I have only used one a handful of times. So far I have left it. Dumped it two or three times, and decided to put my wallet and keys into my jeans pockets.
Purses are a self-filling prophecy. :laugh:
I stepped up to a Bitchhaul model 3000. It comes with a ridge pole and I can spend a night in it if I have to. :)
In my drinking days I slept in phone booths. Remember those. It does seem your Bitchhaul 3000 is better suited.
Can a guy chime in here?
I'm having some trouble getting used to using a wallet. I've dropped it on the floor of public bathrooms before. but then I remembered hearing that some guys when they need to sit down actually put their wallet/phone in their underwear, that way it doesn't hit the nasty floor. I started doing that, and they don't hit the nasty floor anymore.
Maybe the thread should be "getting used to a purse/wallet? ;D
Ryuichi
My wallet has been found in the toilet, the washing machine, between the seats of the car. I don't worry much because there is never any money in it. But yes, talking about wallets for transmen is fair game.
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on June 10, 2018, 02:36:11 PM
Can a guy chime in here?
I'm having some trouble getting used to using a wallet. I've dropped it on the floor of public bathrooms before. but then I remembered hearing that some guys when they need to sit down actually put their wallet/phone in their underwear, that way it doesn't hit the nasty floor. I started doing that, and they don't hit the nasty floor anymore.
Maybe the thread should be "getting used to a purse/wallet? ;D
Ryuichi
There are several ways to keep your wallet with you. First, don't buy a slick wallet and possibly go for a tooled one. If the pockets permit, put the wallet in your pocket sideways. Put it in your front pants pocket and last but not least, if your wearing a suit, put it in the inside suit pocket. The inside suit pocket has the additional advantage that pick pockets don't like it. To remove your wallet from there they have to face you and they might be identified latter.
When I first started questioning my gender as an adult I was living in Europe so I was able to carry around a murse. For me the biggest problem is that I instinctively check my pockets for my wallet and keys, and would get that "oh s$#@" moment when I thought I'd lost them.
When I started having purses, I was only using them every few weeks. One I bought and did not use until 6 months after I bought it. When I picked it up, I found 3 more items I bought the same day. I have turned my house upside down for these items. Just never occurred to look in my purse. Also, my long lost car key finally turned up in one of my purses. Lucky for me, I limit purses to two. So now it is easier to find things.
@Ryuichi13 You could get a biker wallet with a chain on it... Not sure it helps with the public bathroom situation tough but you might be able to catch it in time...
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on June 10, 2018, 02:36:11 PM
Can a guy chime in here?
I'm having some trouble getting used to using a wallet. I've dropped it on the floor of public bathrooms before. but then I remembered hearing that some guys when they need to sit down actually put their wallet/phone in their underwear, that way it doesn't hit the nasty floor. I started doing that, and they don't hit the nasty floor anymore.
Maybe the thread should be "getting used to a purse/wallet? ;D
Ryuichi
My main problem is remembering not to leave my purse wherever I'm at, as pockets naturally travel with you.
Also, determing what size/color to go with is partly fun and partly a hassle.
Absolutely no problem. Until the day I went full-time this was my constant companion.
(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180610/d7754dcab3506a68755048adf8f4671c.jpg)
Phone, iPad Mini, flashlight, pen, business cards, medications, you name it, lived in there, and people got used to seeing me carry it. It usually stayed in the car when shopping, with my wallet in my back pocket, but anywhere else it was always with me. I called it my camera bag or PowerPurse depending on the audience. Switching to a nice purse was effortless.
Stephanie
Quote from: Steph2.0 on June 10, 2018, 03:55:55 PM
Absolutely no problem. Until the day I went full-time this was my constant companion.
(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180610/d7754dcab3506a68755048adf8f4671c.jpg)
Phone, iPad Mini, flashlight, pen, business cards, medications, you name it, lived in there, and people got used to seeing me carry it. It usually stayed in the car when shopping, with my wallet in my back pocket, but anywhere else it was always with me. I called it my camera bag or PowerPurse depending on the audience. Switching to a nice purse was effortless.
