT in a few months. I've already got the letter from my therapist to begin taking hormones. Now I'm just waiting until I can get on my employer's health insurance.
Danielle
Quote from: Donica on September 15, 2018, 10:44:22 AM
My most recent step was I filed my legal documents for name and gender change, turned in my facial profile pictures and completed my lab work for FFS. I have my first voice therapy appointment this Wednesday. So happy things are moving right along.
That is so many great things! I only hope to get there soon! Love and hugs
Quote from: Quinn on September 15, 2018, 07:56:38 AM
Had my first Facial and Derma planning last week
Started the approval process for Orchi yesterday with my insurance
Wow everyone is going for the Orchi! Congrats
Quote from: Danielle Kristina on September 17, 2018, 06:07:05 PM
My most recent step was coming out to someone. My therapist is helping me build up the courage to come out to others, but that is a work-in-progress. I'm planning to start HRT in a few months. I've already got the letter from my therapist to begin taking hormones. Now I'm just waiting until I can get on my employer's health insurance.
Danielle
Danielle - I am still not out to anyone other than some very great close friends and my immediate family. It all seems to be unreal and scary, but also so wonderful! Keep it up! Enjoy. Love and hugs
My most recent step is not at all related to transitioning but I have decided to no longer wear my mastectomy prostheses.
So I kissed the gel boobies away and decided that I should be happy with what I have naturally. And to top it of I went to Victoria Secret to celebrate my decision and have a booby measuring fitting day.
Yeah, I am 38C. :)
Of course I did buy 3 lovely bra's and got a free shoulder/hand bag. <3
couple of things
- have almost fully 100% accepted the idea that im transgender, this took alot as you know from my winging at the start of this year/end of last year, sorry about that, i barely think of myself as a guy anymore and i feel happier for it
- talked to my GP about transitioning (HE KNOWS!!!!)
- Got Called Ma'am today, thanks to like having grown my hair out really long all year (atleast longest ive ever grown it)
- going to start with a proper gender therapist soon, still continuing with my psychologist
Quote from: Marcieelizabeth on September 17, 2018, 07:41:49 PM
Wow everyone is going for the Orchi! Congrats
Im going to have GCS also but it will be a few years away. Been on hormones for 17 months now and still cannot get the T into female range, figured just get the Orchi now so I can stop worrying over the T levels.
Quote from: Quinn on September 18, 2018, 02:39:29 PM
Im going to have GCS also but it will be a few years away. Been on hormones for 17 months now and still cannot get the T into female range, figured just get the Orchi now so I can stop worrying over the T levels.
If I may ask? Are you taking Spiro?
I am two hours away from my first electrolysis appointment.
I've hydrated well. Got the lidocaine. A bit nervous!
But I'll be fine.
Starting brave with the upper lip. Chin as a backup spot.
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
Quote from: Jessica on September 18, 2018, 03:36:02 PM
I am two hours away from my first electrolysis appointment.
I've hydrated well. Got the lidocaine. A bit nervous!
But I'll be fine.
Starting brave with the upper lip. Chin as a backup spot.
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
Go Jessica Go! If your appointment is in two hours, I'm guess already have the lidocaine on your upper lip. Don't skimp on the lidocaine. They tend to venture off the treated areas on occasion.
Quote from: Jessica on September 18, 2018, 03:36:02 PM
I am two hours away from my first electrolysis appointment.
I've hydrated well. Got the lidocaine. A bit nervous!
But I'll be fine.
Starting brave with the upper lip. Chin as a backup spot.
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
@JessicaDear Jess:Calm down.... Yes, you will be fine.... actually the electrolysis is not near as bad as going to the dentist to get a cavity filled or especially a tooth extracted.
Hang in there, you will be OK, perhaps a little sore when the lidocaine wears off but it will be worth the discomfort as you continue on. Once you get home perhaps a stiff adult beverage would be in order.... just as long as you are not on any contradicted medications of course.
How many appointments/treatments are tentatively planned for you???
I will be looking for your recap of your hair removal session.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Quote from: Quinn on September 18, 2018, 02:39:29 PM
Im going to have GCS also but it will be a few years away. Been on hormones for 17 months now and still cannot get the T into female range, figured just get the Orchi now so I can stop worrying over the T levels.
No I tried spiro at the start but im one of the people that have severe side effects from it , depression, panic and anxiety attacks, suicidal thoughts and ended up in the hospital with severe dehydration and some other issues from. I was on it for about 3 weeks.
