I've been ardently consuming every bit of information I can on this site since late last summer. Once I exhausted all of the relevant FTM postings I moved on to following the threads created by several of the amazing women on this site to document their successes and struggles. I've learned so much here.
I am way late in joining and introducing myself, so here goes.
My name is Perry, I'm FTM, 61 years young living in So. Cal. I administered my second testosterone shot just last Monday. I retired from my career 4.5 years ago and have been working since then for a contractor to my previous employer on a part time basis.
My earliest memories are of wanting to be a boy. At 15 Mom asked me if I wanted to be a boy. Since it was the 70's and I'm co-dependent I immediately said NO. She never asked again, dang it. Last October I told her I was planning to transition. She said okay and accepted it and me, expressing that she just wanted me to be happy. My start with HRT was stalled due to some medical issues for me and for her. Unfortunately, she passed last weekend and I won't get to show her my true self. I'll write more on these feeling in another posting.
So far, immediate family and close friends who I've come out to have been overwhelmingly supportive. (Received a great card in the mail today from friends I came out to on Sunday.) Even family I thought would need more time were immediately behind me. I am a very lucky guy!
I'll save more of my story for other posts so as not to bore anyone.
Thanks for reading and thanks for your participation in this wonderful community. I hope to help others as I have been helped.
Regards,
Perry
Hi Perry :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's Place :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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Hugs
V M
Hi Perry, I'm very glad you are here. Thank you for sharing. My name is Moni. My condolences on the loss of your Mom. I know that losing loved ones at a time where you are finally yourself to them is especially hard. Good luck with your plans.
@Perry Hello Perry,
I see that you are new here and may have questions and concerns, this is the right place for you to be to find out what others have done that may have been in your circumstances.
Be aware that there are lots of members here that can identify with the issues that you brought up in your introduction posting.
You have already received a Welcome Message from @V M but please allow me to also WELCOME you to Susan's Place. You will find this a safe and friendly place to share with others and to read about others similar trials, tribulations, and successes.
It is nice that you have signed up so you can share with others and involve yourself with some give and take with other members.
When frustrated or if you have successes you can share it here if you wish and receive support from others and offer support to others. ....
***It's a very good chance that you might find that you will make some new friends here.
Please come in and get involved at your own pace.
Be sure to look at the LINKS that @V M posted below her Welcome Message to you, there is information about the site that will help you navigate around and best utilize the features here.
Again, Welcome.
Danielle
Welcome! I'm new here too, but the supportive atmosphere is beautiful here! :)
@V M Thank you for the welcome!
@HappyMoni Thank you for the welcome, and the condolences. I've read many of your comments to others and look forward to receiving your insight on my journey as well. I tremendously enjoy your sense of humor!
@Alaskan Danielle Thank you for the welcome. I follow your thread with great anticipation, I also gain so much from your wise and considered counsel to others. I look forward to your comments on my future postings.
@Betty Jean Thank you for the welcome. I agree, this community is wonderful!
Hi Perry! Welcome to Susan's Place, I'm Jessica, 61 years young and living in Northern California.
So sorry for the loss of your mother. I believe she already knew your true self when you were young. I'm glad you have the support you need from your family.
I'll be looking forward to your future posts!
Hugs and smiles, Jess
Thank you
@Jessica for the warm welcome and condolences. I think you're right, Mom knew, didn't matter to her howI presented myself. I was her kid and she loved me. I have the utmost respect for your journey and look forward to your own postings and the insightful comments you provide to others.
Welcome Perry. I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm 40 years old FTM living in Sweden.
Tony
Thanks for the welcome and condolences Tony!
Hey Perry, you seem to have a wonderfully positive attitude. How do you feel about your transition? Are you nervous about any particular part of it that you see down the road?
Moni
Thank you for your kind comment earlier. I am amazed that you could tell I have a sense of humor. My usual reaction is people hitting their forehead with their palm and walking away from me when I talk. I have learned to laugh at it. lol
Hi again
@HappyMoni, I'm thrilled with the prospect of becoming who I was always supposed to be. Better late than never. My concerns are that HRT won't quite give me the results I am looking for or that they will be very slow in coming. Since I have much more life behind me than ahead of me I want things to happen as quickly as possible. I hope to get top surgery this year, I currently have an HMO so that could seriously limit my choices for a surgeon. I may have to prioritize that surgery with a hip replacement though, going to be a tough decision.
Thanks for your questions.
Regards,
Perry
Welcome to Susan's Place. Take it from me, Testosterone is an incredibly powerful drug. I have seen a few FTMs and with a little time, it wasn't possible to recognize them. My one suggestion is take a few before picture of yourself so you can see the new you evolve. You may be very much surprised how much you will change over the period of a year or two.
Thanks for the encouragement Dena!
Quote from: Perry on May 26, 2018, 10:55:04 PM
Hi again @HappyMoni, I'm thrilled with the prospect of becoming who I was always supposed to be. Better late than never. My concerns are that HRT won't quite give me the results I am looking for or that they will be very slow in coming. Since I have much more life behind me than ahead of me I want things to happen as quickly as possible. I hope to get top surgery this year, I currently have an HMO so that could seriously limit my choices for a surgeon. I may have to prioritize that surgery with a hip replacement though, going to be a tough decision.
Thanks for your questions.
Regards,
Perry
We are of similar age. I get being in a hurry to get there. My top surgery is July 10th. (In my case augmentation) I really am itching to complete the transition part of things. I suspect you want everything done yesterday. You will get there though.
Warmly,
Moni
Hi Perry, welcome to Susan's Place! You know, you did show your mom your true self, your true self at the time. No one has any idea what they're going to grow into, so you did everything you could.
As far as this:
"I hope to help others as I have been helped."
I'd say you already have. :)
See you around the site.
Hugs, Devlyn
@Devlyn thanks for your welcome and very kind words!