So I've been on hormones now for about 3 months and I am starting to see some changes. However I feel like I'm still never going to look attractive like I want. I work in the firearms industry and own my own my own company so it's hard for me to figure out when to truly go full time. I am seriously starting to feel like I won't get the results I desire and its very discouraging. I just had back surgery to so I am just really struggling finding the real me. I'm scared that I will start to feminize but still look really masculine and it causes issues in my industry. Any advice would be good thanks ladies!
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Give it still 3 to 9 months. That 3 month point was a mark also, where I was really desperate, that nothing will happen. But then suddenly, after few months from that, I started to see improvement, even with my critical eyes :)
And at about 7 to 8 month mark, Im quite happy how things are developing.
Growth spurts happen at different times too. Im having one a year into hrt. Things still happen. As for when to go full time, only you can answer that. I've been easing into it. I'm adding heels next week, but I've already done ladies jeans, jackets, shoes, earrings, makeup and lipstick. Nobody cares where I work. When the hr email finally goes out the collective response will be, "duh". Still though, I know the stress. Some people want to flip a switch to go full time. For me easing in was better for my own sanity.
Bari Jo
Takes a while. You have to either give it time, or seek surgical intervention for faster results. It's a terribly slow process when you want it badly. Best advise is to concentrate on healing from surgery, voice training, hair removal, and your firearms goals. The time will pass faster, and you'll be surprised at the body changes that occurred when you weren't looking.
Quote from: Harley Quinn on July 11, 2018, 06:41:32 PM
...and your firearms goals.
I'm hoping to reach an M2 Browning. If I can't get there on my own, I'll consider surgery.
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The hardest thing is to believe. To believe that despite all the evidence that the change will come and that you will become whole. At three months the change isn't much more than a promise. A bit softer skin? Maybe growth nodules under your nipples?
But it takes patience and courage. If you haven't begun Laser or electrolysis start now! I'm almost seven years on HRT and a year and a half post op. I still do a couple of hours of electrolysis every week. I kid you not, dispensing with a beard is the longest and most expensive part of the process for some of us. Get started sooner rather than later.
At one year you will begin to see her most of the time. But I still did not believe. At two years many of us (if we haven't already done so) cast off the old persona and begin to live authentically. I still didn't really believe.
As time goes by, he fades, she blossoms, and belief begins. There will come a point when he has dissipated into the ether. Not banished, not denied, simply faded like an old shirt that we no longer wear. As I began to know in my gut that I was simply who I am without fear and unafraid of consequence, then I began to grow spiritually into womanhood.
You are fortunate to have your own business. I hope for you that you're transition is not too hard. I lost a lot, but I would have done this for myself even if the cost had been all that I have. Polonius advises, "This above all: to thine ownself be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to anyone." Polonius was right.
Good luck and Peace,
Julie
As everyone else has said, 3 months ain't squat. Many stay stealth for a year or two, waiting until they get "male fail" before going full time. Try not to be distressed about it. It's basically a gradual process.
@JB_Girl , your post was very helpful to read and well written. I hope it's helpful to OP, but it certainly was useful and uplifting for me as someone who has been on HRT for five months and struggling with similar feelings. Thank you!
Quote from: SammyHatesGreenEggs on July 16, 2018, 06:18:15 PM
@JB_Girl , your post was very helpful to read and well written. I hope it's helpful to OP, but it certainly was useful and uplifting for me as someone who has been on HRT for five months and struggling with similar feelings. Thank you!
You're welcome,
The magic of transition is that it is transcendent of so many things that block us from our connection to everything that is. You are worthy of happiness and worthy of living fully. That is the promise and that is also the challenge. I'm grateful if I can be of help.
Namaste,
Julie