The biggest one was to my mom. I had no idea what to say so I found a video on youtube that talked to parents about their kid being Trans and I sent it to her. I was so scared. I talked to her this morning over messenger and she was so accepting I cried. She encouraged me to take baby steps so my first step was to choose a new name and I have chosen Jordy. My birth name was Katherine. I don't want to call it my dead name. I struggled but I loved myself as a genderfluid woman, I love myself now as a blossoming Trans man. My next step is to figure out what size binder I need. I'll be reading in the transitioning section next. My next Big step is to come out to my therapist. I already came out to my case manager. They had asked if my gender or orientation was a problem for me but I wasn't ready to acknowledge it was. I had a break through when a dear friend and I were talking about some personal stuff and he called me a secret trans. It hit home so hard I cried and he thought I was hurt or offended by it. But instead it was the freedom and the fact that he said it in such a no nonsense kind of way as if it were ok and normal. I'm finally ready to start my life as myself instead of who my mother wanted me to be.
Dear Oona: Wow, that is great that your mom so very quickly had accepted your transition story and that she even gave you some suggestions too. Many time parents can be the most difficult challenge for a lot of transitioners.
I really would think that coming out to your therapist is NOT going to be much of a problem. Your case manager has already heard your transition plans and that doesn't appear to be a problem.
So.... all of that is wonderful and very good news.
I am so very happy for you. Please continue to keep us all updated regarding your transition progress as you press toward your goals.
Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle
Jordy, you are discovering the freedom to define yourself and truly own your future.
Quote from: oonawingedwolf on June 05, 2018, 09:53:15 PM
I'm finally ready to start my life as myself instead of who my mother wanted me to be.
Yes, and... based on how your mother responded this morning with unconditional love, your mother proved she knows your happiness is more important than following society's outdated definition of gender.
Thank you both, if anyone has resources that are reliable on binding please share them. I can't afford to get top surgery.
I don't have any experience with binders however I know where to look for information. This section of the site (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,27.0.html) deals with things that would be of interest to a FTM and binders would be found in FTM Gear along with other devices that might be of interest.
Thank you Dena!