Stephanie
Looks like a high tech sporran
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I love my purse, no more filled pockets with keys, wallet etc. I now have somewhere to keep my phone, keys, pens. No trouble at all switching
Quote from: Gertrude on June 10, 2018, 03:59:37 PM
Looks like a high tech sporran
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I like it! And I could have worn a kilt with it, too!
It could actually be worn as a belt pack, with the shoulder strap, or carried with its built in handle. And that cordura was extremely tough. I'll bet I carried it for 15 years.
Stephanie
Quote from: Steph2.0 on June 10, 2018, 04:07:46 PM
I like it! And I could have worn a kilt with it, too!
It could actually be worn as a belt pack, with the shoulder strap, or carried with its built in handle. And that cordura was extremely tough. I'll bet I carried it for 15 years.
Stephanie
I have 4 kilts and a couple sporrans. Yours looks roomy. I belong to a couple kilt groups and I have to wonder if some are closeted trans folks. A lot of the guys do find the kilt superior to pants. Imagine if they tried dresses.
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Even though I'm half Scottish, I didnae ever wear a kilt or sporran.
However, I don't know how I ever did without a purse. It's been totally natural since day one. Oh, I've forgotten it a time or two, early on, but I caught on pretty quickly.
I don't know how my wife has such trouble loading and unloading hers. I always have the same stuff in mine: wallet, change purse, cell phone, glasses, pen, pocket knife, lipstick, Kleenex, mirror, keys. I keep it loaded, so when I have to go out, I just grab it and I'm ready to go. If I change purses, everything gets moved at once.
My biggest problem is the car keys disappearing in there, if I forget to drop them in the side pocket I sometimes have to do a dump. And where's that darn lipstick?
Leslie
I think I'd actually really like using a purse, I hate having to carry stuff in my pockets, it's so uncomfortable. I'm known to just dump the contents of my pockets onto the table if I'm going to be sitting somewhere long enough.
On the other hand, I have a tendency to forget about any bags I'm carrying with me if I don't have my hands on them at all times. I once walked away from my luggage while I was in the Mexico City airport >.<. Luckily, it was still there when I went back a few minutes later.
Quote from: Leslie601 on June 10, 2018, 07:38:53 PM
My biggest problem is the car keys disappearing in there, if I forget to drop them in the side pocket I sometimes have to do a dump. And where's that darn lipstick?
Leslie
The Bitchhaul 3000 comes with a handy snap ring that keeps your
keys and unicorns right where you need them...and it's a happy bag. ;D
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Quote from: Dena on June 10, 2018, 02:53:49 PM
There are several ways to keep your wallet with you. First, don't buy a slick wallet and possibly go for a tooled one. If the pockets permit, put the wallet in your pocket sideways. Put it in your front pants pocket and last but not least, if your wearing a suit, put it in the inside suit pocket. The inside suit pocket has the additional advantage that pick pockets don't like it. To remove your wallet from there they have to face you and they might be identified latter.
My SO gave me a tooled leather wallet, so that's one. Its pretty big, so putting it in sideways might take some getting used to. I'm still switching from female jeans to men's pants, so putting it in a front pocket's going to take some getting used to.
When I wear a suit, I usually put it in a inside pocket, so that's a no-brainer. And anyone that gets
that close to me is either going to get a hug or a punch in the nose! ;)
Ryuichi
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on June 11, 2018, 12:55:24 AM
My SO gave me a tooled leather wallet, so that's one. Its pretty big, so putting it in sideways might take some getting used to. I'm still switching from female jeans to men's pants, so putting it in a front pocket's going to take some getting used to.
When I wear a suit, I usually put it in a inside pocket, so that's a no-brainer. And anyone that gets that close to me is either going to get a hug or a punch in the nose! ;)
Ryuichi
I thought of one more that I never used. Sometimes in the military they put it in the top of their sock. The reason is if they go through inspection, they may get called out for a bulge in their pants. By putting it in their sock, loose pants legs will cover it up. This probably won't work with skinny jeans or other pants with a similar cut.
