So what is everyone's purpose here with sex? Are you all interested in sex for the purpose of procreation, or does someone else have another agenda in mind like I do? Something far more out of the scopes of conscious understanding by the average individual.
By the way, this is a more sophisticated, intellectual topic. For you kiddies out there, viewer discretion is advised. This is something I'd rather have answered publicly, because I want a larger than P2P audience of answers to collect a larger base of data to further my understanding of this particular philosophy.
I won't get too far into details and specifics for the sake of keeping this topic public friendly, and will also not drag it out for very long. This is why I asked a basic question, because even basic answers are important to further my understanding.
"64% of unsurveyed people say they would never take part in a survey and if they did, would give false answers to sabotage the results." If you answer, please; no memes, no jokes, just honest answers. Don't sabotage my results! If you don't answer, then oh wells. I wasted 1 minute of my life asking a question. It's not the end of the world for me.
I will now proceed to copy and paste these segments across other platforms to get a larger collection of answers.
Intimacy (sex) creates powerful bonds between partners and keeps those bonds stronger and deeper throughout the relationship.
The orgasmic state, if done right, Can generate amazing energy and open up other realms. Partners may be optional for this, but in my experience, the right partner is better than solo practice.
The mix of chemicals and hormones released are very beneficial to the body, keeping it youthful and healthier.
Keeping shame out of the process, it connects you more deeply with yourself and creates amazing healing.
It is sacred connection to the divine.
Why not? It feels better than most anything else, is free, is fun, has few side effects, and literally gives color to the world and makes you more vibrant and alive.
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Honestly, there's no need to sugar-coat it: sex feels good. That's all the reason I need.
Very personal and NSFW:
Short answer, personal pleasure and to explore my feelings and sexuality.
I have always been very habitual with my sexuality. It started in high school and continues to now (almost 10 years geez.) I never had sex until college so going solo was my only way to exlore myself. In college I started having sex with other people and exploring alternative ways to engage myself like toys and fantasy porn. It was in this more environment that I came to understand I was a woman sexually, which allowed me to look at the other signs and figure out I was transgender.
Nowadays it is mostly for engaging with my girlfriend and stopping atrophy. But I still enjoy it immensely.
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I'm getting old. I can't remember. I think it was a way to validate the purchase of alcohol. >:-)
It's been a while... ;)
I was all set to type a response, but Michaela said what I was going to say, and said it better than I could. The only thing I would add is that procreation was never on my agenda.
Loving these answers so far. They are helping me with some fascinating realizations, and validating my beliefs. Would love to see more responses. Thank you to everyone that replied.
I've not had sex for 7 years or so. It feels wrong. I have bad dysphoria during sex. Don't want anyone touch me anywhere besides my back.
I have had sex. Atleast twice. I have two kiddos, who are now teenagers. ;)
I used to have sex, but due to dysphoria I felt awful. I decided to listen to my soul and not do things that make me feel bad.
Who knows, maybe sex will be a thing after T and operations.
Tony
To experience someone (more profoundly).
Can't put it any more eloquently I'm afraid. I'm not going to do it for its own sake, or have kids. It tends to naturally happen with a strong enough connection to someone and a mutual interest in each other. I'm not 'polyamorous', though. I suppose it's just an organic progression of intense bonds with a particular person.
Quote from: 4A-GZE on July 08, 2018, 12:43:04 PM
Honestly, there's no need to sugar-coat it: sex feels good. That's all the reason I need.
This sounds like a call for me ;)
But seriously I am a Virgin and only plan to have sex after surgery
There's generally complex motivations involved for me :) but mainly, it's just fun, and I like feeling close to someone I like/care for. The intimacy is important to me, and it makes me feel good about myself when the other person enjoys it. I think most of us on here are trans, so it's probably safe to say very few of us ever have sex to procreate.
Because it was what was expected of me earlier. It always made me cognitively dissonant, but like most things the pleasure/pain boundary was blurred. As my dysphoria has worsened and I've realised that it makes me dysphoric my "desire" has plummeted. (And that's why I'm a querie, dearie ;) )
So now, my focus is on my partner and their needs. It is entirely about them.
Rowan
Because I love the euphoria it gives me. If I could be a lesbian then I would be your perfect partner. I just wish sex wasn't so lonely right now. That's the downside of having an understanding partner. The best bit is I never say no to myself[emoji106].
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My partner and I enjoy playing with eachother's naughty bits.