At that point I knew that it wasn't for me and I would try Estrogen only hrt, my endo said it just takes a lot longer to get the T down. I started hrt may 2017 my T was 546ng/dl freeT was 7 , now after all this time T is 325 Free 1.2 estrogen is at 136pg/ml
Figured get the orchi and it should be easier moving forward
@Donica @Alaskan Danielle Quote from: Donica on September 18, 2018, 03:54:06 PM
Go Jessica Go! If your appointment is in two hours, I'm guess already have the lidocaine on your upper lip. Don't skimp on the lidocaine. They tend to venture off the treated areas on occasion.
Donica I was told an hour before and it worked! I am surprised it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Don't get me wrong, between the ones that I barely felt there were the ones that needed extra work. Coarse hair = extra ⚡️⚡️⚡️
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on September 18, 2018, 04:26:16 PM
@Jessica
Dear Jess:
Calm down.... Yes, you will be fine.... actually the electrolysis is not near as bad as going to the dentist to get a cavity filled or especially a tooth extracted.
Hang in there, you will be OK, perhaps a little sore when the lidocaine wears off but it will be worth the discomfort as you continue on. Once you get home perhaps a stiff adult beverage would be in order.... just as long as you are not on any contradicted medications of course.
How many appointments/treatments are tentatively planned for you???
I will be looking for your recap of your hair removal session.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Hi Danielle, your right! It really wasn't bad. I found myself sometimes relaxed enough to be moving with the music that was on (classic rock), after all I am a California girl.
I had an hour session today, that's how long the tech suggested. I now have at least one, sometimes two appointments each week through October. I've been approved for a year of treatment, and can have that renewed if needed.
I love the quarter size patch of smooth skin, though some will return, but soon to be zapped again.
Shot of Patron Reposado is in order.
Thank you two and everyone else for the support!
Hugs and smiles, Jess 🌸🌸🌸
Quote from: Jessica on September 18, 2018, 08:41:31 PM
@Donica @Alaskan Danielle
Donica I was told an hour before and it worked! I am surprised it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Don't get me wrong, between the ones that I barely felt there were the ones that needed extra work. Coarse hair = extra ⚡️⚡️⚡️
Hi Danielle, your right! It really wasn't bad. I found myself sometimes relaxed enough to be moving with the music that was on (classic rock), after all I am a California girl.
I had an hour session today, that's how long the tech suggested. I now have at least one, sometimes two appointments each week through October. I've been approved for a year of treatment, and can have that renewed if needed.
I love the quarter size patch of smooth skin, though some will return, but soon to be zapped again.
Shot of Patron Reposado is in order.
Thank you two and everyone else for the support!
Hugs and smiles, Jess 🌸🌸🌸
@Jessica Dear Jess:I am so glad to hear that you did better than you originally thought. You really messed up with your report however, you could have made the case to us and your wife that the pain was unbearable and you were suffering and in tears during the One Hour session today..... then, without reproach, you could have easily bargained for 2 or 3 shots of Patron Reposado.
Thank you for your update report regarding your hair removal session.... your experience will make it that much easier for you future sessions...... then of course, all bets are off if you elect to have hair removal procedures done in your nether areas.... OUCH !!!!!! After those sessions you may require the entire bottle, not just a shot or two!!! ;)
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on September 18, 2018, 08:50:19 PM
@Jessica
Dear Jess:
I am so glad to hear that you did better than you originally thought. You really messed up with your report however, you could have made the case to us and your wife that the pain was unbearable and you were suffering and in tears during the One Hour session today..... then, without reproach, you could have easily bargained for 2 or 3 shots of Patron Reposado.
Thank you for your update report regarding your hair removal session.... your experience will make it that much easier for you future sessions...... then of course, all bets are off if you elect to have hair removal procedures done in your nether areas.... OUCH !!!!!! After those sessions you may require the entire bottle, not just a shot or two!!! ;)
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Isn't there a shot you can get in the southern region that stops the pain?
Quote from: Donica on September 19, 2018, 09:00:10 AM
Isn't there a shot you can get in the southern region that stops the pain?
Electrolysis from a medical center like Electrolysis 3000 can do this, as they have staff with the medical licenses needed to do injections. But... The injections IMHO hurt far worse than the electrolysis for many folks, including me. (I had numbing injections for a corrective surgery, not electrolysis or transition related, but in the same location.)
Yep, I did this at precision hair removal in Chicago. That said, nerve field blocks are not 100% perfect so there were a couple spots that did hurt. We figured out where they were and Dr. Z's anesthesiologist came in and shot those full of local anesthetic later on and we cleared them. The most painful part was the local to be honest.