Quote from: Dena on June 11, 2018, 01:11:03 AM
I thought of one more that I never used. Sometimes in the military they put it in the top of their sock. The reason is if they go through inspection, they may get called out for a bulge in their pants. By putting it in their sock, loose pants legs will cover it up. This probably won't work with skinny jeans or other pants with a similar cut.
Nope, don't think that'll work for me. Skinny jeans are practically
all I wear! ;) I'm
so glad that they've come back into style, Seeing a good looking guy in skinny jeans makes my day! ;D
Ryuichi
As a tomboy/punk...idk about purses unless I'm getting dressed up in something fancy or gothic. I'll probably go with a ripped-up backpack instead. I think I'll decorate it with some pins and chains and maybe a couple of cute little plushies. I like DIY stuff so even if I use a purse I'll probably modify it so it looks unique.
I uh, don't really do either, but now I have a mixture, wristlets!
As a man, I sometimes got wallets, and they worked I guess, but I never really liked them or what not. Then what I had which was perfect(and I actually still use within my wristlet, somewhat) is a phone case that looks like gameboy and has slots for cards as well as a see-through slot for driver's license. It's served me faithfully.
I told me wife early on, I couldn't see myself with a purse, I think maybe, eventually, but I would have to pass much better first, I feel. So, right now the wristlet is great, it's bigger than a wallet, definitely more feminine, and I don't need to adjust it or things like that.
I mostly only get to dress femme when I am working, and when I work I am bending down and reaching for in-store products basically every 5 seconds. It would be an absolute nightmare having to adjust my purse every single time I bend down >.<
When I first started to carry one I swore I wouldn't become one of those ladies that has an entire department store on her shoulder. Not quite there but I have noticed it getting heavier lately.
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How do you actually carry a wristlet around? It looks you have to actually hold it in your hand, which seems inconvenient ???.
Quote from: Lucca on June 11, 2018, 07:47:43 AM
How do you actually carry a wristlet around? It looks you have to actually hold it in your hand, which seems inconvenient ???.
(https://i.imgur.com/Iti6H9w.jpg)
Quote from: Devlyn on June 10, 2018, 08:54:50 PM
The Bitchhaul 3000 comes with a handy snap ring that keeps your
keys and unicorns right where you need them...and it's a happy bag. ;D
(https://www.susans.org/forums/gallery/0/59100-100618205047.jpeg)
How on earth do you get your stuff in that little bag? I need more space for the essentials. Where do you keep your 6 Db rain attenuator? And my car key ALWAYS goes in the side pocket. Finding the lipstick? Well, there we have a true task.
In guy mode I have to have something anyway, so using a purse (or carry sack) is just natural.
Quote from: Eryn T on June 11, 2018, 08:07:24 AM
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Wouldn't that slide off your hand?
Work is an interesting challenge. Initially, I kept my purse with me at all times until I noticed cis-women do not. Even going to lunch, they either just take a wallet (which by itself is usually pretty big) or they only take the phone and a credit card. Many have a flip phone case which can hold one or two cards as well.
I did notice women taking their purse to the bathroom more often than to the cafeteria. Which makes sense. You need all the makeup and hygiene articles. During the workday, the purse is usually tucked away in a drawer under their desk.
I did adjust my purse habits. The bathroom is so-so, I use long-lasting smudge proof lipstick and I am a bit lazy about refreshing it during the day. There is usually still enough on my lips at the end of the day. If I do freshen my makeup, I do take the purse. Or just the lipstick.
Quote from: Eryn T on June 11, 2018, 06:32:36 AM
I mostly only get to dress femme when I am working, and when I work I am bending down and reaching for in-store products basically every 5 seconds. It would be an absolute nightmare having to adjust my purse every single time I bend down >.<
Quote from: sarah1972 on June 11, 2018, 11:15:02 AM
Work is an interesting challenge. Initially, I kept my purse with me at all times until I noticed cis-women do not. Even going to lunch, they either just take a wallet (which by itself is usually pretty big) or they only take the phone and a credit card. Many have a flip phone case which can hold one or two cards as well.