Great pleasure for free.
Quote from: DawnOday on July 08, 2018, 04:34:10 PM
I'm getting old. I can't remember. I think it was a way to validate the purchase of alcohol. >:-)
A much better response than "lets get drunk and screw"
touche'
Spellcheck tried to change it to douche
But seriously, as a demi sexual, sex gets complicated. I need the long term relationship / bonding which unfortunately for all parties becomes a problem as it drags out for too long. By the time I am comfortable with the notion of sex my potential partner has put me in the "just friends" category. Kind of ends before it can begin.
On the other hand, my femme fantasies are intensely graphic and hedonistic.
May be worth a chat with my therapist on this dissonance.
Quote from: poliq on July 24, 2018, 10:54:59 PM
only pleasure nothing more
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My reasons have changed over time. When I was a teenager I had sex because it felt good. In my early 20's I did not have as much sex as a probably should have, because I could not find anyone. I'm not into one night stands.
I always wanted at least one child so I found a gal, married her, and had a child.
years later...
I came out as transgender and although I still like sex, I am more interested in actually transitioning and finding someone. Sex isn't at the forefront of my mind anymore.
I don't. It's not a lack of interest, I'm just to absorbed in what's going on in my head to even think about finding a partner.
Quote from: 4A-GZE on July 08, 2018, 12:43:04 PM
Honestly, there's no need to sugar-coat it: sex feels good. That's all the reason I need.
pretty much this.
I have sex because I am bored. :)
Nah, it feels good, but currently (the last IDK how many years) I only have sex with me, myself and my toys. Does that count?
I dont
I cant even feel my genitals during sex and dont even remotely come close to an orgasm.
Quote from: 4A-GZE on July 08, 2018, 12:43:04 PM
Honestly, there's no need to sugar-coat it: sex feels good. That's all the reason I need.
Whut she said :-)
Also whut Mikaela said.
I'd add that sex was OK for me even with dysphoria. As long as I've been transitioning (socially, spiritually for 20 years, medically for 2.5 years) sex was where I felt most feminine, where I had the most joy. Since GCS that's even more true.
I have demisexual tendencies, I need to have a strong bond or connection to the person to actually really enjoy it. At that point I find sex very satisfying physically and emotionally. It creates a stronger bond between me and my partner - which these days is my wife. The few one night stands I had in the past seem very similar to masturbation - something I do out of primal desire to just relieve tension for a small amount of pleasure in return.
Sonja.
My purposes for having sex have never been procreation, but are for:
-pleasure, both physical and psychological
-fun, as in it can be exciting and a bit of an adventure, also playful
-bonding with other people, not necessarily in a romantic sense, but it can also strengthen friendships, and create friendships
It can also have kinda therapeutic purposes for me, as in it helping me understanding myself and my body better, in a non-judgemental way, and helping me learn to just listen to my body without arguing with it. Like a tool to find deeper self-love. It helped me realise I didn't actually want SRS which was also the first sign of me realising I'm not actually trans, and then it also helped me trust my body a lot more when I discovered my back door and its possibilities.
That's the positive aspects of it. The negative aspects are:
-an endless need for control, and for losing control
-not being able to make it through one day without an orgasm
-subconsciously trying to heal everything with sex, like emotional wounds, and using it as an escape mechanism or distraction for anything and everything
My first encounter with anything sexual was abusive, and then masturbation at age 9 which I quickly got addicted to. Sex with other people first started happening at age 17, and I'm 29 now. During that time I've experienced the truly horrible and longterm damaging aspects of it, as well as the truly amazing and unimaginably sensational aspects of it, as well as a lot of the greyscale in between.
I've had longterm partners before, and between relationships I tend to have casual sex mostly with strangers, but also a few friends and acquaintances. Everyone included it's up at 18 people now, and still counting. I'm currently single, but sometimes hook up with strangers from online. I don't need an emotional connection to enjoy it, but just some kind of connection. It does not matter what they look like, or their age, as long as they're legal and sane. Right now, in my detransition, having sex as a woman again has proved to be very fulfilling and comforting for me, which is a very pleasant surprise.
It's the best when mutually in love, but then love simply doesn't grow on trees, so I settle for mutually wanting, cause that's good too. I'm a bit hypersexual, and traumatised, but I'm trying to make the best of it.
I have to agree Sadie. When a man makes love to me, that is when I feel extremely feminine. 😍