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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Renate on December 28, 2007, 07:26:34 AM

Poll
Question: When do you smile?
Option 1: I scowl all the time votes: 1
Option 2: I maintain a neutral face all the time votes: 1
Option 3: I smile ocassionally votes: 0
Option 4: I smile at friends votes: 5
Option 5: I smile at strangers votes: 6
Option 6: I smile at inanimate objects votes: 6
Title: Smiling
Post by: Renate on December 28, 2007, 07:26:34 AM
Well, we've already handled the topic of Crying (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,23685.0.html), so now it's time for smiling!

Ok, it will be harder to really sample people's tendency to smile with a poll, so don't take the poll itself too seriously.
But I am interested in how people feel about smiling and how it has changed with hormones (either estrogen or testosterone).
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: IsabelleStPierre on December 28, 2007, 11:30:52 AM
LOL...just seeing the poll made me smile!!!

I smile just about all the time...people...pets...objects...the TV...what ever!

I haven't noticed any differences pre/post HRT either...

Peace and love,
Izzy
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: NicholeW. on December 28, 2007, 11:54:01 AM
Quote from: Isabelle St-Pierre on December 28, 2007, 11:30:52 AM
LOL...just seeing the poll made me smile!!!

I smile just about all the time...people...pets...objects...the TV...what ever!

I haven't noticed any differences pre/post HRT either...

Peace and love,
Izzy

I have to agree with Izzy and also say that Renate, you didn't put in a selection for "smile constantly!" Okay, most of the time, not constantly.

Nichole
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: Pica Pica on December 28, 2007, 12:04:54 PM
i tend to  :) flash lots of  :) little smiles rather  :) than one big one.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: Sheila on December 28, 2007, 12:06:09 PM
I have for the most part a smile on my face. It hasn't always been that way. It started when I accepted myself. It didn't have anything to do with hormones, hormones did help, but it was the fact that I quit the denial.
Sheila
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: LostInTime on December 28, 2007, 02:58:27 PM
I have found that smiling can be a great intimidation tool. I found that when I smile a lot, people are more wary. When I add humming and the occasional, "I got new socks" then I can usually have an entire elevator car to myself or even most of a subway compartment.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: tekla on December 28, 2007, 04:24:44 PM
Love that style.  I love to smile, makes people think you are up to something.  But when they ask me I tell them I'm not smiling, I'm trying to get a tan on my teeth.  That makes them go away.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: SusanK on December 28, 2007, 05:35:32 PM
You don't have a choice for "smile at people". I'm not a smiling person when alone, but almost always when I meet or greet people anywhere, even just walking down the street. It's my natural reaction to people.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: TheBattler on December 28, 2007, 11:12:56 PM
I was just looking at my picture - not a nice face amongst them.

Alice
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: shanetastic on December 29, 2007, 02:40:09 AM
Where's the. . . At everything :D ?
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: Wing Walker on December 29, 2007, 03:05:33 AM
I tend to keep a slight smile on my face all the time.  It makes me feel younger and prettier, and it doesn't cost anything to share with someone who might need one.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: cindybc on December 29, 2007, 03:35:37 AM
I smile most times, actually I am mostly in a good humor and smiling comes easy for me. That, along with my ability to project to people, makes everything work quite well. If I do get upset at anyone it lasts all of a few seconds, and a few minutes later I am no longer upset at the person anyway.

I can't hold a grudge. The anger builds just so far and I get all shaky and useless  to continue to confront anyway. I love most people and I love working with people. I have this positive affect on people. I am a sensitive and have been for as long as I can remember. A question one may ask themselves before getting involved in any dispute, how important is this anyway. Will they take away your birthday?

Cindy
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: Laura91 on December 29, 2007, 08:51:14 AM
I smile a LOT more now than I used to. Before I faced the gender issues and started HRT I never smiled, not any sort of true smile anyway. If I smiled at anytime before now it was usually do to the fact that I was wasted in one way or another. Now, that smile comes much more naturally than it did before.
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: IsabelleStPierre on December 29, 2007, 02:53:17 PM
OK, upon reflection I would have to say that since transitioning (again) that I do tend to smile more...must have something to do with finally being happy within my own skin???

Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: cindybc on December 29, 2007, 05:04:59 PM
Hi Isabelle
After all the crap you have been through I must say that you deserve to experience a genuine smile now and again. That's also a good sight that what ever you are doing has been effective towards changing your life.

Cindy
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: IsabelleStPierre on December 29, 2007, 05:16:09 PM
Quote from: cindybc on December 29, 2007, 05:04:59 PM
Hi Isabelle
After all the crap you have been through I must say that you deserve to experience a genuine smile now and again. That's also a good sight that what ever you are doing has been effective towards changing your life.

Cindy

We all have crap to go through in life...it's just part of remaking yourself into the person you want to be...I don't think I've gone through any more crap then a lot of others here...I am just more open about everything that has gone on in my life...sometimes too open...but that's just me!

Peace and love,
Isabelle St-Pierre
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: cindybc on December 29, 2007, 05:25:33 PM
Hi Isabelle
Well you are doing something positive and that is what counts. And yes I would have to say that there isn't one true Transsexual in this group or any where else that have not got through to where they are now without tribulations.  I like the way our interviewer for volunteer work defined us on our journey last night, "The walk of heroes"

Cindy
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: Suzy on December 29, 2007, 07:08:00 PM
I find that smiling is a language women seem to know instinctively.  They smile at one another.  If you don't it's almost a sure out.  I learned that early on when I found myself doing it without thinking.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fganjataz.com%2F01smileys%2Fimages%2Fsmileys%2FloopyBlonde-blinking.gif&hash=4545ddf8251cf9c32ae6074d56e48bc34a755857)Kristi
Title: Re: Smiling
Post by: cindybc on December 29, 2007, 07:14:57 PM
Hi Kristi, I do so agree with you. I find no need to fake it either.

Cindy