I did notice women taking their purse to the bathroom more often than to the cafeteria. Which makes sense. You need all the makeup and hygiene articles. During the workday, the purse is usually tucked away in a drawer under their desk.
I did adjust my purse habits. The bathroom is so-so, I use long-lasting smudge proof lipstick and I am a bit lazy about refreshing it during the day. There is usually still enough on my lips at the end of the day. If I do freshen my makeup, I do take the purse. Or just the lipstick.
To be fair, it also depends on what I am wearing... Sometimes I do need a purse.
Quote from: Eryn T on June 11, 2018, 06:32:36 AM
I mostly only get to dress femme when I am working, and when I work I am bending down and reaching for in-store products basically every 5 seconds. It would be an absolute nightmare having to adjust my purse every single time I bend down >.<
This was confusing till I realized that you call a HANDBAG a purse, a purse for me is the small one I keep my money and cards in that goes in my handbag, just bought a new bag for every day as the Mary Poppins one that Mum gave me has succumbed to 16 months of abuse and it was well worn to start with. Found a carry all 4000.1 at the market last week , has phone , lipstick and pen holders so don't have to rummage in the bottom for stuff. black leather with white stitching and loads of spare space and to answer the original question I never had a problem switching as it was right in my past life brain.
I immediately loved having a purse😊
Quote from: Ryuichi13 on June 10, 2018, 02:36:11 PM
Can a guy chime in here?
I'm having some trouble getting used to using a wallet. I've dropped it on the floor of public bathrooms before. but then I remembered hearing that some guys when they need to sit down actually put their wallet/phone in their underwear, that way it doesn't hit the nasty floor. I started doing that, and they don't hit the nasty floor anymore.
Maybe the thread should be "getting used to a purse/wallet? ;D
Ryuichi
Just don't let your wallet get overloaded; one time when I was playing poker at a local casino, a gentleman pulled out his wallet to buy some chips, and his wallet was bulging from all of the paper, business cards, etc., so I couldn' resist asking "sir, is that a briefcase or a wallet?" 😀
There's nothing wrong with not doing well with a purse. I personally have a hard time managing without one but everyone is different! Thank gawd we are! Purses come in so many different types too. Here's a few of my favorites.(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/27260c76504dd87e4a6dcc7e910f2a06.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/3720c8e9b6783bf1f642b43f345352d9.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/1f7db738cb5297e69f41da66402781a2.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/fd6f1058e386c3db59bbea5a2d1f1749.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/604e6d855a55feac4ad70f9534b5c6d1.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180612/f8799d28028844b6201cc94d2ff82917.jpg)
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Hello Mari P, welcome to Susan's!
Purses and handbags... took me awhile to figure it out. The funny part is I had GCS before I tried carrying a purse. After an awkward week I discovered these things are quite handy and now I can't imagine going anywhere without it. (The purse, not just the surgery.)
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Kendra
I was taught by an expert...imagine the scene in Mary Poppins when she is unpacking her bag right at the beginning...my handbag is a little bit like that...I love it [emoji7]
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Quote from: Steph2.0 on June 10, 2018, 03:55:55 PM
Absolutely no problem. Until the day I went full-time this was my constant companion.
(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180610/d7754dcab3506a68755048adf8f4671c.jpg)
Phone, iPad Mini, flashlight, pen, business cards, medications, you name it, lived in there, and people got used to seeing me carry it. It usually stayed in the car when shopping, with my wallet in my back pocket, but anywhere else it was always with me. I called it my camera bag or PowerPurse depending on the audience. Switching to a nice purse was effortless.
Stephanie
I have long been a supporter of the fanny pack. This is very much the signature look of the traveling professional wrestler as I use to be. :-)
I have carried a purse since day one of going full time. What a pain it was for the first 3 or so months, now 1.5 years post transition and 6 months post GCS I can't live without one. I carry wallet, phone, some make up, a Sig Sauer P938 3 spare magazines and a Spyderco Harpy. I carry a Glaco Pandora bag (the name is so fitting)
I use to carry keys a wallet and a belt holster prior. Now it's a purse and not many bifurcated outfits. I wear Jeans in the woods, shorts while trail hiking or at the beach.