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
Yay Laurie 🌸🌸🌸
Hugs and smiles from a California girl
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
I have to say having a vag is pretty neato.
As for my latest step: I got my FFS booked and a consult for bewbies. They might happen at the same time but I won't know until later.
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
Oh my but our Laurie girl is making some big steps! Congratulations on coming to terms with this. Good luck on working through the hurdles but with that blonde advocate on your side there should be no problems! Keep us updated as you move along this part of your journey.
Tia Anne
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
Congratulations Laurie! Squeee! I can't wait myself.
On another note, I asked my PCP for a prescription for a stronger numbing cream. I haven't tried it yet. I not sure how it's any better? I am currently using a 4% Lidocaine cream. The prescription is only 2.5% Lidocaine but also has 2.5% Prilocaine? Has anybody tried this?
Quote from: Donica on September 20, 2018, 03:15:43 PM
Congratulations Laurie! Squeee! I can't wait myself.
On another note, I asked my PCP for a prescription for a stronger numbing cream. I haven't tried it yet. I not sure how it's any better? I am currently using a 4% Lidocaine cream. The prescription is only 2.5% Lidocaine but also has 2.5% Prilocaine? Has anybody tried this?
Yes, and it is somewhat stronger. I applied this mix on the upper lip and covered with plastic wrap an hour before treatment, and it worked well. There are some other even more potent mixes that a compounding pharmacy can make, but they are not widely used or prescribed as far as I know. (
@liz has details on at least one of them.)
Quote from: Donica on September 20, 2018, 03:15:43 PM
Congratulations Laurie! Squeee! I can't wait myself.
On another note, I asked my PCP for a prescription for a stronger numbing cream. I haven't tried it yet. I not sure how it's any better? I am currently using a 4% Lidocaine cream. The prescription is only 2.5% Lidocaine but also has 2.5% Prilocaine? Has anybody tried this?
The mix that was recommended to me is called BLT. No, not the sandwich (nom!), it's a mix of Benzocaine 20%, Lidocaine 6%, and Tetracaine 4%. It's all I've used, so I can't compare the effectiveness. It does have to be prescribed and supplied by a compounding pharmacy.
There's also a product called "Pliaglis" which is Lidocaine 7%, and Tetracaine 7%, and is self-occluding, so no plastic wrap is required. They call it "phase-changing, topical cream Peel technology." I spoke to a bunch of people at various producers and distributors late last year, and after applying my web-fu, I found the website of the company that produces it:
http://www.crescitatherapeutics.com/products/pliaglis/ (http://www.crescitatherapeutics.com/products/pliaglis/)
The company licensed to distribute it in the US is here:
https://www.taro.com/pliaglis (https://www.taro.com/pliaglis)
I found it at GoodRx here:
https://m.goodrx.com/pliaglis?drug-name=pliaglis (https://m.goodrx.com/pliaglis?drug-name=pliaglis).
Goodrx say it's a 100gm tube, which makes it a good deal compared to BLT, which is costing me $58 for 30gm and lasts about 3 months the way I use it. The Taro site, though, says Pliaglis is available in 30gm tubes. I don't know who's right.
Stephanie
When I came out to myself one year ago, I stopped cutting my very short hair. It's now quite messy and reaches my shoulders so I'm making plans to get it styled and dyed. I'm nervous because I've never dyed my hair before. But I'm really excited because changing my hair color feels like another rite of passage.
Hugs to everyone.
Lindy
Quote from: Lindy on September 21, 2018, 08:03:11 AM
When I came out to myself one year ago, I stopped cutting my very short hair. It's now quite messy and reaches my shoulders so I'm making plans to get it styled and dyed. I'm nervous because I've never dyed my hair before. But I'm really excited because changing my hair color feels like another rite of passage.
Hugs to everyone.
Lindy
You'll love it, Lindy! I've had my hair long for more than 20 years, but had never done anything but brush it back and put it in a ponytail. The first time I got it colored and styled I broke into tears when I saw myself in the mirror, and had the whole salon crying with me.
Go for it!
Stephanie
Quote from: Steph2.0 on September 20, 2018, 04:42:01 PM
The mix that was recommended to me is called BLT. No, not the sandwich (nom!), it's a mix of Benzocaine 20%, Lidocaine 6%, and Tetracaine 4%. It's all I've used, so I can't compare the effectiveness. It does have to be prescribed and supplied by a compounding pharmacy.