When all else fails do like my mom did. Stick my money in my bra. >:-)
A bit of a necro, but I just wanted to say, people can change(as I'm sure you're all very aware of! lol)
I am still really anti-purse, but I'm getting warmed-up to the idea thanks to this hybrid purse/wristlet, and I only use it as a purse.
Wife found it at a Hot Topic in the outlets in Gettysburg and I just fell in love!
(https://i.imgur.com/c4kHEnR.jpg)
I've been avoiding carrying a purse the whole time. Instead, I wear a cute little hippie fanny pack.
A small backpack works for me. :0
Since I started using a purse, I haven't lost a bill or misplaced my property deed.
I have not carried a wallet in my back pants pocket for almost 2 years... it is great having a purse or handbag... all the things we need can be put in there for safe keeping.... my bra is good for temporary storage of paper money and credit cards.....
...and just like
@DawnOday stated:
"Since I started using a purse, I haven't lost a bill or misplaced my property deed."I could never go back to not having a purse or handbag.... never!!!!
Hugs,
Danielle
Quote from: Daisy Jane on July 15, 2018, 08:36:23 AM
cute little hippie fanny pack.
Five words that should never be used together. In fact, it was fine for the first three words...
:-)
Kate
Quote from: gingerViktorKay on July 15, 2018, 02:28:15 PM
A small backpack works for me. :0
+1
I HATE having anything in my pockets and always have. So, I have carried a small backpack for 45 years. In boy mode, sometimes people would comment on my "purse." "Yep," was always my response, "You should try it!"
Personally, I can't imagine being limited to only that which I can squeeze into my pockets...
I started with a small shoulder bag, progressed to a bigger shoulder bag then to the larger across the arm style and have gone further again and back to a cross body shoulder bag larger than the one I currently have. I really don't know how I did without it...mind you, having no pockets kind of forces you to start carry stuff and then you want your hands free, then suddenly there is a packet of tissues, then a hairbrush, then some hand sanitizer all suddenly appear at the bottom of your bag .......then its full again and I can't find anything in a hurry. So I guess in answer to your question. No, I have no problems getting used to a purse LOL ;D
The only problem I have with my hand bags, purses and pocket books is that they always catch on my long hair. Then there is also the problem of where to store them at home because I have several different colors and styles to go with my different outfits. Yeah, I'm a girly girl! LOL
Quote from: Violet on July 19, 2018, 01:40:30 AM
The only problem I have with my hand bags, purses and pocket books is that they always catch on my long hair. Then there is also the problem of where to store them at home because I have several different colors and styles to go with my different outfits. Yeah, I'm a girly girl! LOL
Ummm. Do the words, "First World Problems" ever come to your mind?
I think I would love to have your problems with purses... ;D
Katie
Margaret. You got me as Sig Sauer. Of course, what else would you accessorize with? How is Nanci doing. I have an appointment with her next week. I hope she is finding some relief.
I haven't started transitioning, and currently I wear cargo shorts despite all the recent ridicule those have started getting. I feel like I won't have much trouble getting used to carrying a bag, considering I already know I could use the space. I'll probably have a basic little canvas thing or whatever. I'm well in touch with my feminine side, and it's a pretty trashy little thing. As long as I can put pins on my bag and money inside it, I'll be happy.
I have a small, plain cross-body bag I have used a few times. It is surprising how significant a gender marker it is. It definitely makes me put my big girl pants on. Helps a bit to kind of flip it to the back so the strap is all that you really see initially. Surprisingly, I have discovered I should have gotten a bigger bag. If I put my glasses in it, they swallow it up like shoes do a suitcase. But compared to pockets, it's quite roomy.
Thanks Katie! My long hair will be glad when the weather cools down! LOL
Quote from: KatieP on July 19, 2018, 04:46:15 PM
Ummm. Do the words, "First World Problems" ever come to your mind?
I think I would love to have your problems with purses... ;D
Katie