There's also a product called "Pliaglis" which is Lidocaine 7%, and Tetracaine 7%, and is self-occluding, so no plastic wrap is required. They call it "phase-changing, topical cream Peel technology." I spoke to a bunch of people at various producers and distributors late last year, and after applying my web-fu, I found the website of the company that produces it:
http://www.crescitatherapeutics.com/products/pliaglis/ (http://www.crescitatherapeutics.com/products/pliaglis/)
The company licensed to distribute it in the US is here:
https://www.taro.com/pliaglis (https://www.taro.com/pliaglis)
I found it at GoodRx here:
https://m.goodrx.com/pliaglis?drug-name=pliaglis (https://m.goodrx.com/pliaglis?drug-name=pliaglis).
Goodrx say it's a 100gm tube, which makes it a good deal compared to BLT, which is costing me $58 for 30gm and lasts about 3 months the way I use it. The Taro site, though, says Pliaglis is available in 30gm tubes. I don't know who's right.
Stephanie
This is awesome information, thank you for sharing! I've been using the store bought 4% lidocaine while doing electrolysis in my *ahem... *sensitive areas and I literally cry during those sessions. lol
Quote from: miyann on September 24, 2018, 06:06:48 AM
This is awesome information, thank you for sharing! I've been using the store bought 4% lidocaine while doing electrolysis in my *ahem... *sensitive areas and I literally cry during those sessions. lol
Hi Miyann,
I'm glad you find it helpful. I know what you're talking about - the first time I tried thermolysis on the South Pole I lasted less than 10 minutes before I was crying on the electrocutioner's shoulder. I'll be trying it for the first time tomorrow with my new torturer, who uses the blend method. We'll see how it goes.
If you (or anyone else) do try Pliaglis, please report back. It sounds interesting, though at 7/7% I don't see how it could be more effective than BLT at 20/6/4%. I like the idea that it's self-occluding, but after almost a year of being Plasti-girl (or as my BFF calls me, "The Vis-Queen"), driving 1:20 to my appointment with plastic wrap on my face is just part of the weekly routine.
Good luck!
Stephanie
Quote from: Donica on September 20, 2018, 03:15:43 PM
Congratulations Laurie! Squeee! I can't wait myself.
On another note, I asked my PCP for a prescription for a stronger numbing cream. I haven't tried it yet. I not sure how it's any better? I am currently using a 4% Lidocaine cream. The prescription is only 2.5% Lidocaine but also has 2.5% Prilocaine? Has anybody tried this?
That sounds like Emla. That is what I use. I have also tried 5% lidocaine, and found that the two are pretty much equal in effectiveness (or lack thereof). Emla is non-prescription here, but you have to ask for it: it is not on the open shelves.
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
Congratulations, Laurie! That is a big step.
Quote from: Laurie on September 19, 2018, 09:38:08 PM
I made the decision to work towards GCS.
OH! congratulations Laurie! I can't wait myself for this step. I have a list of doctors to contact...
Thank you all who congratulated me on deciding to pursue GCS. It was sort of a surprize to me too.lol
Hugs,
Laurie
A lot has happened in the past few days. I had a hearing for my name change. It went really well and my records were sealed. I also worked with HR and transitioned to my coworkers on Monday - I telecommute, so it's been a long time coming lol. And I just started postop voice exercises :D
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I forgot about this thread.
My most recent step: going out to a club where people know me, dancing with my wife .. as me. Which also turned into my 1st ladies room visit and my first ladies room conversation.
I finally have a "recent step" to report: my second referral letter for GRS is on the way. ;D
Quote from: Faith on October 03, 2018, 12:51:41 PM
I forgot about this thread.
My most recent step: going out to a club where people know me, dancing with my wife .. as me. Which also turned into my 1st ladies room visit and my first ladies room conversation.
@Faith Dear Faith:I read about that wonderful and very affirming night on your other thread....
soon you will not be very welcome in the men's restroom... the men's restroom will just become a memory.
This was a great moment for you and hold on, there are more great moments in your journey to come.
Hugs,
Danielle
Quote from: KathyLauren on October 03, 2018, 01:03:15 PM
I finally have a "recent step" to report: my second referral letter for GRS is on the way. ;D
Congrats on your second referral letter for GRS Kathy! BTW! Yes, the numbing cream is Emla and it works a little better. My electrolysis told me about the BLT stuff that Stephanie was talking about. I will ask my PCP for a prescription.
It's been a week today that I had a trachea shave done. Got my stitches taken out today. It's still a little sore, but I'm pleased with the results.
Quote from: cargurl72 on October 03, 2018, 08:39:48 PM
It's been a week today that I had a trachea shave done. Got my stitches taken out today. It's still a little sore, but I'm pleased with the results.
Super! I dont have a large adams apple but I will need a second chin removed at some point! I hope you heal quickly!
Love and hugs
HI again,
I finally called a surgeon about starting the GCS or GAS as they call it to start the process! Starting with Devin O'Brien-Coon at Hopkins! So happy yet scared!
Love and hugs to you all! Marcie
Quote from: Marcieelizabeth on October 05, 2018, 09:54:54 PM
HI again,
I finally called a surgeon about starting the GCS or GAS as they call it to start the process! Starting with Devin O'Brien-Coon at Hopkins! So happy yet scared!
Love and hugs to you all! Marcie
@Marcieelizabeth Dear Marcie: This is certainly good news worth celebrating.
Yes indeed....
"So happy yet scared!".... or as I usually phrase the same thoughts....
"Exciting and frightening at the same time."
Please continue to keep all of us updated regarding your progress and your planned surgery dates...
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Congratulations Marcie, it is always wise to plan ahead and investigate surgeries and surgeons.
Good luck both with determining your choice and wishing you future success.
Hugs
Pamela
Marcie that's awesome news! Best wishes and here's to your future.
And so much other great news on this thread.
I've finally added E to my Spiro. Waiting to see if my mind clears.
Quote from: GordonG on October 06, 2018, 07:36:49 PM
I've finally added E to my Spiro. Waiting to see if my mind clears.
How wonderful, I am now almost exactly one year on E. It has made a huge difference in my life. I hope it will for oyu too!!
Love and hugs!
Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 05, 2018, 10:59:14 PM
@Marcieelizabeth
Dear Marcie:
This is certainly good news worth celebrating.
Yes indeed.... "So happy yet scared!"
.... or as I usually phrase the same thoughts....
"Exciting and frightening at the same time."
Please continue to keep all of us updated regarding your progress and your planned surgery dates...
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Danielle - thanks so much, I am very excited and very frightened! That is the perfect storm, right! :) Love and hugs
Quote from: pamelatransuk on October 06, 2018, 04:42:51 AM
Congratulations Marcie, it is always wise to plan ahead and investigate surgeries and surgeons.
Good luck both with determining your choice and wishing you future success.
Hugs
Pamela
Thanks Pamela - I have an intro phone interview scheduled, cant wait to get started. Love and hugs!!
Quote from: Kendra on October 06, 2018, 11:34:08 AM
Marcie that's awesome news! Best wishes and here's to your future.
And so much other great news on this thread.
Kendra - I know right! I really did not think I had it in me to go forward with this so soon! But I cannot wait! And I love hearing everything every one is doing to get where they are going! LOVE IT!
Love and hugs to you!
Marcie
I made it through my daughters wedding as Dad! I had a consult call this morning with a surgeon! Now those are STEPS IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION~!!! How about you all? What good is going on??
Love and Hugs, Marcie
Whoop, whoop!
Everybody invited to Marcie's coming out
PARTY!!
Quote from: HappyMoni on October 17, 2018, 03:28:22 PM
Whoop, whoop!
Everybody invited to Marcie's coming out
PARTY!!
WOOHOO! YES MAAM!!!
Quote from: HappyMoni on October 17, 2018, 03:28:22 PM
Whoop, whoop!
Everybody invited to Marcie's coming out
PARTY!!
Congrats on the wedding Marcie I know it was not easy for you so let me say "Good Job"!
And oh that consult call wasn't to shabby either.
Hugs,
Laurie
Congratulations Marcie on both counts. I am so happy for you.
Hugs
Pamela
Quote from: Laurie on October 17, 2018, 08:40:50 PM
Congrats on the wedding Marcie I know it was not easy for you so let me say "Good Job"!
And oh that consult call wasn't to shabby either.
Hugs,
Laurie
Laurie - Thanks! Wish you were closer, next trip we will celebrate! How is your progress on the GCS? Love and Hugs - Marcie
I agree, Congratulations Marci on both counts.
For me recovering from a glottoplasty and giving it time to recover before seeking another opinion from a doctor that specializes in voice. Also, I am beginning to really like my life and enjoy it. It has been a long time coming :)
So great, Rachel, each step brings us closer to who we are! I am just being held back it seems at every turn, but I will push forward!
Love and hugs, Marcie